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If Friday night hits and it’s like the clock strikes “fck it” o’clock*…you’re not broken, lazy, or a hopeless weightloss cause. You’re just stuck in a weekend binge cycle you don’t even realize you’re setting up all week long.

In this episode, I break down:

• The #1 reason weekends are harder than weekdays (and it’s not willpower)
• Why being “good” all week backfires by Friday night
• Exactly what to do during the weekend so you’re not starting over every Monday feeling bloated, mad, and defeated

You’ll finally understand why you grab the wine, raid the pantry, and eat your way through a Netflix marathon—and how to stop it without giving up foods you love.

If you’re tired of feeling out of control every weekend, this episode is your lifeline.

🎧 Listen now and learn how to make weekends work for you—not against you.

Okay. Welcome back, everybody. Today, I wanna talk about something that I hear all the time, and that is women are saying, I'm doing everything right, and I'm still not losing weight. That is probably one of the number one things that y'all write into me when you've been listening to the podcast. So the second someone says that to me, I immediately think, I bet she is working really hard. But I also know after coaching thousands and thousands of women on how to lose weight that you probably have also got some overeating happening that you're not counting. So I believe you're working really hard.

I believe that you're trying your damnedest every damn day. But there's also some little things that probably are sliding underneath the radar and we've got to catch those or you're not gonna be able to lose weight. Because if you really are doing every single thing right and you aren't losing weight, then obviously something is off. Now a lot of women, when they ride in, they're telling me, it's my perimenopause. It's my metabolism.

And I am not saying that either one of those things aren't the problem. They might be the problem. But before we go into the blame game, here's what I want you to know.

I have helped thousands of women in peri and postmenopausal lose weight, and I have helped just as many of those who swear to the baby Jesus and the golden diaper that their metabolism must be broken after years and years and years of dieting. And what I've seen is that these things are rarely ever the case for why someone's not losing weight. Now I get this because I am fifty one, so don't be sitting there thinking I'm on some high horse acting like, you know, it's so easy in your fifties. No. I'm fifty one, and I'm watching my body change just like you. Mother Nature, she is fucking stomping all over me left and right. But what has not happened is I have not gained weight during this time.

It is because when I am tired, when I am moody from all the things, when I am achy, back when I used to have my periods and they were raging fucking beasts, making my cravings go out the window and stuff, all the fun shit that comes with being a woman, guess what I'm not doing?

I'm not eating over it. I'm not sitting around stuffing my face because I feel sorry for myself or I think that those things control me. Instead, I literally sit and think, I am in menopause, or I am on my period, or I have perimenopause because I've been through all of it now, and I'm going to lose weight. So what do I need to do in order to do that?

So the other thing that I don't do that I see a lot of y'all do is sit around with your girlfriends, swigging wine, talking about how hard it is to lose weight.

The thing that I notice the most is that women are sitting around thinking about all the reasons why they can't lose weight and not identifying the real reasons why it is hard.

And it usually has nothing to do with perimenopause, your period, your life, none of that shit. So today what I wanna talk about is what you need to look at when you are not making any progress in your weight loss because something's broken. But here's what I know. It is not you that's broken.

There is always almost I mean, I would say ninety nine percent of the time, there is some type of overeating that's happening during a course of thirty days that is flying underneath your radar that you're thinking shouldn't count, is not big enough, or that you're just easily forgetting because you're so focused on all the other bullshit things that you try overly hard to do.

So that's what we're gonna do today.

We're going to look at the things that are right underneath your nose that we can fix before we go down the rabbit hole of menopause, perimenopause, and period bullshit. Okay?

Because I don't want you giving up weight loss. I don't want you giving up another diet. I don't want you thinking you can't lose weight when you're diagnosing your lack of success with the wrong fucking problem.

So we're going to run a diagnostic on the things that you're doing and the things that you're not doing currently to lose weight. That's what we're going to do together today in this podcast. We're gonna check all the obvious shit step by step, and we're gonna figure out why you aren't losing weight or why you're stalled or why you might be fucking around with the same five pounds over and over again.

Now when you tell me I'm doing all the things, here's what I want you to know. I know that you're working hard. I am not dismissing this at all. I believe you.

So for example, I was coaching a novious woman the other day.

She was pissed off. She said, Corinne, I am doing all the things. I want you to look at my habit tracker so you can see how hard I'm working. She was determined.

She was gonna be my unicorn. She was gonna be the the the the special snowflake, the one percent that was gonna prove all things wrong. I'm gonna tell y'all right now, stop arguing to be in the one percent. Because if your metabolism really is broken, oh my god, you've gotta do so much shit to get that fixed.

You don't want those things to be the problem. You know what you want? You want the simple shit to be your problem. So let's make sure that we rule out ninety nine percent of the things that are happening so that you can lose weight.

Alright. So she's like, here's my habit tracker. Let's go over it. My god Corinne, I'm just working so hard. And here's what I see.

For five days, every single week, she was rock solid, y'all. I mean, she had her boxes checked. She she brought receipts. Like, I am on point.

Monday through Friday, girl, you can't touch me. She's following her plan. She's stopping at enough. She's drinking her water.

She's doing her sleep. She's doing all the shit that I teach y'all week after week in this podcast. But there was something crazy.

Saturday and Sunday, it's like she used Wideout. I'm like, the fuck? Why ain't we got any checkboxes on Saturday and Sunday? There was no checks, no plans. She, like, she had nothing reported.

She also had no clue if she was eating when she was hungry and stopping it enough. So I just asked her. I said, well, alright. This looks great. Monday through Friday, you are obviously in check. So what happens on Saturday and Sunday?

And she said, well, I usually plan two slices of pizza because you always tell us we can eat whatever we want and lose weight. So I do that, but it's so good. And I don't get anything fun during the week, so I end up having three. And then if people are having wine on Saturday night, I'm like, screw it. I'm gonna have some too, and then a little bit of wine sometimes turns into a few snacks. So I said, okay.

You are on plan, and you are using your basics Monday through Friday.

And then the weekends, you are not using your basics.

I just wanna make sure I understand. And she's like, well, I guess when you say it that way, yes. But that shouldn't matter. And I said, okay. But I just wanna know why aren't you using the basics on the weekend right now?

And that's when I found out that the weekends were filled with a lot of extra eating, pushing past enough, a snack or two here and there because everyone else was eating, some drinking that was turning into mindless fucking eating buzz type shit.

Basically, she was working really hard Monday through Friday, and then on the weekends, she was emotionally eating, but she wasn't accounting for it when she was thinking about weight loss.

Reason why this happens, why some of us will say, I'm working so hard and nothing is happening, is because our mind is designed to remember the hard stuff like a beast, and it will forget the little things unless you're actively looking for them.

That's why I have my women do something called the discovery worksheet inside of our, No BS Weight Loss Program. It is this simple one page set of questions that diagnosis why you either break your plan or why you might be overeating. So first what it does is it walks you through figuring out if the overeat was mindless or habit, which means if it's one of those two things, we just have to do something new to break the pattern.

But most of the time, it's going to fall into the emotional side, especially the further along you lose weight. Because when you first start, we clean up a lot of mindless and habit eating, and that will get off about twenty to thirty percent of the average woman's weight.

The other seventy to eighty percent of weight loss all happens on the emotional side.

So with the mindless and habit, we just got to break some patterns and establish some new habits. It's not hard to do.

But this discovery worksheet also tells us if the overeat was emotional. And then it helps you walk through which emotion drove the overeat and then examine some ways to fix what we call the root cause issue that's standing between you and losing weight. So let's say that you have a really negative self talk. Like, you have a lot of self talk that's negative. And you do this all day every day. And that could sound like you're worrying constantly about what other people think. You are reading into shit that ain't there.

Maybe you go down rabbit holes of what if scenarios. Like, you're constantly on some kind of anxiety edge.

And then because of that, you might be caving to sweets at night or salty foods or taking breaks on the weekend from your diet.

So when that type of eating is happening, you're taking a break from life. You're not taking a break technically from the diet. Food has just become the way that you shut down worry, that you shut down catastrophizing, that you're shutting down that loop that's wearing you out Monday through Friday. So when you're losing weight, I want you to remember this.

Your mind highlights all the hard work, and it will gloss over the ways you take care of yourself with food. And it's doing this as a way to protect you. Because I want you to think about this. If you aren't fixing the reasons why you emotionally eat, like over worrying, catastrophizing, being on edge, quickly getting overwhelmed, all those things, then your brain thinks, well, holy shit.

If I stop the overeating, I also lose the only way to feel better. I'm also losing the only way that I shut all that bullshit down. So let's talk about how you can do a beginner level diagnosis so that you're not quitting your diet thinking I'm working so hard and nothing's working. Now if you're a member of my No BS program, you've actually got a deep dive assessment that we give you, and it's found in your resources inside the membership site.

And that's gonna be a little bit better, quicker at diagnosing things that are stalling you out. So when you use it, if you are a member, I would take it to the weight loss coaches. So fill it out and either take it to them in the ask coaches portion of our website where you can submit things in written format and then have a back and forth conversation with your coach, or come to one of our live coaching calls with me or one of the other coaches, and we'll walk through it, and we will figure it out together.

And that will just make sure that you have the fastest way to figure out what's going on so you can just keep losing weight. Alright? So here's the first thing I would check if I'm diagnosing. I'm going to first check how often I'm eating when I'm physically hungry versus just eating. So look for times that you're eating because you think you should eat versus your body telling you it needs food. Times where you eat because you might not get this again. And then and then I want you to think about, is that even really true?

That's one of those thoughts I hear people say all the time, and I'm like, really? That doughnut? You're you will have no opportunity to ever have that doughnut ever again. Because we often save shit like that when in reality, we could get it pretty easy.

You could just drive to the doughnut shop and go get it yourself, but you've lumped that doughnut into the bad or off limits category in your mind. So that means you can get it again, but when Rhonda brings it in on a Wednesday morning for free doughnuts for everybody, in your mind, you're like, I can't get that because I would never give myself permission to walk into big o doughnuts and buy it myself because that would be bad. So we eat the free doughnut in the moment convincing ourselves, oh, I may never get this again. I'm like, no.

Wilted flour, that ain't the truth.

So there's lots of reasons why you could be eating when you're not hungry, and not all of them are gonna be bad. For example, I do something called practical eating, and that's something that I teach inside the program.

I really try to help my women see that there are a lot of gray areas in all this stuff so that they aren't beating themselves up for shit that's good for them. So practical eating, for example, is just eating when you know it's better to eat now even if you're not hungry because another chance won't come until way past hunger. So for example, I eat lunch really early on days that I have a lot of meetings. If I'm gonna have meetings from eleven until four o'clock in the afternoon, I'm not gonna eat breakfast at eight and be like, oh my gosh.

It's ten forty five and I'm not hungry. That means I can't eat. I'm gonna evaluate my day, take a look, and notice, oh, I won't get a chance to eat again until four or five o'clock today. So I'm gonna eat a smaller lunch now knowing my hunger window's gonna hit somewhere in there, and I would much rather eat a little bit, nourish my body knowing it is going to get truly hungry before four o'clock.

And then that way I will go into the evening not starved, not panic, not freaking out. So that is a, like, another way that I teach on listening to your body, and it's called practical eating. Again, there are so many little gray areas, and I can't cover them all in the podcast. If you're a member, we cover a lot of them. But just for all of you, you need to think about whether or not if you're eating when you're not hungry, if that is a gray area, or is this an excuse I'm making?

So pay attention to how often and why you eat when your body is say isn't saying, hey. I'm hungry, and I need you to send me something. Now I wanna warn you. You might find you only do this every now and then, and that's okay.

That's good, and it's something you could fix. It's likely an emotional eat that once you fix the reason underneath, you don't just lose weight, you actually feel more in control of food in your life. So you might not be blowing through hunger all the time, but every now and then you are. And we wanna make sure that we're finding all these little points because a lot of times, that's where people get caught up in stalls.

They're good most of the time, but they have these little things that now have thrown them into maintenance, and they ain't in maintenance yet. They wanna keep losing.

So they're now having to fine tune the little emotional eats. They don't have the big ones anymore, but they can't afford to just keep like, well it's kinda like if you were to break your leg, and it's like, well, fix most of the bones, but maybe leave my ankle wobbly.

I'll figure it out. Like, if we're we wanna fix all of it because then we just feel better and we can lose weight.

Now the next place to look is stopping at enough when you're actually eating. So of all the people I help, this one is the one that people gloss over the absolute most. This is the one that we forget because eating past enough is almost always emotional eating. I would I mean, if I had to venture a guess, I would say eighty percent of going past enough in my experience coaching women has been because it's emotional. Twenty percent of the time, it's just memento meeting, you forgot, you you're just kinda in a habit, but it's almost always emotional.

And since emotional eating is often the only way women are taking care of themselves, taking care of their needs, giving up eating past enough means I have to give up my only form of self care.

So here are some things to look for. Cleaning your plate because you don't like wasting food. Getting seconds because everyone else is still eating, and you don't wanna sit there missing out on all the fun that's being had around you. Noticing you're out enough, but you keep going because, well, it just tastes so fucking good.

That's a big one. It's not about the food tasting good. This one usually is driven from when a food tastes good, you feel relaxed. You feel pleasure, satisfaction, happiness, and it's probably the only time that day that you really got to feel that way.

The rest of the day was overwhelmed, busy, pushing yourself, challenging, worrying, anxiety. So it ain't the food tasting good that's making you keep eating.

It's like, oh my gosh. When I quit eating, I gotta go back to all my worry and all the bullshit of the day. So a lot of times, we keep eating fast enough to extend that period of relief.

And then another biggie is fuck it eating. If you eat a little bit past enough, like a bite or two, so many women blow those few bites so far out of proportion, and then they eat a lot, a lot more food in response to feeling like, well, I already screwed up. You know I ain't gonna be able to lose weight. I might as well get it out of my system.

Catastrophe thinking is a really big reason why so many women fuck it, eat, and blow past enough. Now the next thing we gotta diagnose is how often do you plan your food for the day and then follow your daily meal plan. Now I teach this concept inside No BS, and I've got some podcasts on it too if planning is newer to you. If you're not planning your food first thing in the morning, I promise you, you are making things harder on yourself every single day. For one, without planning your food, what like, what you're gonna eat for the day, you make yourself have to obsess over food all day long. You'll be thinking things like, what should I eat? I wonder what I should order.

A food plan made first thing in the morning just for today is the fastest way to cut food noise down by at least fifty percent in your brain each and every day. When your mind wants to think about food, guess what? If you've got a plan, you can just say, oh, wait. I already decided what I was going to eat. I don't have to obsess. I can just set this aside for now.

Which brings me to the other reason to do it.

It's a few less decisions that you have to make each day.

Women always tell me they just don't want to think anymore. I can't tell you how often I tell my husband, I don't wanna decide. I just want you to make the decision. I've made a thousand of them today. I don't really give a fuck what we do. And I just target over to him.

And I can't be the only one that ever feels that way.

And this is the truth. We can only make so many decisions in a day before our brains get tired. As the day wears on, you've made thousands and thousands of tiny decisions like what to wear in the morning. Do I turn left or do I go right to get around an accident? What should I say in this meeting? What shouldn't I say in this meeting? And a bunch of other shit.

Without a food plan, most women will see a pattern of doing good most of the day and then blowing it at night or on the weekend. And one reason is is they just don't have the energy left to make thoughtful decisions so they can make easy ones with what they're going to eat.

So spend some time looking at how often you're planning and then following your plan. I promise ninety five percent of the reasons why you aren't either making a plan or following it is again gonna be based in emotional reasons. Women will say, I don't like planning because then I can't eat what I want. What the fuck are you even talking about?

Seriously. I want you to even think about that. I'm making my own food plan, which means that means I won't be able to eat what I actually want. It's like, well, who the fuck's making the plan?

You are.

Put on the plan what you want to eat. Now you might have a lot of crazy ass food rules and stuff, but that's the purpose of the plan.

The purpose of the plan is to not only be able to plan foods you want, but to see that when you have resistance, when you say things that, like, you know, I won't get to plan what I want, then you get a trigger to question like, well, maybe I've got food rules I don't wanna follow anymore. Maybe the problem isn't the foods I choose. Maybe the problem is something else. Without a plan, we don't trigger all that curiosity. We don't trigger diagnose diagnosing. We don't trigger that stuff. So we don't wanna take the plan away for fear that we won't get to eat what we want.

We want to do is we want to start having a plan each day, and then we want to get good at either following it or understanding why we're not following it. We want to be looking at reasons why we don't eat with the version of you who first thing in the morning who had all your hopes, dreams, and goals in her mind said, you know what? I think you'll want this. I think this is what you really, really want.

Now having a plan and tracking how often you follow it is going to illuminate those food rules that you didn't even know you had that are probably working against you. And then eating off plan is gonna show you moments where life is too much.

And instead of just eating, you now have something telling you to look at your inner needs.

I think planning is one of the best ways that women can practice real self care.

From one, it helps you make sure that you are a well fed woman instead of a starved woman simply because you're busy. Often when I make my daily plan, it's literally the first time I'm seeing that if I don't pack a lunch or bring something with me, like when I'm traveling or whatever, that I'm gonna be risking getting hangry and ending the day with my fucking eating.

And a plan helps you see areas of your life where you're lacking self care for you. If you're always breaking your plans, then you have a clear signal that right now food is the only way you're solving for your own needs.

So when you break your plan, you get a chance to ask, I wonder why I wanted to eat. I wonder what I was trying to feel in that moment. I wonder what I was trying to get away from or to escape.

When you do this stuff and you run these diagnosis diagnostics, you learn so much about you and what you need and what you want and what you deserve and what you can start giving to yourself. Without them, you are left eating your face off, solving nothing, and feeling terrible because you can't lose weight.

Now the last one, and this is and this isn't everything that you need to be diagnosing, but like I said, these are the bare minimum things to look at. You need to diagnose your basic human needs. At the heart of eating, when you're hungry, stopping at enough, and planning, you have a set of basic human needs that need tracking and diagnosing.

It is one of my four basics for a reason. Because when your basic human needs are going unmet, they will drive you to overeat and break plans, and it will feel like you're losing control. It will feel like you can't stop yourself. It will feel like it's desperately needed, and it will feel like the only thing that makes you feel better.

So you want to do an inventory on how often you're getting plenty of sleep, getting plenty of water, getting plenty of breaks in your life even if it's just two to three minutes here and there, that you are getting plenty of help in life instead of trying to shoulder everything all by yourself out of guilt or feeling like you have to.

We also want to diagnose how often you're saying no you really saying no to things that you absolutely need to and diagnose how often you're saying yes to things that you really don't want to be doing. And then we want to diagnose our self talk. And probably the biggest one is we want to diagnose how much guilt free rest you're getting. Rest isn't sleeping or napping.

Rest is actually doing nothing except what you wanna do on purpose without guilt, and women need this. We are living in an age where women think that taking breaks and getting rest is lazy, selfish. It's, you should feel guilty, or it's wrong.

It's not. It's just a basic human need. So we're gonna have to reprogram that in you. Otherwise, you will be getting your break, but you'll notice your break is with a big ass bowl of popcorn because as you're eating, you don't feel guilty. If you're just sitting there trying to enjoy yourself, you feel guilty.

So a lot of my clients have a big problem with that, and it's why it's one of the things that we have to diagnose, and it's one of the basic human needs that often is flying under the radar that women are eating over and they don't even realize it's stalling their weight loss. So checking in with your basic human needs is really important and seeing why you are neglecting yourself could be the very thing that gets you losing weight again.

Because when your basic human needs aren't met, all the things that I teach you to lose weight are harder. When you are meeting your basic human needs, all the things I teach you to do lose weight suddenly feel very doable and get a lot easier.

So I want you to run a diagnosis rare regularly on your eating. And you're probably gonna find at least one or maybe all of these things that are like, oh gosh. When I really start looking at it, I do still have leaks. I still have holes in my weight loss attempts.

It's not that I'm not trying hard. It's just in these areas, I haven't addressed them yet. I am trying hard in all the other ways, and that's great if you can see them. It means you've got something to focus on instead of sitting around bitching, moaning, and whining that you can't lose weight.

So whatever you do, don't quit unless you have thoroughly examined your behaviors. I promise the devil is in these details. So just be honest, be thorough, be kind to yourself, don't judge yourself, and just tell the truth.

And that will help you lose the weight that you have been struggling with.