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For years, I thought I was doing everything right.

I cut sugar.

I ate clean.

I followed all the food rules and told myself I was being “good.”

But I still overate.

I still blew it at night.

I still had weekends where I said, “Fuck it,” and Monday mornings filled with guilt and shame.

So I did what most women do—I doubled down.

I ate even healthier, thinking that was the answer.

What I didn’t realize?

The problem was never the food.

It was how I was feeling.

I was tired. Overwhelmed. Stressed to the damn max.

And I was using food to feel better…even if it only worked for five minutes.

When I tried to “eat healthy” without dealing with my emotions, I took away the only thing that had ever comforted me.

No one tells you that part.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why “eating clean” might be keeping you from real progress
• How I finally realized I was using food to solve problems that had nothing to do with hunger
• The emotional blindspot most women miss—and what to do instead
• Why you don’t need more rules… you need relief

If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying so damn hard but still feel out of control around food, this one’s for you.

Alright. Welcome back everybody. So today I wanna talk about healthy eating. Now before you get up all up in your arms and all up in your feels, I wanna say that I'm not going to be talking about how healthy eating is the way you have to eat, and I'm also not gonna make it a bad thing.

I am just sick and tired of looking at the Instagram, the Facebook, the Internet universe, and listening to tons and tons of people having a very black and white description of what is healthy and what is not. So very often, when people come to me and they talk about, Corinne, I'm eating healthy. Most women I mean, let's just be honest. We don't even have a clue as to what eating healthy even means to us.

It's one of those phrases that I think that a lot of people use. I mean, I see my clients all the time saying, boo karen, I'm eating healthy. And I always wanna say, what the the fuck does that even mean to you?

I bet you if you ask ten women right now what healthy eating actually means, you would get ten very different answers, and every one of them would swear to God that that is what healthy means.

Now I am not surprised by this at all because science changes its mind on what the fuck we should be eating every day.

I mean, I just want you to think about it. Back in the nineties, if you were like me and a lot of your diet history started in the eighties and the nineties, we were told to go low fat. So we would eat a lot of fat free shit. We would be eating rice cakes like it was, like, you know, nobody's business sitting around gnawing on them like a sad little pigeon, or we were eating snack well cookies that were just jack loaded with sugar.

But back then, we're like, but this is what's healthy. Girl, we're not supposed to eat anything with fat in it. And I will be very transparent.

I have someone in my family who shall not be named, who every time they're talking about food and recipes, they will say, well, you know, this is fattening or this isn't fattening. And I'm like, oh my god. Welcome to the nineties. That is how we talked.

So what happened is that all of a sudden we discovered that, like, shit. When you remove fat, you lose your hair. Your joints ache. It's not that good for you.

Y'all, healthy fats are good for you. I'm just gonna say that.

We all know that healthy fats are good for you, so there we are. The reason why I'm on this tirade is because we have got to stop thinking that something that we learned ages ago still applies now. What we have to do is we have to really take a look at what healthy really means.

And I am just under the impression that most of us need to really reexamine what we call healthy because that could be low carb for somebody, high protein. It could be plant based. It could be a Mediterranean diet. It could be a Whole30.

It could mean clean eating. It can mean organic eating. It can mean going keto. It could mean a bajillion things.

It is very unclear in the world right now what healthy is. One person will tell you seed oils are terrible. Another person will tell you they ain't that bad. People will tell you sugar is the devil when a lot of people will say sugar ain't a problem.

And let me just say, my personal opinion is that there is nothing an in like, inherently bad for you. Like, if we're just talking straight dope losing weight, people throw around the term healthy like they are throwing dice at a crap craps table. Just throwing it out there without even thinking about it. If you wanna lose weight and that is like really all you wanna start with, it's just I just need to lose weight, I promise you the reason you're overweight has nothing to do with the foods you're eating.

Nothing to do with the foods you are eating.

I guarantee you it has everything to do with why you're eating.

If you're eating ding dongs because you're pissed at your husband and you're standing in the pantry chewing on him because you don't wanna chew him out, that ain't the ding dongs' goddamn problem as to why you have a weight issue. You know what the problem is? You won't go talk to Bubba and tell him why you're pissed.

You won't have the conversations in your life that you need to have. You're too busy standing in the pantry talking to a damn ding dong.

Now that's a problem. So I, granted, will tell everybody right now, I think if you ate ding dongs all day, you might not feel good. But if you only ate ding dongs when you were actually hungry and you stopped when you had enough, and you didn't eat ding dongs when you were mad at Bubba, and you didn't eat ding dongs every time somebody offered you one, and you didn't eat ding dongs every single time you were stressed out, You didn't eat ding dongs because you were tired. You didn't eat ding dongs because it was the weekend. You didn't eat ding dongs because you're lonely or bored or whatever. If you cut all that shit out, some ding dongs ain't gonna kill you.

Now with all that said, when it comes to losing weight, I wanna talk about why women get so fucked up about this. Because when somebody tells me, I've started eating healthy, healthy, my very first question to my clients is always, what does that mean to you?

Because nine times out of ten, they don't even really know. They've just absorbed so many diet rules over their life that they think they're eating healthy. So for some of my clients, it eating healthy is code for I've cut out all sugar.

Some of my clients, it means I don't eat bread as if bread is a problem. I don't know what the fuck we did a hundred years ago. We were all eating bread back then and we didn't have a weight problem.

And it it's because back then you couldn't afford to emotionally eat. I want y'all to think about this. When we villainized sugar, when we villainized bread, I remember in the two thousands having Facebook ads with a banana and a big red x over it because so many diets said bananas were a problem.

They spiked your sugar, so therefore, that is why you must be overweight. And I'm like, what the fuck are you even talking about? Back when I weighed two fifty, I guarantee you, I did not have a banana problem. It wasn't because I sat around all day long eating bananas like a monkey in the wild.

My problem was banana pudding after a bad day, a banana split because that was the only fun I ever had in my life, but it was not because I had a banana problem.

So when we think about healthy first, the first thing I want you all to think about is when I say healthy eating, I want you to think about what do I even think that means because it's not just one thing for most people. Usually, your definition of eating healthy is laced with, I don't eat these things because I'm afraid of them.

I have a lot of clients who will tell me that they don't eat bread because it's not healthy. And I'll be like, what has it been doing to you?

And they're like, well, it's not really doing anything to me, but when I eat one piece of bread, I end up eating four. I lose control. That's not a healthy issue. That doesn't mean bread is bad for you. That means we need to figure out why when you eat bread, you want to eat more than you need. In that moment, what's happening?

Because most of my clients, when they really figure out how to start diagnosing why they lose control around certain foods, it's never the foods. It's always because they have got conflicting diet rules. They have forbidden rules. They have all of this anxiety and angst around certain foods that the moment they get them, they immediately feel ashamed. And when they feel guilty or ashamed, guess what? They eat all of it to try to, quote, unquote get it out of their system, and then they try to eradicate it again. And then they get stuck in that loop.

So when you start eating healthy, very like, a lot of us, we start suddenly feeling like we've gotta go prove something. Like, we're not just eating a salad. To us, when we're eating a salad, it really deep down means, okay. I'm being good.

When we avoid cake and we cut sugar out of our life, deep down inside, we're telling ourselves, this is me being disciplined. Look at me. Oh my god. I'm so fucking disciplined.

And then we're proud of ourselves. And then let's say that you skip dinner or you skip breakfast because now you're a fastin' maniac. When you are following it, and your brain is like, this is me. Very committed.

So it's never about the technique or the actual food or whatever. Usually, the reason why we have such a bastardized relationship with eating healthy is because deep down we associate it with our morality.

This is who I am.

And then when I'm not doing that thing, if I end up eating bread, if I end up eating sugar, if I end up, you know, having breakfast because I'm actually hungry instead of fasting, now I'm not committed. Now I'm lazy.

Now I'm bad. That's why it's so hard.

So the second you do anything outside of following your healthy rules, your brain lights up with the guilt alarm. You feel like you've messed up. You feel like you're weak. You feel like you're a failure.

Because somewhere along the line, we stopped using food as a way to just nourish ourselves, to just take care of ourselves, to just give us energy, to make sure that we're pooping regularly, that we are living a long life, and we've started using it as a way to measure our own self worth.

And we've turned our foods, our healthy rules into a morality report card for ourselves. When we're eating healthy, guess what? We're being good. When we're doing anything unhealthy, guess what? We must suck.

And that's how the real problems start when it comes to trying to lose weight. Because if you've been dieting for decades, your brain already thinks it knows what's right when it comes to eating.

And the second you eat something that's outside of those righteous rules of yours, it doesn't just go like, I noticed you ate something different. I'm very curious as to why.

This doesn't mean anything wrong with you. This just must mean you were offered something and you must have wanted it. If our brain was all chill and professional and all of that, we would not have a problem. But here's what we do.

The second you eat something off plan, here's our brains. What the fuck did you just do? You just ruined everything. You are never gonna get this weight off. You are one hopeless, sad ass bitch.

Now all of that judgment and shame, that is not motivating. Guess what?

That is fuel for emotional eating. It is like throwing the gas on the fire of eating your face off at that point. So let me tell you what else happens. When you label foods as bad, your brain now stores that information as, okay.

The sugar is bad. Cake is bad. Bread is bad. Let's use bread. It's the women's universal sign of, we have an evil food that has now entered the building.

Everyone take cover. So we're gonna use bread. Alright?

Bread walks in the door, and you say, you're bad.

I just read articles from the nineties about how terrible you are. And through the two thousands, You know, they scared the shit out of us that we should never eat bread. You know that caveman never had a piece of bread in his life. So the brain says, okay. Thank you very much for the information. I now put you in the part of our resources as threats. You are in there with killers, murderers, hurricanes, tornadoes, devastating fires, robbers, and bread.

That is where bread now lives in your brain. It's in the same room with all of that stuff because brain, he kinda dumb. He lumps all threats, like, from a level ten threat to a level point one threat. They all have to convalesce in the same room.

So when real threats like poison, like, tornadoes and things come about, you're gonna want to be afraid of that stuff. You're gonna want to know that because your brain is going to need to protect you so that you don't get harmed, so you don't get sick.

So what happens with bread?

When a food is labeled bad, dirty, toxic, junk, anything like that, your brain does not know the difference between you drinking, strychnine and you eating a slice of bread at the Olive Garden.

So when your brain doesn't know the difference, it has to react to your bread with the exact same anxiety, panic, and disgust as it would if somebody was offering you some strychnine.

It's crazy, but that is the way the brain works. And it's so important for you to know because if you're gonna lose weight, you have to be able to distinguish between what is actually bad for you and what you have labeled as bad for you.

You eating true poison is bad for you. You having a slice of bread with your dinner is not toxic, bad, or whatever. You eating six slices of bread because you freak out over one and think you might not get it again because you've labeled it as a bad food, well, those six slices, yeah, might not be great for you.

It might be too much sugar in your system because it's six slices of bread. It might, help make you gain weight, not because you ate a piece of bread, but because you freaked out because your definition of bread is that it's toxic and bad. Therefore, you felt bad about you, and therefore, you ate freaking out.

This is something we have to have more discussions around if you're ever gonna lose weight.

So when you eat something off your healthy list, something that's not on your d like, your deeply seated healthy list, your brain will always flip the fuck out.

You don't just feel, like, okay that you ate some bread. You're gonna feel like a complete failure that you ate some bread.

You don't just think like, well, let's say that you had, four pieces of bread.

You don't think, well, that was a choice. You think, what the hell is wrong with me?

So I wanna be really clear that we have to understand that we're gonna have to deconstruct what you're thinking healthy is.

Because I guarantee you, most of you, your weight has nothing to do with the foods you choose.

It has everything to do with what you think about the foods, the ones you do eat and the ones you don't eat, Especially the ones that you keep trying to cut out of your life over and over and over again.

Because those foods, you are probably for the rest of your life gonna wanna have them.

And sometimes you're gonna be able to say no, and sometimes you're not.

And it's the times that you're not, you go into fuck it mode.

And that's the weight problem.

It's not because you have them sometimes. It's because when you do, you flip out when you have them, and you go into fuck it eating mode.

So your issue and I really want you to understand this, is that you it's not that you haven't found the right list of food rules yet.

Your issue really is emotional eating, and I wish every woman could really understand this. I wish every woman really understood you can have foods you enjoy and lose weight.

You can't fucking eat them.

You can't flip out and overeat them and lose weight.

You can't eat them when you feel bad and lose weight. You can't eat them when you just are giving up on life and lose weight. You can't eat them at night because you have no other way to unwind and you're not hungry and lose weight.

But if you're planning them every now and then because you just love them and you really savor and enjoy it and you really understand that that food is not harmful, in fact, it's better for you to have them occasionally when you can truly enjoy it. Have it when you're not having a bad day. I mean, I just want you to think about this. I love strawberry cake.

Strawberry cake tastes way better on a day when I plan it and I'm in a good mood where I can sit there and enjoy it. Knowing a strawberry cake isn't great, when I'm standing in the kitchen sneaking bites because now I'm I'm feeling guilty or I'm worried I'm gonna be seen. Having strawberry cake because I'm pissed off at my husband and I'm rage eating, I'm eating, and I'm thinking about why I'm pissed, that's not me enjoying cake.

I would much rather have a life where I'm eating the foods I enjoy when I'm really gonna enjoy them rather than eating foods I I take like, I enjoy the taste of in moments where I miss out on the entire experience because I got other shit going on.

So when we're emotionally eating and we're eating the foods that we keep saying are bad for us, the problem isn't the food.

It's because we eat them when we're bored, we eat them when we're tired, sad, pissed, overwhelmed, lonely, trying to relax, trying to feel better, or just trying to get through the day.

Healthy eating doesn't fix that.

In fact, it just makes things a lot worse because now food isn't just comfort. It now your foods that you eat during those times become forbidden comfort.

So it becomes even more tempting to want cake and bread and chips and salty ass shit.

It becomes more powerful.

We aren't just wanting a cookie anymore.

It's I'm not supposed to have cookies, but that is the only thing that ever helps me feel better.

That cookie, it now represents your only way to relax, your only way of self soothing, your only moment of relief.

And so when a cookie is bad, you're also saying, and I can't have all of those moments either. I don't get those. And eventually, we cave because our sadness, our lonely, our angry, all the reasons why we're eating, eventually, they outweigh our fear of doing it wrong.

Sometimes food feels like the only thing that's working in your life.

For a lot of us, I I have so many clients that will tell me, Corinne, the only pleasure I get in life is what I'm eating.

Like, if if I'm not eating these things, I have nothing else in life I'm really looking forward to. I'm just going day by day. I feel like nobody appreciates me. It's hard to get through life. I've got too much on my plate, and food becomes the most exciting, the most fun, the most pleasurable, and the most relaxing thing that you have.

And when a diet says, hey, bitch. You can't have bread. You can't have cookies. You can't have all the things you eat in order to make it through your life. You now just got somebody telling you, not only can you not have these foods, but every way that you get through life is now taken away. So now you just have to struggle, and that is a problem. That's what happens when we try to eat healthy without dealing with why am I needing these foods in the first place.

Because the problem isn't the cookie.

You can have a cookie if you plan to have a cookie, and you're just gonna sit there and you're gonna savor a cookie.

But you can't eat cookies every time you're exhausted.

You can't eat cookies every time your kids don't do their homework. You can't eat cookies every time you didn't say no to things and you're dreading doing it. That's not gonna work in weight loss.

That's not the cookies problem. We got to figure out the things that are driving the eating. Because if we fix the things driving you needing the cookies, you can eat whatever you want because now it will be easy to wait for hunger and stop it enough.

If food is your main form of comfort or getting through life or enjoying yourself or taking a break and you cut out all the foods you love that you've used during those times, you're you're gonna have a tough road. I'm telling you right now.

You're not just changing what you eat in those moments, you are changing your emotional support system. If cookies and stuff reflect the only way that you take care of yourself, you're not just cutting out those foods. And please, please, please take this away from this podcast. You are cutting out your only emotional support system, which means in order to lose weight, you've got to have a way for you to emotionally support yourself, not have other people.

You've got to figure out a way to emotionally support yourself so that food doesn't have to do the job for you.

Because when you lose weight, you're gonna go through life with the same stresses, the same exhaustion, the same feelings. We just have to figure out a way for you to be able to deal with those things in new ways.

And that's why so many of you are crashing and burning when you try to eat healthy. I don't want you feeling lazy anymore about it. I don't want you feeling bad anymore about it. I would love for no woman to ever tell me that the reason why they can't be consistent with eating healthy is it must be because I'm lazy. It must be because I don't want it bad enough. It must be because I'm addicted to sugar. That is some bull fucking shit.

The reason why is because you're trying to fix your emotional eating with some impossible to follow food rules instead of trying to fix your emotional eating by going back and figuring out what needs to change so that I can take care of things in the moment when it feels hard.

Cutting out your emotional support system, which means cutting out those foods, it just will not work.

I have watched so many people flame out. That is why people contact me because in no BS, I do not teach women what to eat.

I teach them why they eat, and I teach them how to figure out new ways to enjoy food, but also new ways to take care of themselves.

We solve the problems that are driving the overeating. We solve the problems for that. That way, when you start with me, you might start eating a little healthier, but it won't be because you think you can't have these foods. It'll be because you're now taking care of yourself in other ways that eating healthier doesn't feel like a chore anymore.

And when you eat healthier, you're just leveling up things because you want to, not because you think it's bad. And when you do eat a little bit healthier, guess like, adding fruits and stuff. Guess what? You don't feel like it's unfair. You don't feel like you're being deprived. You don't feel like you're being restricted. You don't sit around and think, like, everybody else gets two but me.

All of that noise goes away.

When food is your therapist, it's your break, your best friend, or your comfy blanket, that is not eating.

That's called coping, and we've got to stop coping with food.

So the problem isn't that we want comfort from food.

Okay? The problem is is when we comfort from food, it's the only thing we now give ourselves. And when healthy eating becomes all about just cutting out the very foods that give you comfort, then you are left with no type of support and no type of satisfaction in your life. And that is when we start binging. That is when we are overeating. That is when we are going into fuck it mode and just quitting diets and throwing everything to the side because food was never the problem. We weren't addicted.

We weren't out of control.

We were drowning.

And when we cut those foods out, we also gave up our lifeline.

If food is your lifeline, please do not beat yourself up because when you have a really bad day and you need to save yourself, you eat. Don't beat yourself up over that. That is not your fault.

This is why you need someone like me who can help you figure out why do you feel like you're drowning, what is going on in your life. Like so many of my women, one of the biggest reasons why they are emotional eaters is because they cannot say no to any fucking body. There's only one person in the world they can tell no to, themselves.

They can, every single day, say, like, no. You're not too tired. You need to keep going.

No. It's you you you're gonna have to make time for this. No. You don't get to do what you wanna do because your kids wanna do this.

No. You don't get to go to bed early because that would be selfish of you. You should be doing these things. We're really good at telling saying the word no. The problem is is we tell it to one person only ourselves.

And what I do is I help women see where are you saying no in life It's usually just to you. And now we gotta figure out where outside of our life can we safely say no. Where are there areas in life like, so many women will not tell people no, and they will tell me, Corinne, it's because I'm afraid that they'll get mad at me.

And they've never even thought it through with the person they're thinking of thinking like, does that person ever actually get mad at me? So for example, I was coaching somebody the other day and she was talking about work.

And she was like, well, you know, I just can't tell my boss no.

Like, I just have to take everything my boss says and just do it. And I said, really?

You work for a company that your boss wouldn't let you say, hey. I know how important this this project is to you, and I also have all of these other projects. Could you tell me if you want me to redirect my energy to this one, or how do you want me to prioritize all of this?

I was like, what would your boss say?

And she said, I think my boss would actually really like it if I said that.

And I said, well, so you don't technically have to say no.

You just have to tell your boss you need help with prioritizing so they can decide what matters to them. She's like, yeah. My boss would love that. That's what I'm talking about.

So often, we don't even think about it. I was coaching another woman one day. She was talking about her best friend. Her best friend was always asking her to do things, and she just always says yes, and then she shows up with all kinds of resentment.

But she puts on the happy face, and she's like, well, I can't tell my best friend no because she'd get mad at me.

And I said, how often does your best friend get mad at you? Well, never.

And I said, okay. Then why do you think she would get mad at you for saying no? She's like, well, I just think she would.

And I said, does she like you?

And she was like, yeah. We've known each other for, like, fifteen years. She adores me, and I adore her. I said, so, like, literally on a scale of one to ten, what are the odds that if you say, I don't wanna go to lunch that day.

I've got too I've got too much going on right now, but I really appreciate the offer.

On a scale of one to ten, what level of anger is she gonna be at? And she said, well, she wouldn't be mad. I guess she would be disappointed.

And I said, yeah. Why is that such a bad thing?

And she's like, well, I just don't wanna hurt her feelings. I said, do you think her feelings will be hurt? Or do you think she's gonna be disappointed because she would just like to really have lunch with you and it would be fun?

She's like, well, it's probably more that. And when we talked about it, she was like, you know what?

I really got a lot out of this conversation. I didn't realize how often I was actually assuming that my friend would think things that just isn't true.

And I think we all do that. So that's like the power of, like, when you are trying to lose weight. It is so important to go beyond what foods are good for you and what foods are bad for you.

It's so irrelevant in the overall discussion when we're just talking pure weight loss. When we are talking weight loss, we should be talking more about why are we eating.

Because, like, the girl that goes to lunch with her friend always blows her diet because she sits there and she's sitting there thinking, don't have time for this.

I wish I I wish I could have said no. And, of course, she's sitting there.

And in order to not be an asshole to her friend, what does she need to do? Shove endless breadsticks in her mouth.

She's not losing control around bread. Bread is no villain. Bread is not killing her.

What's really killing her is sitting around thinking a lot of nonsense.

What's really killing her is not thinking through all the reasons why she eats. That's what's killing her.

So when we talk about eating healthy, what we wanna do is we wanna realize is that you don't need to cut foods out of your diet in order to lose weight.

You need to get to the heart of foods that I tend to overeat, foods that I tend to lose control over, I need to start take a step back. And I need to ask myself, why do I have such a hard time around them?

These foods, when I'm eating them, what are they actually doing for me? Because it's not just the taste.

I want everybody, everybody losing weight, eating only foods they enjoy eating.

I do not want you eating shit you don't love, that you don't like.

That's not to say every meal has to be an orgasm, but the vast majority of your eating experience in life, you should really enjoy it.

And really enjoying it means you're not emotionally eating it. If you are emotionally eating it, it's coming from the right place. It's coming from, I planned this.

I've got my head right now is in such a good space where I can really savor and enjoy it.

I'm not gonna lose control over it because I know I can plan these foods anytime I want to just truly enjoy them.

These foods no longer represent taking care of me. They no longer resent represent the only way I relax and the only way I get through life.

These foods aren't bad for me.

These are the foods I want.

What's truly bad for me is eating these foods as a way to deal with my life.

Because if I'm eating food to try to get through my life, that means every single day I've not figured out how to make my life easier.

I'm keeping a hard outlook on my life. I'm keeping hard rules in my life and wondering why I can't be quote unquote good.

You deserve better than the diet industry has given you.

You deserve way more.

You deserve an approach to lose weight that includes real food, real ways to deal with your emotions, real ways to deal with what's going on in your life, real understanding on what's going on with your eating, not just what's on your plate. So I want to say this in conclusion when it comes to healthy eating.

I am not saying that if you are a type one diabetic that you don't need to cut out sugar.

When we are talking straight dope, physical conditions where certain foods really do fuck you up in such a way that a doctor has said, you really should cut these out. I can see it in your blood markers. I can see it, you know, ravaging your stomach lining. I can see these things. That's one thing.

We're not cutting out our emotional tool in that moment. We're literally gonna cut out something that is harming us.

But when people tell you to cut out foods because of some pseudoscience that's popular right now that, you know, might not be popular in five years, cutting out foods that you emotionally eat and you're calling them bad now because you emotionally eat them, cutting out the wrong thing. The food is not the problem. We need to cut out the cause of why you feel like that's the only solution available to you.

And a lot of you need help with that.

And that is what we do in No BS. That is what makes us different.

That is why you listen to this podcast.

You don't listen to this podcast because you need more food rules in your life.

You got plenty of them already. If you're over the age of thirty, you have an abundance of bullshit food rules to follow.

And if you've been trying to follow food rules most of your life, you need to come and you haven't lost your weight and kept it off.

That is the true litmus test.

Losing it and keeping it off.

Because if it comes back, it comes back with a vengeance because at some point this is always what happens. A lot of women get really good like keto. I can go keto or low carb for a while because I have so much shame and I have so much anxiety about being overweight that that is so painful that me having too much on my plate in life, me worrying about what other people are thinking doesn't outweigh the emotional pain I create for myself for being fat.

Then eventually, I lose just enough weight on it to where I don't have that pain anymore.

I'm not calling myself fat every day. I'm not thinking horrible things about me and my weight every day. But all that emotional pain that I didn't work on, that I just cut the foods out for, it just sat there.

It was the noise of being overweight drowned it out. Now that I don't have that noise, guess what? The reasons why I was eating to begin with are sitting there.

And when I have no more weight to lose and I haven't fixed those things, guess what?

Your brain will remind you, a little won't hurt.

You should have this.

And if the entire time you thought those foods were bad, the second you eat them, what happens?

Oh, God. Here we go.

You really screwed up. You know you shouldn't eat those.

And that's how we get trapped, and that's how we regain weight.

You deserve better.

You deserve to work on a life that you want to live.

You deserve to be investigating why you have so many food rules.

You deserve someone to help you work through.

Why is it when I can't why is it I can't talk to my spouse when I'm upset and I eat cookies instead?

What's going on there?

Because what do you want to solve? Not eating cookies and having a life filled where you can't even voice your needs to your spouse? Or do you want somebody to help you understand why you don't feel safe talking to your spouse right now? Why you're so worried about upsetting them. Is that even going to happen? You deserve someone to help you build a stronger relationship with your spouse so that you don't need to rage eat cookies anymore.

That is real weight loss.

That is what I want all of you to have. I don't want you to lose weight. I want you to lose weight so that you can feel as amazing as you deserve by cleaning up all the reasons why you're emotionally eating. And when you do that, then that weight won't come back just like it did for me.

Alright, everybody. Y'all have a good week, and I will see you next time.