I recently listened to a speaker who coached on problems.
He said…
There are no problems.
I know. You are like there a tons of problems. I have loads of them.
Not really.
You have decisions to make. Problems are where you sit and likely anguish with a decision to make. Often we sit a lot longer than needed.
When you spend time thinking you have a problem ask yourself…
“What decision am I willing to make right now?”
Or this one which I think is a very powerful question. So powerful that I want you to write it down and ask it the next time you have a problem.
“What decision am I AVOIDING making?”
Often we spin out in overwhelm when we just need to make a decision.
Am I eating off plan on vacation or not?
Do I have time to go the gym or not?
Am I going to stay mad or forgive?
Trust me. When I heard this I got so defensive because I could list my problems. So I did! I listed every problem I had.
I found a long list of decisions to make and a lot of things I was afraid to commit to.
I didn't have problems.
Try it. You might be surprised.
I can tell you this. I got super clear on things I needed to do and felt pretty amazing to have dropped a lot of BS overwhelm.
Let’s say you get fired. You think that’s a problem. You worry and stew, tell all your friends, cry, etc. It’s not a problem. Are you going to get a resume going or not? Are you going to look for jobs or not? Are you going to analyze your finances for the month or not?
The rest is just wasting time and emotional energy before you make decisions that actually effect your future.
Corinne, would you please elaborate on this a bit? Is there a podcast about this? It would help me to understand if I heard some examples of perceived problems and how they’re really just decisions that need to be made. Thanks!
Thank you! Exactly what I needed to hear:)