All right, welcome back.
So today I want to talk about what happens when you are taking a GLP-1 shot, or any of the shots for that matter, and what happens when you decide to come off and all of that food noise comes roaring back.
Now, this is important because if that food noise comes back, not only is it probably going to make you start eating again, but I think the real problem is that it's going to scare the shit out of you. And that's going to make it really hard to work on what the food noise has been trying to tell you about your life and all of those underlying needs that, you know, every woman has.
So unless you know why the food noise comes back and how to interpret it, or how to read it, then you're just going to end up what? Regaining all that fucking weight that you worked so hard to lose. And it'll be for one really simple reason: you think food noise is bad.
I think a lot of women think food noise is bad. And I'm here to tell you that is just not true.
Instead, I want you to think about it like this. Food noise is your mind's way of saying, girl, you need help with something.
And it started with food noise. Like, you got food noise originally because, at one point, when you ate, you got help in that moment. So the help came in the form of food.
Now, if you're like me, you have probably spent a lot of your life eating to have fun, eating to relax, to get away from stress, to avoid all the tough things going on in your life.
And most importantly, and this was the one I was really guilty of back in the day when I weighed 250, I used food to push myself through exhaustion in times where I felt like I really had no choice. I had to do it, and I had to keep going.
So you might be wondering, well, why are you talking about this, Corinne? Inside No BS, you always say you're going to teach women how to lose weight just like you did.
And if you've been listening to me for any amount of time, you know that I lost my weight way back in the Stone Age of 2007. I mean, that's basically like the Stone Ages now.
But one of the things that I did was I had to unlearn a lot of my habits, like cleaning my plate when food tasted really good. I had to unlearn sitting on my ass all day, all day in and out, instead of trying to make exercise this small part of my life or even, dare we say, an enjoyable part of my life.
I had a million habits that I had to unwind when it came to food. But the other habits that I really had to learn, that were the most important ones, were that I had to build some good habits.
So it wasn't just a matter of, I needed to unlearn a few things like cleaning my plate or going in for seconds. I didn't have to just unlearn how to not grab a handful of Goldfish just because Logan was eating them. I also had to build some habits.
And the only way that I was going to break and build habits was that I really had to start looking at my overeating patterns. What were they trying to tell me?
So some of the habits that I had to build were that I had to build the habit of talking to myself better. I had to build the habit of resting when I needed it instead of pushing through. So I had to break the habit of pushing through and then build the habit of giving myself some rest, even if I felt guilty in the moment.
And as I've been saying, all of that took breaking my worst habits.
So the reason why I want to tell you this is because I was reading something really interesting the other day. It said, whenever you're trying to lose weight, always start with breaking your worst habits instead of building good ones.
And when I think back to when I was losing weight, that is exactly what I did. I broke my worst habits first.
And you're probably not going to be able to guess what my worst habit was. A lot of people think that the worst habit is probably eating too much or not doing the things I said I would do when I said I would do them.
That wasn't it.
The worst habit that I had was ignoring my deeper needs.
I was always self-sacrificing for everyone. Growing up, I was the child of a single mother who was very young. She had to work two and three jobs just to keep the lights on, just to keep food on the table. And we didn't have that much food on the table.
And so I had to take responsibility for my younger brother. My mother leaned really hard on me. And that taught me at a young age to self-sacrifice.
So when I was losing weight, that was one of the first big things that I had to break. I couldn't ignore my deeper needs anymore.
Another one was putting myself down. That was one of my worst habits, thinking like shit about myself day in and day out. I had no habit of listening to how I was talking to myself. I had a bad habit of just letting my brain call me any fucking name it wanted to, and then just feeling like shit about it.
I also had the habit of thinking about my past failed diets. Every single time I wanted to lose weight, I had a habit of going back to my past and beating myself up over every time I failed and how much money I wasted and how much time I wasted and what a fool I must have looked like. I was in the habit of just basically treating myself like shit.
And those right there are the real habits that must be broken. And then you've got to have replacement ones building as you're breaking them.
So food noise is a surefire way to find the real shit going on inside you that keeps you overeating. I promise you that.
Every single time I wanted to eat my face off, turn to food, and stuff, I started telling myself, Corinne, this is not because something's wrong with you. This is not because you're addicted to food or that it tastes too good or that you can't lose weight.
Every time I wanted to eat, I just knew that it was because there was a reason going on deeper inside of me. And I could either start fixing those things so I could have a better life and then lose weight, or I could keep ignoring it and just get fat as fuck. And I was already at 250, so I already felt fat as fuck.
So everybody say it with me. The lady in the back who's not paying attention, wake the fuck up. We're all going to repeat this.
Food noise isn't bad because when you go off the shot, guess what happens if you've not been working on your deeper needs? Food noise comes back when a deeper need has been wanting you to find it and meet it this whole time.
Otherwise, your mind has no choice when you come off the shot but to go back to what it knows to do. All those habits of how to think about yourself and self-sacrifice and whatever you do, that's all just sitting there. And if you ain't got a shot taking away the desire to eat, guess what? When you take the shot away, then the desire to eat has to come back because you didn't fix what was going on to begin with.
So I want you to remember, as we talk, that food noise isn't bad. What we do is we want to interpret food noise as, what is it trying to tell me?
Because usually when you have food noise, you're trying to fix something, numb something, or you want to feel something, okay?
You see, a lot of women, they don't really even understand why they have the food noise. They think it's just because they're broken. They think it's because they love food too much. They think it's because of how they were raised.
And that is not why we have food noise, y'all.
I think a big missing piece of the whole conversation in the GLP-1 industry, just like in the traditional diet industry, is simple. Most women who battle their weight are eating to feel better, to push through demanding days, or they are trying to push through all the demands that they put on themselves because they don't feel good enough.
A lot of women are eating to escape shit that they're tired of. This is exactly why you can know better but not do those things in the moment.
People act like food noise is a bad thing. And I just don't think food noise is a bad thing. And it's never going to help a single woman to think it is, because you're going to have it.
Food noise is the signal. And it's a signal that's saying, hey, you, you have a deeper need that's going unmet. And you're just trying to meet it with food.
So that's why I want to talk about what you do when you've been losing weight on the shot and you've got to come off of it for some reason, whether that is you just can't afford the shot anymore, your insurance quit paying for it, maybe it's just not even working for you anymore, or you just happened to have started it and found that you're a non-responder, which can make you feel like there's no way in hell you're ever going to lose weight.
So let's start by talking about what the drug is actually doing for you and the one thing that it just was never doing, okay?
This is important because once you get that, you'll know what you need to do while you're on the shot, but more importantly, what to do when your food noise comes back, because freaking out cannot be the answer.
And I have women who write me every single day wondering, is your program good for someone on the shot? I've got to come off of it, or I'm on it and I'm terrified that I'm going to go back to eating like shit. I'm terrified I'm going to regain my weight. I'm terrified my food noise is going to come back.
It absolutely is.
I just want to say up front that I help a lot of women who are on the shots. I don't care if you're on them. I don't think it's a bad thing.
I know from experience with the women that I'm helping, they always tell me, thank God I'm in No BS while I'm doing this, because they're actually working on the things that really matter so that when they come off of it, guess what? They can feel confident that if any food noise comes back, they've unwound so many things, they'll know exactly what to do and how to fix things.
So here's what the drugs actually do for you. They do turn down the food noise or that constant chatter in your head about food.
And I'll just tell you, I get so pissed when I see people on the internet who are talking about the shots and they say that food noise isn't a thing.
I tell you what, motherfuckers, food noise is a thing and always has been a thing. One of the most positive benefits that has come out of the GLP-1 conversations, just them becoming available to us, is that we now have a name for what most women have been suffering with for ages.
And you know you have food noise if you've ever had these conversations. What are we going to have for dinner tonight so that I know what I should have for breakfast? Should I eat this or should I not eat this? Oh my God, pizza would be so good right now.
It's not that these little conversations you're having in your head are bad. But for a lot of women, we have been sitting around for years thinking about food all fucking day. It takes up so much space in our head, almost like it's a second job.
It's like no matter what we're doing, what we're going to eat or can't eat or shouldn't eat just eats us alive. And when we have a lot of food noise on top of fear that we're eating wrong or we're going to fuck up, guess what? We're exhausted all the damn time.
It's no wonder women are in love with the idea of a shot that just turns the volume down. And it's no wonder why, if you have to come off the shot, you're scared as fuck that you're going to just gain everything right back and you're going to be living in that constant, exhausting chatter again.
But here's the thing I want you to really hear, because it's really the point of today.
The drug turned down the volume of the chatter, but it never once asked you, hey, where's this food noise coming from?
And that matters more than anything else I'm going to say today, all right?
So let's talk about it.
I've been teaching this to women in my program for years, long before the shot was available.
When you eat and you're not hungry, when you keep eating after you've had plenty of food, that is never, ever, ever a willpower problem.
Say it with me. That is not a willpower problem.
Those moments when you're eating when you're not hungry, and you're eating past how much you know you need to eat, or even eating things that you said, like, well, I'm just not going to eat these today. I'm going to eat a little healthier today.
That is a messenger.
Your eating in each of these moments is trying to tell you something. It's your brain saying, something feels off and I don't know what the hell to do, so I'm just going to ask you to shove some Cheetos in your mouth.
And the reason why this happens is because your brain loves you so much that when something's wrong, when there's a disturbance in your force, and you don't have any other way to handle it, maybe you're overwhelmed, maybe you're anxious, maybe you're really angry at someone or frustrated or pissed off, maybe you're really sad, lonely, or bored, what your brain does is it looks for the fastest relief that it can find.
And the fastest relief it knows is to eat because it's how you've been dealing with a lot of the problems of your life, probably for a very long time.
Again, it's not a willpower problem. It's not because you're so weak or undisciplined. And it's not because you're just addicted to food. That's just the one way that you know how to quickly fix what feels like a big-ass problem in the moment.
It feels like there's an emergency. It feels like, I got to fix this right now. And food does fix it.
So for example, when I used to have a long day at work, all I wanted to do was come home and relax. And very often, my day was spent desperately trying to get about a million things done. I was never finishing all the things that kept stacking up, and I was doing all of my work while also constantly worrying that I wasn't doing a good enough job, that I was going to lose my job, that everybody was doing better than me. I just had all this pressure all the time.
So coming home never felt relaxing, even though leaving work and coming home should be. But for me, it just wasn't. It was exhausting.
Sometimes I would sit at home and I would just feel guilty for not working later. Sometimes I'd come home and feel lazy for not cleaning my apartment or going to the gym because I was literally worn out from a long day and just didn't have the energy to go.
So you'd think that coming home would signal, Corinne, hey, it's time to relax. But for me, when I came home, I just felt like shit.
And so I would eat so that I could finally relax.
My eating had nothing to do with anything other than my brain would start up with, what do you want to eat? You deserve a treat. You just need to relax.
And then the next thing I knew, I'd be eating like an asshole all night long. Cookie dough, ordering a pizza, swinging by a McDonald's. And I'm going to tell you, I was not hungry.
I had made promises to myself. I swear to God, every single time this happened, it was flying in the face of someone who was desperate as fuck to finally lose her weight.
But in those moments, I didn't care about weight loss. All I cared about was just trying to feel better, just wanting to feel better. All I wanted to do was relax.
And I just didn't know how to talk to myself in a way to relax. I didn't realize all the pressure I was putting on myself all day long that sent me home just jacked loaded with stress and anxiety, so much so that I couldn't turn it off. And the only way I knew how to deal with it was to eat.
I watched my mama do it all while I was growing up. Many a time, I would come home stressed from school after being bullied and all kinds of shit. And what did we do? We would eat to relax.
So the food noise was happening to me all my life. It started at a young age and then it just really cranked up back in the early 2000s.
Oh my gosh.
So when you're on the shot, you might come home and not want to eat. And you know, when you're on the shot, that feels amazing. So you get this huge sense of relief and you start to feel like at least one area of your life is finally under control.
But what the shot can't do is let you relax. It's not like I was going to suddenly come home and plop on the couch proud as fuck of myself for all that I did that day. It wasn't like I was going to suddenly go in and feel like cleaning up my apartment and hitting the gym.
But the biggest mistake I watch people make, who aren't working with me in No BS and who are also on the shots, is this one thing.
They feel so in control of their food for the first time in life that it makes all the other bullshit of life that's dragging you down not drag you down as much.
It's like when I would start losing weight back in the day, I would feel so relieved that I was losing weight that I didn't even realize that I wasn't fixing anything else going on in my life. I was fixing one thing, my weight, but I wasn't fixing how I talked to myself all day long at work. I wasn't fixing my self-esteem. I was still nitpicking at myself, but the joy and relief of losing weight kind of masked all of it.
So the way I like to think about it is this. I like to think of this as like a seesaw.
When you're not on the shot, you feel like food noise is an NFL linebacker sitting on the other end of the seesaw, throwing your ass up into the sky. And the shot comes along and takes the place of the linebacker. And the shot just happens to weigh just as much as you do, so that seesaw balances out. You're not getting thrown into the air.
Now, it doesn't mean you feel so good that you outweigh all the crap of your life, but just feeling balanced feels a hell of a lot better.
So you don't even recognize that you're not fixing what was driving you to eat too much all these years.
So that food noise, that chatter, it's a signal or messenger trying to tell you things about what you need. It is your brain knocking on a door over and over again, trying to get you to deal with something.
Things like stress, being wiped out, loneliness, anger. It can be anger that you never express because you're too busy biting your tongue. That is very common in a lot of women, especially women who were brought up to be a good girl and not to stir up any trouble.
So that chatter is like a knock on the door, and we want to be opening the door, inviting it in, letting it have a seat on the couch, and then talking to it about, like, could you tell me why you're here today?
But with the shot, the door isn't being opened at all. It's not asking who's knocking. The shot just made the knock quieter so you couldn't really hear that you have a very important visitor swinging by your house.
The thing on the other side of that door, like the stress, exhaustion, whatever, was really driving you to eat. All of that is still on the other side of the door. You just couldn't hear it banging anymore.
And that's why when the food noise and chatter come back, it's not some horrible thing that you need to be afraid of. But it does explain why all that shit does come back.
So let's talk about what's happening because you deserve to know.
First, you got to know what the shot did for you and what it quietly did to you at the same time.
While you were on the shot, the chatter was low. So you didn't turn to food in hard moments the way you used to. Now, that's a really good thing. And I'm glad that you really got that break because you deserve a break.
But here's what was also happening underneath.
Every single day, the drug handled the food noise. You weren't learning anything about why you eat in the first place.
Think about it like somebody carried your groceries up three flights of stairs every single day for a year. Your arms and legs got a really good vacation, but your arms and legs also didn't get any stronger because they never had to.
So the day nobody's there to carry your shit, you're standing at the bottom of the stairs wondering if you're going to even make it. You're worried you're going to be huffing and puffing and maybe even pass out.
That's not you failing. That's just what happens when you aren't working on things. Nothing underneath can change when there's no reason to change.
Now, the second thing you got to know is why the cravings come roaring back.
The day that drug clears out of you, the noise is going to turn back up. And the chatter that comes back isn't going to be some brand-new chatter. It's the same bullshit that was always there. It's the same shit that's been knocking on the door.
Because nothing underneath was ever looked at or changed.
The stress of your job, your kids, your marriage, and your life, all that stress, same shit. Your nights are still long. They might still be lonely and boring or filled with shit that you don't want to do. The things you were eating over, they're still there. Those things didn't get fixed, and how you deal with them didn't get fixed either.
So the only thing that changed is now you can hear your inner self bitching, moaning, and griping. And your brain is now saying, like, oh my God, we need to fix all this. How about a bag of chips?
So if you stopped the shots and the food noise came back and you thought, see, I knew it. I can't do this without the drug. You are absolutely wrong.
That flood is not proof that you need to be on the shot forever. That flood is just proof that the shot wasn't fixing the real problem.
You're just seeing all the stuff you needed to fix all these years, whether you were on the shot or not.
So the shot never fixed you. The shot just turned down the food noise, and the food noise was simply there all these years trying to tell you, hey, there are things going on in your life that need fixing, that need some help.
And there is a world of difference between you were fixed and you just got a break from the one thing telling you this is what's been bothering you for a long time.
I learned this a long time ago because there was not any shot to take.
So back when I was a kid, a lot of my emotional eating started. When I was nine, it was me, my mom, and my brother. My mom was raising us on her own, as I was talking about earlier. And because we couldn't afford our own place, guess what? We moved in with my grandparents.
And every day after school, my papa would take me to something called the little store. It was just a convenience store, but we called it the little store. And he would tell me to get whatever I wanted. So I got chips, candy, Coke. It didn't matter.
But here's the problem. I was getting bullied at school for being fat every day. And that little store was the first time every single day that I felt good.
And that's where my brain learned the lesson: when you feel bad and you eat, you feel better. You can relax.
My brain got wired really early to turn to food instead of learning how to talk and comfort myself.
And when you're a kid, you don't really see these things. It just builds a lifelong habit of how you deal with shit.
So when you fast-forward to when Logan, my son, was a baby, every day felt like absolute survival mode for me.
After dinner every night, Chris would take him upstairs for a bath, and it was really the only time the two of them had together. And I would count down the literal seconds until they went up those stairs. And the second they did, I was eating ice cream like it was my job every single night.
And I felt like garbage about it. I felt guilty watching Chris parent after he'd worked all day. I felt like some terrible-ass mother because I wasn't just overjoyed with my life. I had days I questioned, why did I even have a kid? What have I done to myself? And then I'd spend the rest of the day hating myself for even thinking that shit.
And for the longest time, I just thought I had no willpower, that I was just too lazy to lose weight. I did not realize that I was in emotional hell and dealing with it with food.
But I was not out of control with food, even though it felt like I was. I was actually getting relief for the first time all day, like I did when I was a kid.
I bullied myself all day long for the way I felt and the things that I thought about me. At night, it was like hitting that little store, finally getting a moment where I could just relax and turn shit off.
The ice cream, it did taste good. I'm not trying to shit y'all. I love me some ice cream. But I promise you, every night I was not eating it because I loved ice cream, even though that's what I told myself. I was eating it for the peace that it was giving me.
And I'm going to tell you, and I'm going to be real honest. If somebody handed me a shot back then that would make me not want ice cream, I would have taken that shit, run with it, and cried with relief. And I probably would have told everybody I knew they should do the same thing.
And that shot would have worked for a while.
But the guilt and the bully about being a bad mother, about making my husband take care of our kid when he got home, the way I was thinking about all that, none of that was going to change because of a shot.
I might have felt good because I was losing weight and been a little distracted, but that narrative didn't change. It would just be countered with the relief I felt that I was finally losing my weight.
And the problem was when I either lost all the weight or had to come off that shot, that little bully inside me, she was never dealt with. I'd never taught myself how to talk to myself different. She would be right there. And one day, she'd be the loudest voice in the room again.
And the only way that I would know how to shut her up would be to go back to eating ice cream. And when that day happened, the weight would come back because I wouldn't know how to get away from her other than eat.
So when I lost weight, what actually changed things for me wasn't taking my ice cream away. If you've ever heard my ice cream story, you know I didn't take it away in the beginning. I just made little changes to it while I worked on how the fuck I was treating myself.
I had to learn and figure out what the ice cream was doing for me and then get that need met in a new way.
So I ended up talking to Chris about what he thought about me taking a break every single night and what he thought about me not exactly loving my motherhood all day long.
And Chris really looked at me and he explained that he loved taking Logan upstairs. That that was the only time he got with him all day, that I had nothing to feel guilty about, and that if I was going to sit there and beat myself up, I needed to know it's not because of anything he's thinking. It was all me.
Over time, I was finally able to watch him go upstairs with our baby and then sit there and legit be grateful for the husband that I had and to be grateful that I was going to have me time.
And that's when I decided I was going to start walking at the gym at night to have some me time in a new way.
None of that would have happened had I not worked on the real reason why I was eating. And that's the work the shot can't ever do for you.
And it is absolutely the stuff that's yours to do.
I want you thinking about that. And the good news is you can do this work.
I promise you, if someone as broken and tattered as me could do it, with a lifetime of being bullied and talking to myself like shit, I had abandonment issues, you name it, I had it.
If someone like me could spend most of my life doing that, and I don't think, I mean, I'm not going to blow smoke up your ass and say I don't ever have a negative thought about myself, but these days, I know when I'm talking shit to myself and I know how to stop it.
Most of the time, I don't talk like shit to myself. I know how to be proud of myself. I know how to find the right things in myself. I didn't grow up like that.
If I can do it, I know you can.
So if you are listening to me and you're on the shot right now, I am not telling you that you've screwed up by taking it. I'm not. I've got plenty of women in No BS right now who are on that shot, losing weight.
And do you know what they tell me? They tell me they couldn't have done it on the shot all by itself because the shot quieted things down just enough that, for the first time, they can actually focus on why they have been eating. They can actually watch the rest of their life and find the moments where they are nitpicking themselves, where they are what I call creating a lot of bullshit, hard-ass negative feelings inside of ourselves that we just don't need, just like me feeling so guilty about Logan.
So I promise you, you can do this.
These women have said they finally have a moment of peace from the food noise so they can figure out why they have been eating. And they can fix those things without the food screaming in their ear every fucking second.
So I think about it like when Chris was working and I was building my weight loss business, but I wasn't really making any money yet. At least not enough that we could do anything other than buy me fresh workout tights.
And if you ever look back on the 2000s, the late 2000s, oh my God. I had a love affair with ridiculous printed tights, and I was always buying them.
So during that time, I was dependent on Chris and the money he made. He had the insurance. He was making a good salary. But that gave me the freedom to finally work on my business. I could make a lot of mistakes. I could take my time. I could figure things out without a ton of pressure that we were going to lose a house or starve if I wasn't able to figure this out.
That was not a bad thing. That was what allowed me to build the No BS that you know today.
And the same thing happens when you're taking the weight-loss shots. You get a little room, a little quiet, a little time where the food's not screaming at you, so you can go do all of that really important work that's underneath, where you can figure out what your truest needs are, how you're talking to yourself, and actually fix those things.
So whether you're on it or off it, I promise you, to lose weight and keep it off, the work is always the same.
So think about this. If you stopped the shot and the cravings came roaring back and you thought it meant the drug was the only thing that ever worked for you, I want to give you a different way to think about it.
The drug worked. I'm not here to tell you that it didn't. But it only turned down the volume on food noise that was representing something deeper and way more important.
So the day you stopped the shot, that deeper shit was still there because you never knew to even look for it. And that's really good news, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
When the only thing keeping the eating quiet is a shot, you're stuck needing the shot. But when you know the real reason you're eating, you can actually fix it, whether you want to be on the shot or not.
The shot can quiet you down for a while and give you a break where you can focus, but it can't figure out what's going wrong and how to fix it. Only you can do that. And you can do it with help from people like me, but still, only you can do it.
So the eating coming back isn't the bad news you think it is. It just means the real reason is still there waiting on you to go take care of it.
I promise that you can do this.
When you went on the shot, you were a woman who got handed a volume knob that got turned down, when what you really needed was somebody to show you why the volume was so high and how to naturally turn it down.
And nobody showed you that. And that's not your fault. But you can learn it now.
And when you do, the quiet you get won't be the kind that goes away the second you stop paying for shots. It's going to be yours to keep forever because you'll be the one who finally figured out what you were really hungry for this entire time.
And I promise you, it was never just the food.
All right, you have a good week, and I'll see you next time.