Hey y’all, it’s Corinne here. Welcome back to the podcast. Now I usually

host this all by myself, but today I’m doing something a little

different. I am handing the mic over to one of my incredible coaches.

You already know Coach Kathy from the earlier episodes. She’s still with

us, but today you’re going to experience another coach in No BS who is

Coach MJ. And let me tell you a little about Coach MJ. She is the

brunette version of me from South Carolina. She is just as sassy, just

as bold, and just as funny. But she also, she has lost weight with No

BS. She knows her shit. And so you are going to be well taken care of

today. What she’s going to do is share some of the tips and special

things that she teaches a lot of our members on the inside. So I want

you to just consider this like a little sneak peek behind the curtain.

So grab a coffee. Get damn comfortable. And I’m going to let Coach MJ

take it from here. Hey, y’all. So today I want to talk to you about what

might be holding you back from getting started with weight loss or

getting to the next 10 pounds or losing that last five pounds into

maintenance. So what happens a lot of times is, you know, you say, I

want it so bad and I would do anything to lose weight. And you would.

And I know that that is true, but there’s always that little thought for

a lot of you in the back of your mind that it’s like, what if this

doesn’t work? What if it’s too hard? What if I have to give up

everything that I love? What if I, you know, have to cut out so many

foods? What if I’m not eating very much? You have all the what ifs in

the back of your mind. And they’re holding you back. And you might even

know that they’re holding you back, but you don’t know what to do about

them. And so today I just want to talk about why they’re there. Because

our brain’s main job is to keep us safe. Like above all else. It is to

keep us safe. It doesn’t want us to emotionally hurt. It doesn’t want us

to physically hurt. Our brains do such an amazing job of keeping us

safe. Like, they are the best at it. And so I know, like, whenever I was

trying to lose weight, I knew where I was was not where I wanted to be.

But I also knew it very well. I knew what it was like to watch everybody

else go ride the roller coaster. And me be the bag holder. I always used

to think when I would think about losing weight, I’m like, who would

hold the bag? Like, I don’t, who would hold all the bags? Like, what

would, what would happen? Like, where do you even put your bags if you

don’t have a bag holder? Because my kids grew up near Carowinds in

Charlotte, North Carolina. And so we used to go all the time. We had

seasons passes. And I’m like, my job was to hold the bags and to watch

out for them. What would happen if, if we got on two separate cars and

one of my kids got off first and I wasn’t just standing there waiting on

them like what if they had to wait on me for a minute and all of those

things were really really scary because I was like if I’m not the bag

holder then who am I I don’t even know who that is and so that little

bit of fear I didn’t want to be a bag holder I wanted to get in the line

with my kids and I wanted to ride the ride but then my brain was like

but what if like who would what if y’all got separated Who would hold

the bag? Where do they even put the bags? If you get up there, like what

even happens in all of those things kept me stuck because I knew what it

was like to stand at the bottom, put my kids in the line and watch them

go off and ride the ride. I wanted desperately to be with them

desperately. I wanted to go with them and I wanted to experience those

things, but I didn’t even know what that was like. And that was scary

because I’d never done it before, but I knew. Even though it was painful

and I wanted something else, I knew what it was like to stand there and

hold the bags and wait on them to come out. So when you’re thinking

about what is holding you back, you’re like, but I want it so bad. You

do want it so bad. So you’ve got to uncover what might be holding you

back. So I just want you to ask yourself, if you lose weight right now,

what in the world would be different in your life? And what does that

even look like? Because a lot of times we get stuck in what we really

want. And I used to say, like, we love familiar. So even though it

sucks, and even though I wanted to get on the ride, it was very familiar

to me to not be able to get on the ride. And on the other side was fear

because I didn’t know what that looked like. So what is holding you back

today from weight loss? Think about it this weekend as you go along

through your weekend. Just think about… What might I be afraid of? What

does it look like? What does my life look like at goal weight? Maybe

you’ve never even thought about it before. And I know we lose one pound

at a time, but it’s how do we get out of fear and how do we move forward

to even let ourselves lose one pound at a time? Okay, ladies, let’s talk

about all the food today. So I’m like a lot of y’all. When I busted up

in an OBS, thinking this you know, blonde headed chick with this accent

was going to help me lose all of my weight. I came busting in with a

trunk load of diet rules. I was an Adkins girl through and through. I

was no carbs, heavy on the protein. That’s what I was doing. I was, that

was always my go-to. Like I would wait until the last minute, right

before an event and needed to drop like 20 pounds and I would jump on it

you know, jump on the Adkins train and lose my weight as quick as I

could, do the event, whatever it was. And then the next day or at the

event, right? Eat all the carbs. And then I would go back up the 20

pounds plus a five extra, right? Like we’ve all, please tell me I’m not

alone in this whole situation. This is what you’re going to notice as

you start to include more of those carbs or more fats, whatever it is.

Listen, I also was Susan powder fat makes fat. Don’t think I wouldn’t.

She told me fat was going to make me fat. And then, you know, Adkins

told me that like carbs would make me fat. Everybody, everything was

going to make me fat. Pretty much. We had to be eating the air. I don’t

know what we were supposed to eat, but anyway. When you start to eat

those things, when you start to include fats, when you start to include

carbs, you’re going to hear your thoughts, y’all. Your thoughts are

going to come. Oh, you can’t eat that and lose weight. Oh, you better

not. You know, you had never been able to eat that and lose weight. I’m

just going to tell you, Corinne one time said on a call or at an event

or somewhere, like the way to teach people they can eat fried chicken

and lose weight is to get them to eat fried chicken. And that’s what

you’re going to have to do. It’s going to be a little uncomfortable,

like to include carbs whenever you’re like carbs are bad or to add some

fats. If you’re like, oh, fat makes fat, Susan Powder, I remember you.

You’ve got to try though. I’m just telling you, give yourself an option.

So here’s some stuff that you can try to make it easy. I don’t know if

y’all remember my Farrah Roche story, but if Farrah Roche was anywhere

near me, that’s the candy with lovely Nutella stuff in the middle and

some hazelnut. crunchy goodness on them, whatever. Amazing candy is my

favorite candy. And when I first started to include some of those

things, if they were in the house, I would eat them. So I had made the

decision not to leave them in my house. I was like, if I want them, I

know where they live. They live at the Publix. They live at the QT. I

know where they live. I can go to their house and pick them up and bring

them back with me. But I don’t, they don’t have to live in my house. So

if you are really concerned about including rice or including something,

you can just go pick up a serving and include it if you want to. That’s

what I had to do with Fair Roche. I just say, try it. Give yourself an

opportunity. If you’re scared to have it in the house, then do whatever

you need to do at first. Make a single serving of it. You know, if

you’re, just get a small potato and just cook one of them, right? You

don’t have to get five baked potatoes if you’re going to try to include

carbs. I’m picking on carbs just because that’s what I was most scared

of whenever I joined No BS was carbs. Like I was scared to death that

heaven forbid I had a potato or some rice or mashed potatoes, anything.

I was scared to death. So buy a small potato and cook it. Just one. Get.

individual rice, you know, they have that like rice that you can just

heat up in individual servings. Start with something like that to make

it easy on yourself to show yourself that you can include those foods

and still lose weight because some of it’s going to tap on, but you

can’t eat that and lose weight. But y’all I’ve said it, Tom, I’m blue in

a face. It was never the rice. It was never the bread. It was never the

pasta. What happened was we told ourselves for so long that we could not

have it. We could not have it. We could not have it. We did not realize

how to speak kindly to ourselves. So we just white knuckled and just

pushed our way through everything, probably talking like a jack wagon to

ourselves in the meantime, until we just couldn’t stand it anymore. And

then we ate all the bread. Then we ate all the pasta. Then we ate all

the potatoes. And then we would go off the rails for three or four days,

then finally decide to be good, step on the scale and be like, see, I

ate bread and it made me gain weight. No, it did not. It was the loaf of

bread you ate, I ate, plus the three or four days of Eat Fest that came

after it. We’ve got to start to recognize what our patterns were. They

don’t have to be our patterns anymore. But when we can recognize them

for what they were in the first place, it was never the bread. It was

never the pasta. We can start to include some of those foods, whether it

be carbs, fats, protein, whatever it is, without getting so freaked out.

So go buy you some single serve things if you want to. Just fix one

serving. See what happens. And then don’t forget, y’all. As always, you

have got a team of expert weight loss and life coaches at your

fingertips who all just like you came in with diet mentality. Who all

just like you had those foods that we were scared to include. And we

have worked through it. So we’ve gone before you. You don’t have to

figure this out by yourself. Use Ask Coaches. Email me. Let us help you

figure out how to include all of the foods. so that you can be a

well-fed woman and lose all of your weight and feel as amazing as you

deserve.