Hello, I wanted to come in and I'm doing what's called a surprise live, which means

this was not on the schedule. This is just me coming in to talk about something

that is super important. So please do not run to your calendar and think that you

missed something big. And if you're watching this in a replay in the future, we

save these so that you get access to all my wisdom. Also,

as you can tell, when I do surprise lives, I set up in my bedroom. I do not wear

makeup. Today is what I call no makeup day, which means I just rest my face and

honestly my eyes because I have terrible allergies. Also, I think it's important for

you to hear this from me. I do not let perfectionism ever stop me from helping y

'all, which means you will get help when you need it. And if that means I have to

go on here without a shower, allergy eyes, and no makeup, I'm never going to let

perfectionism stop progress. I don't let it stop it for me. I don't let it stop me

from delivering to you. And I highly encourage you to learn all the little lessons

that I do for y 'all, which is this bitch is going to come on live and talk about

something that's super important, no matter what's going on. So I hope that I'll be

able to see your comments because Facebook Live doesn't always show them to me. We

will soon see if anybody is chatting. I do know one person is here because Facebook

has now told me 10 times that you are officially here. It gets caught in loops for

some reason. All right. So let's talk about what I came on to talk about. There is

a post that is so good that I have been commenting and working with someone on,

and it is all around, saving up during the day to be able to eat later for a

variety of reasons. And I kind of just want to go over all the reasons why this

is probably not working. So let's just start with what we've been talking about.

The first thing is that she was saying that she's working an unpredictable schedule

right now. She's got a brand new work schedule. She's

sausage biscuit something, which is probably, if I had to guess, you know,

a cool 250 calories. Then for lunch was a lean cuisine, which is probably like

another 300 -ish calories. So we're already starting the day and trying to work a

full day till 10 o 'clock. I think she goes in at noon, living on 500 calories.

Then she has a small protein box. Just notice some of the language that we're

talking here. Many this, lean that, small this,

which raised all kinds of red flags to me. Because the small protein box was like,

I don't know, cheese and a little bit of meat and some grapes or some shit. Right.

Now, that food is not bad. I'm not sitting there telling y 'all this is bad food.

What I am telling you though is that women are very conditioned to think that if

they're overweight or they have had a problem overeating that somehow restricting and

eating tiny is like the penance that we have to pay for all of the sins that we

can't control ourselves around our favorite foods or like after a long day for some

reason we are not able to eat. So I want to cover this stuff because it's

important for you to know. Otherwise, you stay stuck in this trap of barely eating

the whole time thinking I shouldn't eat much because I'll blow it later just in

case I blow it or what she was saying is my husband, what if he makes a heavy

meal? As if a heavy meal is a bad thing. There's nothing wrong with a heavy meal.

I eat heavy meals all the time. But I don't lose control around them anymore

because I'm not going in like a starved animal. So I want to talk about all of

it. Let me finish what she also wrote. Because I asked her, she says, I've been

trying not to eat that late, but I'm hungry when I get home. I'd be hungry too if

I'd been eating less than what a typical toddler eats in a day. She's not even

getting toddler amounts of food. And most toddlers need around 2 ,000 calories a day

because they're super active. So a little toddler needs a lot of food, but a big

grown -ass woman who's working all day, does it? Like, let's just all say this

together. I at least deserve to eat what a fucking toddler eats in a day.

Amen. Hallelujah. Okay. Now, then I asked,

well, do you eat light through the day for a reason? I'm just curious, because I

eat heavy through the day. I'm already, let's see, my breakfast typically is three

eggs, cooked in some butter, and then I do Dave's Killer bagels.

I like the, what is that one, bagel everything or whatever, I put some sugar -free

jelly on that, and then I do about a half a cup of blueberries with that. That is

just breakfast. That is just to get Corin's ass going. I also drink 16 ounces of a

kombucha most days for the gut health. That is just literally to wake my body up,

to be able to get through a day. All right. then I typically will eat at least a

lunch. Now, every now and then I have to miss lunch. And so I will eat more

breakfast if I know I'm going to have to miss lunch because I'm going to use what

we call practical eating, which means practical eating simply means if you know you

can't get food and you're not hungry, just like my typical breakfast is plenty on a

day when I'm going to eat lunch around 12 or 1 o 'clock. Now, if I got calls with

everybody, which happens at least twice a week, then I know I need to add more to

my breakfast. I might even add a yogurt and double down on my berries, maybe even

throw in some butter on my bagel. So it's just important that you know these things

because the goal of no BS it's not to starve your ass off. The more, I'm going to

tell you the science behind starving in just a minute. But, so like my lunch is

usually a big -ass salad. It's usually got, I mix regular dressing with,

like, usually about a tablespoon of regular dressing. I love Thousand Island. It's my

favorite. Sometimes I do honey mustard, just whatever we got. I mix that with a

quarter cup of cottage cheese and stir it up real good, I just like a big wet -ass

salad. Then my salad usually has at least five ounces of some kind of protein,

whether that's tofu, my sister -in -law makes this really good fried tofu. I eat

that. Sometimes it's got steak on it, sometimes it's ground turkey, sometimes it's

chicken, it's just whatever protein I'm feeling like for the week is what I eat. I

also put chickpeas on it. I put cheese on it. If I have some hard -bolled eggs, I

will dice up a hard -bolled egg, loads of lettuce, and I usually do like tomatoes,

onions, and chopped celery. That's my favorite vegetables on a salad. So I eat a

big -ass salad. Then, in the afternoons, I almost always eat another half a cup of

cottage cheese. I love cottage cheese. Oh my God, I've loved cottage cheese since I

was a little girl. Don't come at me. I mean, I've been eating the cottage cheese

since I was yay -ha. I mixed that with a full banana and some cashiers.

I'll stir that. I do put Splenda in the cottage cheese along with the mayonnaise,

along with the banana. Don't get me started on a good banana mayonnaise sandwich

because I do love a good banana mayonnaise sandwich. So I stir that up and I eat

that and then I eat a dinner and then my dinner like This week is five ounces of

steak. It's a sweet potato. I buy the smaller ones. I don't buy the giant ones.

I just bake it. I don't put shit on it. I don't need shit on it. And then I eat

about, I don't know, I eat some green beans, just however much I want to put on

the plate. And they're cooked in bacon. And then sometimes I even eat a snack after

dinner. Now look, this is why when I get around a hamburger or some french fries

or some nachos, I'm not going face down in it as if I'm going to die.

So one of the things that happens when we eat light is we do this thing called

under eating. Okay. Your body, it like puts it into a trauma response.

Your body doesn't feel safe when it feels like it's being starved or when it's

getting too little food. And so for a lot of you, you're overweight because you do

a lot of starving most of the day or you do starving for two to three days being

good or you're starving for five days and then you blow it all on the weekend. And

your body is sitting there going like, oh my God, something's wrong, something's

wrong. We're not eating enough to match the energy needs.

And then what happens is that when you get around food, you do not have the

wherewithal to say no, to just eat to enough or to not break your plan.

This happens for a reason. When your body feels like it's not getting enough food,

it then depresses the energy, okay? You have two parts to your brain. You have the

part that we think of. So just think like, the thinking brain is in the front. I

used to tell everybody, the brain is like a mullet. We got business up front and

we got a party in the back. So business up front, the thinking part of your brain,

that is what makes good decisions. That is what thinks about your goals. That is

what will remember your why. That is what makes That is what, like, slows you down,

negotiates in your head for the things you actually want. Well, guess what happens

when we eat light all day? The thinking part of our brain has to shut down.

Your thinking part of your brain only runs about 5 % to 10 % of the day.

And the anything that you do to drain it of its energy is going to make it as

the day goes on it's getting more and more and more depleted. And so if you go

home after eating light all day, you don't have your thinking brain online anymore.

Now the party is in charge. The habit brain. The habit brain is the one that does

not think. It only reacts and responds to what did you do last time this happened.

Oh, that's what we'll do this time. It literally does not think about your goals.

It does not think about your wise. It could give two shits about your weight loss.

It is sitting back there in reserve waiting to do things that the logical brain's

not going to do. The thinking brain. Now, There are lots of pieces to this.

Lots of pieces. If you're not getting enough sleep, guess what?

The front part of your brain, that's a trigger for it to shut down. Not getting

enough food, that's a trigger for it to shut down. If you're dehydrated, that also

depletes it of its energy and wants it to shut down. If you have a really

stressful day or you are somebody who works himself up to a tizzy. Let's say your

boss walks, say you turned in a report. You poured your heart and soul into it.

And you did your best work. And your boss just took it, never said,

good job, Corinne. Oh my God, star employee. Let me just do a special call out to

you, blah, blah, blah. Your boss never said a word. If you sit there for day one,

worrying you didn't do a good job, day two, mad that your boss isn't doing

something, day three, sitting around feeling depressed because you're in a soul

-sucking job where you don't get any recognition, well, you are emotionally wearing

that brain out.

You're saying, I would rather sit here and catastrophize and worry and stew and

agonize and create crazy -ass stories in my head and deplete the logical part of my

brain so that when I need it, when it comes to dinner, it's like, bitch, I ain't

got nothing left. Now, you wasted it all day sitting behind your desk, clutching

pearls, worrying about your job, worrying about things that you had no facts about.

So we want to protect the thinking part of our brain at all costs.

There are ways to to protect it. Drink your fucking water. That's like the easiest

one of all. If you ever needed motivation to drink your water, drink your water

because a lot of us think like, well, water helps flush out the fat. It does. But

the one thing that water will do is it will make sure that you at least aren't

making donkey -ass decisions about what to eat because you're dehydrated and your

logical brain is like, oops, the stores are low. Here's a reason why I should like

let the party in the back make every decision. Because the party in the back, you

know what it's used to? Well, every time you're tired, every time you're stressed,

every time you're low on energy. When it's five o 'clock and you don't feel amazing,

it's like, oh, I'm supposed to do what I always do. Let's order pizza.

Let's eat more than we planned. Let's just eat until we get some energy back. It's

just trying to get your energy back. It's trying to counterbalance the scales. The

problem is the habit brain is not going to sit there and be like, oh, if I just

eat two, you know, veggie slices of pizza, that will balance the scales. But how

the brain is not thinking. It's just going to eat and it's just going to get lost

in it tasting good and it's going to be like, oh, this is so amazing. It's going

to start feeling better and it thinks more is better.

So when you eat light during the day, you are turning off the part of your brain

that can make logical decisions and then you wonder why when you get home at the

end of the day like a heavy meal is overly tempting quit putting yourself into a

position for good food tasty food or a heavy meal to take over because the food is

not doing it you are by under eating and not giving yourself what you need.

It is so much better to go into those meals fueled with plenty of shit on board.

Because then it's a lot easier to think. Now it's easier to hear yourself want to

eat more and to stop it for good reasons. To remind yourself of your wise or to

remind yourself of like, oh, I'm just used to eating more than enough. And I'm

still trying to get used to this. This is why it feels hard. Oh, I'm sitting here

thinking that if I don't finish this, that I'm wasting that heavy meal. I'm going

to hurt his feelings. Oh, I'm not used to thinking in my new ways yet. Stopping at

enough doesn't mean I'm wasting food. Stopping at enough feels different because I'm

used to cleaning my plate.

And actually, I'm not really wasting food. I actually am wasting food when I clean

that plate. Because every time I clean my plate, how will I ever allow my mind to

know how much I should serve myself? If I only ever clean my plate, then every

single time my habit brain is like, make the plate the same. Never adjust your

portion sizes. You don't have a reason for your brain to ever think you should

adjust your portion size because you never have nothing left your brain makes the

conclusion of like oh that's how i'm supposed to be serving myself so how are you

ever save money how are you ever eat less how will you ever make any other

decisions if you stop waste if you don't stop wasting food in your body

you know wasting it on your ass is a thing too every time you say i'm Wasting

food when I throw it in the trash, you're also, I just want you to remind yourself

like, hmm, I can waste it in the trash or I can waste it on my ass. Which one

do I want to start learning how to do? Because I'm real good at wasting it on my

ass. I mean, it's like, just turn around and look. Like,

I'm an expert at it. I think I want to not be an expert at that. So I want to

get really good at understanding, like, it will take me a couple of weeks of maybe

throwing away a little bit of food because I'm learning to listen to my body. And

then that means that in a couple of weeks, I'm probably going to buy less

groceries. Or I'm going to be serving myself less, which means we'll have more

leftovers, which can, you know, last longer. Or if I don't like leftovers, then I'll

quickly learn. I can buy less food and I'll start saving money.

But we've got to think about it in those terms. So let's see what else she has to

say.

She says, Hubby will bring home yummy food for me that I can't resist. Of course

you can't say no to it. If you're coming in like a starved animal and he's

offering food that tastes good, what do you expect your habit brain to do? Go, oh

no. Let us just keep eating like peasants. Let us just keep eating too little to

survive life. Let me just put you in harm's way. Your brain thinks a famine is

coming. It's still living in primal times. It ain't living in 2026.

It's living in like 1906, 1806,

Oh six. Oh six. Like it literally thinks that if you're not eating enough,

then what we are actually doing is we are starving it. We're starving it.

And it doesn't want that.

And it can't reason. It can't sit there and think. That is why I teach you.

Being hungry is not a moral victory. Starving yourself is not the answer to weight

loss. For every one of you who keep trying to do this, I want you to ask yourself

a simple question. How many years have I been trying to eat light or eat little

and I've seen the scale just go down and I never regain my weight? How many years

have I tried to eat light, and I've noticed I've had way more control around foods

that I love, or way more control around food the moment I start eating. Proof is

in the pudding. Ain't not one of you going to be able to tell me that I've got

an amazing relationship with food, and I've lost all my weight and kept it off.

Corinne, I'm here because I love paying you money. I was looking for a charity.

I decided I don't want to

and it's also based in physiology. Yours is based in fear.

What is the worst that's going to happen if you start eating more food during the

day and give your body what it needs? I will tell you the worst thing that will

happen. The first few times at night, you will be in the habit of still overeating.

You will want to overeat because you're very used to it. But this will be the

difference. When you go in with enough food, you'll start hearing that you're doing

it. You'll start noticing what's going on because your logical brain will now be

online. You will not have worn it out. You will hear all of your fears. You will

hear all of your sexy talk to just have a Like, I love the excuse.

Well, he brought it. He brought in yummy food. As if your husband bringing yummy

food home is somehow a bad thing.

I don't think it's a bad thing. I think it would be lovely for all of you to be

able to lose weight because you know how to eat yummy food. To me, it's a great

think. Number one, he's doing you a favor. You're not having to cook after a long

day. Number two, he's buying you shit you like. Like a lot of you,

what do you want?

This is what I hear. Y 'all give me the always the catch -22. Well, my husband

doesn't support me because he brings home yummy food. Well, my husband doesn't

support me because he says I should eat salads.

what the fuck are we doing ladies what the fuck are we doing ladies we are our

own worst enemy we it ain't them it is us we don't know how to take care of

ourselves we keep relying on other people to do an inside job we say Damned if you

do, damned if you don't.

It is time for y 'all to be well -fed women. I don't want y 'all eating like a

huge famine is fixing a sweep across the world. I don't want that for you.

You should not be eating light in order to hopefully not blow it at Because what

happens is, is you spend your entire day thinking, I'll probably blow it. Otherwise,

why would you eat light?

And then, of course, when it comes time to eat, your logical brain is offline. And

then all you've done is given your habit brain orders all day long of like, no,

look out for all the reasons why we might overeat. And then it's just like, oh,

there's one. And you thought we would do it. So now your brain, like your habit

brain only works on commands.

If you've been commanding it to look for opportunities to overeat,

don't be shocked that you do it nine times out of ten, eight times out of ten,

seven times out of ten.

Do not be shocked. So if you spent your entire day telling yourself, I'm going to

be a well -fed woman so that when I go home at night, I can make good choices.

So that when I go home at night, I can think through things. So if I do get

tempted, I'll be able to think through it. Why are we not having that conversation

in our head? It gives our brain such better commands. It does a million fist fist

bumps, solids for ourselves. That's what we need to be doing.

All right. I am going to click this button to see if it'll give me, no, it just

lets me write comments. I didn't see one single comment. So if anybody asked me any

questions, I will have to go back and look at this video afterward, and I will.

And if you just, you don't even have to do anything. You just leave a comment. You

can just leave a question and I'll be able to see it. But as usual, Facebook is

not showing me the comments.

So y 'all have a good one. I hope you enjoyed this little rant and then I will

tag the original poster in here so that I make sure that she sees it. Have a good

one y 'all. Bye -bye.