major goal. I wanted to get 10 chin -ups. And I started last year not even able to

do one. Now, at first I thought I was going to finish at six. I actually ended up

busting out a seventh one a couple of days ago. But I know that I only,

like the time of this recording, I only have a few days left before the New

Year's. I'm not going to get there. But I will say this. I am so proud of myself

because I stuck with this goal all year long.

And let me tell you, that is not easy. Number one, this year has just really

reminded me of losing weight. To get 10 chin -ups is a slow process.

It's not like I just do a few things and all of a sudden I'm busting out 10. I

have had to make the smallest improvements really matter,

really celebrate them and really highlight them. And the reason why I think it's a

lot like weight loss is because if you think about it, when you're losing weight,

even if it's not slow, it feels incredibly slow. Like when I was losing 100 pounds,

it could have felt so slow at times. Because I had 100 pounds to lose.

So on a week where you lose a quarter pound or a half a pound, it's easy to sit

there and bemoan it and whine about it and complain about it and basically make

yourself feel like complete ass. Well, the more you make yourself feel like complete

ass, the less motivated you're going to feel to keep going. The less you're going

to want to do things. So I just think it's so important to cheerlead. And so like

this year, every single time I would be getting frustrated that there were weeks

where I actually went backward, where I was just like, the week before, I remember

one week in particular, I got five. I finally got five and I just like in my mind

for some reason. I just thought, oh good. I'll never ever only do three or four

ever again. And the next week, guess what? Every day that I practiced, I couldn't

get

I did not give up, that I also told myself that not many women can do a chin up,

and here I am, at least doing three, that if I could have done five that week,

it'll be a matter of time before I get back to that. It reminded me of when I

was in the middle of my weight loss journey, I was stuck right at 200 pounds for

six weeks. And on the sixth week when I weighed in and I still hadn't broke 200

and I was still maintaining or just bouncing up a little bit, I remember thinking,

fuck this, I might as well eat whatever I won't. And I have always said this.

It is what, I mean, the light was literally streaming into my bathroom through the

window. And it was like, God had an intervention with me, and the angels parted the

sky. And suddenly a voice in my head said,

you cannot go back to the way you were. This is what you've always said,

and it's why you never ended up losing your weight. Even if you don't lose another

pound, everything that you're doing for yourself right now is worth continuing. And

it was like in that moment where I was like, huh, it only makes sense. I need to

keep going if I'm going to lose weight. Fucking it and eating whatever I want out

of frustration and being upset, the only thing it's going to do is taste good for

a minute and then make me feel like ass later. It's going to make there be more

time between me and when I get under 200. So the same thing happened this year.

I'm going to tell you all. There were so many times I wanted to give up. I wanted

to just like, nobody's even watching me. Nobody cares if I get this goal. It's only

matters to me. You know, I'm strong. Why am I even bothering? I had so many

excuses try to come up in my head. And I will tell you, just like I'm going to

teach you later in here, all I did is sit around and think about,

like, what do I need to do next? What do I need to do next? Every single time I

wanted to quit, I would tell myself, but what do I actually need to do next?

There's a difference between wanting to quit and thinking that's what to do next.

Then there's the actual reality of what do I want to do next that can help me get

there. So today, what I want to do is I I want to talk to you about

diagnosing why, like, why didn't I get my six? What kept me from getting to 10?

And I want you to do the same thing about this year. So I know I want to keep

working on this. I want to get my 10 chin -ups so bad I can taste it. Because I

want to move into eventually doing regular pull -ups. And I started with chin up for

one reason. I wanted a quick win. Chin -ups are the easiest way to start.

They allow you to get strong fast. And it's just like what I did with my weight.

I knew I needed something small to start with so that I could get early wins. And

that's what I'm always teaching y 'all, low -hanging fruit. I've always found that

small incremental progress just helps me keep going. Because I am quick to quit

things. And I have learned how to work with that impulse to want to quit instead

of fighting my nature, which is to do too many things at once, just to solve a

problem. I'm like, no, I don't do that anymore. If I am very quick to quit things,

then I've got to do small little things I can get good at and get quick wins to

keep me motivated and also to reduce a lot of mistakes.

So this is my diagnosis for myself, and then we'll get into talking about how you

can do some diagnosis. My goal was good. It did give the quick wins that I needed,

so 10 chin -ups. I didn't do enough of my chin -ups all year long, though.

I started with just doing them without a real plan. I kind of just jumped in doing

what I thought I knew would be the right way instead of really researching and

getting on a good program for chin -ups. So later on in the year,

I actually added a program to it. Basically, the more often I did them,

I was able to get stronger. And I started listening to myself. I don't think I

even realized until a while about how much bitching and moaning I was doing instead

of reminding myself that I was making progress. This is so important to weight loss.

Some weeks, it is natural to be weaker. And so I started just telling myself, I'm

weaker today, which is surprising. Just like days when I'm stronger, I am surprised.

So I really started focusing on not making those things mean near as much because

when I made them mean a lot, it made me want to give up on my goal. It made me

want to, like, not try to, like, skip it for a day and stuff. And I knew that I

needed to avoid doing that. So that meant I had to quit making it. Like,

little things mean way too much. And we do that too much in Dietland, too. So I

am going to keep working on it this year, along with a few other goals. I want to

get back to early first thing in the morning workouts. That's really important to

me. It just fits better with my workload. You know,

it's running a big -ass weight loss company. I need to get it done early because I

tend to, I tell my clients this all the time. I put my workouts off until the end

of the day. And I do get them done. But I spent all of 2026 basically working

hard during the day and also dreading going to the gym all day. And then going to

the gym, tired of my ass because I sat there and bemoaned, and it would take me a

quarter of my workout to just groove the, like grease the wheels for myself. And so

I was like, if I'm going to dread my workouts, I want to just dread it first

thing in the morning. And that way, I don't have to dread all day. Now, hopefully

I'll fall in love with it again or get excited and stuff, but I'm just like, you

know what, if that never happens, one thing I can fix is I can stop pushing it

off to the end of the day and then having to force myself to go, which feels like

ass, and cut out all of that dread. I also, this year,

I have a goal to squat 200 pounds by the end of the year. I just honestly want

to see if I can improve my legs. I have said forever that I just

morning workouts and stuff. And the other day, she said, Corinne, that is a terrible

thought to have because it makes you feel unmotivated. Like when I would sit there

and say like, well, I just need to get over it, my legs are going to just, this

is just the way they're going to look. To me, that just felt like a fact. I just

felt like, I don't know, it almost felt like it was doing myself a solid. But I

had never thought about thinking about it this way. she said, why not just think,

I'm going to give it my all and see what happens. And I was like, wow,

that really feels better. I was like, it feels a hell of a lot better than me

just sitting there settling for like, I'm just going to keep working hard and deal

with the way they look instead of, I'm going to work really hard and see if I can

surprise myself. Because the truth is, There's two truths here. The truth is they

probably won't ever look the way I won't. But the truth also is, I have no idea

what they could look like if I was just giving up my all. So that's what I want

to do. So that's this year for personal shit. I have some big goals for my company

that will make it possible for women to lose weight even better and easier. I've

got so many big ideas and so many things in the works. But what I want to help

you with today is I want to help you with your January goals because a lot of

you, you come in real hot at the first of the year. You're like, all right, this

is it. I am done messing around. So you change your diet radically. If I had to

guess, you've already cut out a lot of things you normally eat. You've joined a gym

or you've dusted off your membership and you're like, I am ticking some ass this

year, and that's what's going to happen. And then you get into January. It could be

a few days. It could be a week. It could be a few weeks. And the next thing you

know, you're standing in your kitchen at night eating stuff you didn't plan or

you're snacking when you ain't hungry. You stop at the gas station and you think,

what am I even doing? I'm sitting here getting candy. And I was supposed to make

2026 the year of the queen. And in

as a perfect storm, and nobody warned you. Because here's the thing that no one

really talks about in the whole weight loss land. January is just a weird fucking

time of the year. You got on one hand, you're motivated. And maybe it's not even

motivation as much as you're just so fed up that you feel motivated to do

something, even if you're pissed at yourself. Maybe you're fed up with food noise

all the time or being obsessed about every little thing you put in your mouth.

Maybe you're fed up with feeling so uncomfortable in your body. You don't like going

anywhere. You're hiding in your clothes. You're doing all the things. Or maybe you're

just fed up with your ass because you're always starting over. You always got big

plans and the next thing you know they're caving and you're like, I'll start

tomorrow. I'll start tomorrow. And tomorrow becomes Monday and Monday becomes next

week. And next week becomes next month. And next month becomes January of 27. So a

lot of times in January, though, the drive to lose weight is powerful and it's very

real. But then you also got this weird dynamic going on at the same time. You're

fucking tired. Maybe your sleep is off because you've been running yourself ragged

through the holidays and you're just in a hangover all the way through January

because you're just trying to get caught up. Maybe your digestion is off. If you

ain't like shit through the holidays, January is just like, you're just trying to

get like the duty shooter working properly again, the heartburn to get extinguished

with a little fireman called water. And maybe your routine is off. For a lot of

us, we spend so much of the holidays doing so much shit that we put off a lot of

things and we take time off from work and the next thing you know, we're back at

work and our workload is heavy. And also, our nervous system might still be

recovering from the holidays too. We were around a lot of people that we didn't

necessarily want to be around. We had to talk to people that we only talk to once

a year, and they exhaust us and they piss us off and we bite our tongue. Or we

are disappointed as fuck because we want people to say things. We want people to do

certain things and nobody delivered. And so we are feeling all of it.

So we can have two things true at once. We can start January highly motivated and

also recovering from the holidays. And when we don't see that,

you know what most women do? We start out really hard and fast telling ourselves

like, this is my year. I'm going to do everything right. I'm not messing around.

I'm going to be some disciplined woman that nobody's even going to recognize. But

without realizing it, what we're doing is we're creating some kind of perfectionistic

fantasy for ourselves. And the fantasy for us is we're going to wake up every day

energized. We ain't going to be that hungry. We're not going to be triggered by the

normal shit. We're not going to need to be comforted by food. We're going to have

plenty of mental space to make all the good decisions. We need to be in making.

All the while, we are motivated to lose weight, but we're still tired. And we still

got our regular life. And our regular life might not even be easy because we're

still catching up from the holidays. But this is the problem. Fantasy You is not

who shows up most days. I remember back in the day when I would think about me

losing weight.

And I always like, in my mind, she was going to the gym. And not only was she

going to the gym, but she had a smile on her face. She was like, happy to go.

I would imagine myself eating salads. And for some reason, it was always like it

was a Barbara Walter special. I would be looking at the version of me that I

thought I was going to be. And there was always like a soft white glow about her.

And she was just eating salads. And she was happily cooking things in the kitchen.

She was just doing all the things. That was fantasy me. But you know what really

was happening most days? Real life was throat punching me. I was wanting to do all

these things. Eat the salads. Go to the gym. Drink my water. Like be a clean

eating bitch. But my real life was stressful. I was always more hungrier than my

diets ever gave me calories for. My emotions were up and down like a fucking roller

coaster. One minute, I felt like I had my shit together. The next minute I was

worried to death that it was all coming apart. I was exhausted most of the time,

exhausted from just balancing everything I had to balance and exhausted from my own

bullshit because I was always hard on myself. I was always worrying about things.

I would, what if shit to death. If something happened, I would catastrophize it

first. What's the worst case scenario? And then I would just insist that was going

to happen and then work hard to not make that happen. And so basically, that

fantasy version of me would collapse.

And I would start my perfect diet, my gung -ho version and stuff. And as real life

and me showed up, instead of adjusting my plan,

do you know what I would do? I'd end up quitting. And I wasn't quitting because I

couldn't lose weight. And I wasn't quitting because something was wrong with me. I

was always quitting because I had no flexibility. I didn't think about things in a

holistic way, I was quitting because I was hard of myself. And it was always so

much easier to quit a diet because on the other side of quitting was some relief.

Relief from the perfection I demanded of myself. Relief from the pressure I put

under on myself. Relief from the way I've talked to myself. That is why I quit

almost every diet I ever quit. It really wasn't the diet itself.

It was the way I talked to myself through it. And then on top of that, I never

really picked diets that matched what I needed. They were just trying to solve a

weight problem. So I would go back to the well of Weight Watchers and I would try

to cut out carbs or I would go back to the well of calorie counting, but none of

that was solving problems I really had. And so I would think I had failed instead

of realizing I was picking the wrong diets. I was starting too hard and too fast.

And I wasn't setting things up in a way that the Corinne,

who was stressed and hungry at times and emotional roller coastery and who was

really exhausted and who was hard on herself. I didn't pick diets that fit her. I

picked diets that fit the fantasy. And then another reason why a lot of our diets

go to shit in January is we also, we have something called fresh start effect.

Our brains do love a good clean slate. New year, new rules, new expectations.

For a lot of us, January, first of the month, a Monday can feel like some magical

moment where it's like, all right, I finally have the motivation and the ideals and

the things. I think I've picked out the right thing. And now I'm going to go off

and do everything right. But fresh start energy is good in one way.

It's like a double -edged sword.

Fresh Start energy gives you motivation. Fresh Start energy feels really good.

You get to create a plan. You get to do all that fun stuff. You get to visualize

who you're going to be. You get to imagine the life you're going to have. But

Fresh Start energy often forgets to plan for real life.

We pick things and we plan things as if we're never going to get tired. Like we're

not going to get stressed and want to eat. We plan as if nothing should ever go

wrong. We should just be able to do it.

We just, like, sit there and be an ass to ourselves. Or we go to option two,

which is let it go and just start over tomorrow. I'll deal with that Monday. I'm

going to get serious next week. Tomorrow, I'm going to be so much better, as if

tomorrow you're going to show up without today's problems. But here's the thing. We

forget there's a third option, and nobody's taught this option. And it's called

learning. And this is where I want you to slow down and really help yourself see

this. And no BS, I teach this really simple process. We use it all the time. It's

called notice, narrate, pause, and permission. And the truth is, most of my women,

they never get past the first step. They just notice things, which we've got to

notice, or we cannot change y 'all. because if you don't notice what's actually

We're just guessing. We guess what the problem is. And diets do that. They guess

what your problem is. Let me explain it this way. Let's say that you go to a

doctor with a headache. You know what a doctor doesn't do when you come in with a

headache? They don't give you two Tylenol and say, go home. You know what doctors

do? They diagnose. Because if a doctor just gave you Tylenol, they're guessing what

the problem is. Your headache must mean you need a pain reliever. There must be

nothing wrong with you. You just have a headache. But they don't do that. They're

going to ask you a lot of questions. They're going to be like, oh, how long have

you had this headache? When does it show up? What else is going on? They're going

to want to figure out some things. They're probably going to take your blood

pressure. They're probably going to ask you about, like, how much water are you

drinking? They're going to ask you good questions. Because Tylenol might help a

headache, but what if your headache is from really out of control high blood

pressure? What if it's from terrible vision? What if it's from stress? If they're

not diagnosing the right problem, they can give you the wrong solution. Even if they

give you Tylenol, which could help the headache, if you got out of control blood

pressure, you're going to have a heart attack and die. So we want to make sure

that we are diagnosing. Otherwise, we're going to keep coming back with the same

headache. And that's exactly what we do with our diets. We see some behavior like

we're eating at night, or we're stopping at the gas station on the way home and

getting candy. And we immediately diagnose ourselves. We're like, that is me not

being disciplined. Oh, I know what it is. It's because I'm lazy. Oh, I just need

stricter rules. But I want you all to think about this for a second. What if

that's not the problem? So let me just say, it's just like when I was doing my

pull -ups. On the week where I went backward, if I diagnose the problem as you're

not cut out for chin -ups, if I diagnose the problem as being lazy, I'm not going

to fix it. But if I diagnose the problem as, oh, I need to do more strengthening

work with my biceps. Oh, I need to do chin -ups more often each week,

not just two times a week. We want to make sure we're really thinking about things.

So let me give you another example. I went with a client, and she was very upset

recently because she had started eating candy in her car, like stopping at gas

stations, buying handfuls of candy, eating it on the drop.

Those visits for her were really hard. Her mom was often very angry at her,

and she was used to her mother being very kind and loving. Her mom barely

remembered her anymore, and she just wasn't herself. And my client felt so guilty.

It wasn't even that she wasn't eating the candy because of how her mom was being.

She was eating the candy because she said, Kren, I just feel guilty about it. When

I leave there, I always think I don't want to be there. She said,

a lot of times when I'm at home before I even go, I just think I wish somebody

else would deal with this. And she even told me, she's like, my mom's getting so

bad. I have caught myself sometimes wishing that she would just pass away. And she

was ate up with guilt.

And she was going anyway, but she was beating herself up for dreading it and for

having very normal thoughts. Sometimes she was angry at her mom, and she felt really

guilty about that. She never showed it, but on the inside, she was pissed. She was

pissed that her mom didn't remember her. She was pissed that her mom was yelling at

her. So she didn't need to quit eating candy. That was the worst thing that she

could do. Because if she diagnosed the problem is I just need to quit eating candy,

guess what? She'd be going and visiting her mom and be eaten alive with guilt and

shame. You know what? She needed to quit. She needed to figure out how she was

going to quit feeling guilty and ashamed of having normal human reactions.

And once we worked through that,

in her car that actually helped her with all of that. Because the candy was

soothing her pain. The candy wasn't the problem. But if we hadn't noticed her real

issue, she would have just kept trying to be stricter with food and she would have

kept failing because she would have kept feeling guilty and ashamed. And this is why

noticing the real problem matters so much behind eating. Because if you don't

diagnose the problem, you apply wrong solutions. And usually that wrong solution looks

like stricter diets. You just need more rules. You just need to try harder. And

then this one, the part that's most important, you try being harder on yourself,

thinking that that's going to help. And I will tell you, if being hard on yourself

worked, every woman in the Thank you.

keep doing that just to keep it off, which includes how you talk to yourself. That

becomes a habit in a pattern. How you handle mistakes, whether you diagnose or you

beat yourself up, becomes a habit. How you respond when things don't go as plan

becomes a habit. All of those things, we have to make sure that we are noticing

it. because if you lose your weight, beating yourself up over mistakes, talking

yourself like an asshole, going ham on you when things don't go as planned,

yelling at others when it doesn't go as planned, guess what? When you get to

maintenance and you actually get the goal weight that you want, you're going to have

to do that for the rest of your life. Otherwise, you'll be terrified that you're

going to regain your weight. So if the only way you can lose weight is by being

strict and punishing yourself with taking away food.

we don't need to sweep things under the rug. And we're not trying to let ourselves

off the hook. What we were saying in a reset is, okay, if I'm not able to follow

this plan, if I'm not able to do this, I need to diagnose what's actually

happening. So if you're eating at night, maybe it's not because you're undisciplined.

It could be when you look at things, maybe you're just under -eating during the day.

If you're overeating on the weekends, maybe it's not a willpower issue. Maybe

and it's muddy and I look like shit. Maybe you're not a failure. But when you

diagnose, you're like, maybe I'm always starting diets with unrealistic expectations

layered on top of a woman who's exhausted,

pulled in a million directions, really busy. So I need a plan to lose weight that

fits her, not fantasy mean. Because noticing the right problem is what lets you

apply the right solutions. That's how weight loss happens. That's how it starts to

feel doable with your actual life instead of something that you can only do if

everything's perfect and everybody acts the way they're supposed to. So if January

already feels like a shit show, The last thing I want you doing is starting over.

Just try for a hot second to notice and diagnose.

Because I don't think you mess things up. I think all that's happening is you are

being revealed exactly what kind of help you really do need to lose your weight.

All right, everybody. Y 'all have a great week. Wish me luck as I you on my

journey to get my chin ups and now to squat 200 pounds because this woman wants to

be strong. I always tell Chris, I'll be picking your ass up. You won't be picking

mine up in our old age. Y 'all have a good week.