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This week’s episode is a little different—it’s part two of the replay of my most recent live Q&A.

I kicked things off by tackling one of the biggest weightloss struggles I’m seeing women face right now. Then I opened it up to rapid fire Q&A. Woman after woman asked me the questions that were keeping them stuck—and I gave them the straight answers nobody else will.

I got honest. I got emotional. And yes, I went off about some of the diet lies we’ve all been fed for way too long.

If you’ve ever felt like you can’t lose weight, this replay might be the exact thing you need to hear today—the little nugget of wisdom that takes you from “I can’t lose weight” to “Maybe I can.”

Did you have a lot of loose skin after losing weight?

Did you have surgery to remove it? I did have a lot of loose skin after losing weight. Still do.

So if you look at my I don't know if you can see this, since y'all are here. Well, let me hold up this arm so I can see it. If you look, look at my arms underneath here, and there's let me let me try this arm. Hang on.

I gotta move this window around. This one actually has more of the creep and the loose skin. So, yes, I did not have any surgery on my arms. But when I like this, they look good.

But when I'm like this, there's, like, certain angles I'll do. Like, if you look at them as the as I move them around, you can see all the looseness. Even when I do, like like, when I do push ups, you can see the loose skin hanging from the tops of my arms. It just doesn't bother me.

I'm not saying I love it. I'm not saying that I don't sometimes wish it like, I wish it wasn't there and stuff, but here's what I'll tell you.

When I was two hundred and fifty pounds, I couldn't find an angle I liked ever.

Most of my life, I hated.

Just hated.

And I got loose skin all over me.

And it doesn't look good, but it looks good in clothes. I couldn't have that when I was two hundred and fifty pounds. Didn't matter how I dressed. I was not gonna look the way I wanted to.

Now I don't look the way I want to now, but I look a hell of a lot closer. And I'm just like, I'd rather have this than to have that. So a lot of you, I think you worry about the loose skin. How about you get some?

How about you get the life that loose skin allows you to have?

And then decide what you wanna do. Because I think a lot of you spend a lot of your time so afraid, like, oh my god. I'm gonna think this when I have loose skin, and I'm gonna look like this. I'm gonna look at this. It's like, you don't like where you're at now.

Why don't you see what life is like down there? Because the way I've always thought about it is like, when it comes to, like, thinking about my body now, I actually have a lot of body positive thoughts.

I've given myself the gift of lifting weights. I've given myself the gift of being like a, you know, like a six or an eight.

So very often, I have proud moments.

And I also have times when I'm just, like, looking at this and looking at that, and, you know, my legs look kinda rough. I've had the surgery downtown.

I've got long scars that traipse all the way down to my knees. My legs still don't look good.

They still look like melting candle wax, but not in my tights, not in my jeans.

When I'm naked, it's a problem, but it's only a problem for me, and I can work on me.

Most of us are not gonna walk around in life butt fucking naked.

Now I always tell people, I wish I hadn't have gotten surgery when I did. I wish I'd waited a few years because I wish I would've worked on my body image thoughts more before I had my surgery.

I it was very expensive, very painful, multiple rounds to still not like because I didn't train myself how to talk to myself about my body.

Now what happens is when I see things, it's easy for me to say, like, yeah, I'm probably always gonna pick up my body a little bit, and I move on.

Ten years ago, when I was getting surgeries and stuff, I was devastated that I still didn't like my body. It consumed me a lot.

I had to work really hard on that. So I always recommend to people, like, when you lose weight, do not have loose skin Until you get to a point where I don't think you have to, like, have a hundred percent amazing thoughts about your body, but you need to be really good at practicing compassion when you look at yourself. I practiced disgust for a long time and had surgery hoping that it would relieve the disgust.

And there's no loose skin surgery coming for anyone that's gonna make you look like you dream of looking.

I've known several people that have had all kinds of surgeries who've lost lots of weight, and we we're all in the same club.

So the best thing to do is work on your relationship with yourself first and get it really strong and get to the point to where you can have like like, I will look at my legs and just be like, ugh.

I worked so hard. I wish they looked better.

And I want them to look muscular and stuff.

And in that moment, I'm always like, and you have worked really hard, Corinne, and we wouldn't go back for anything.

And if this is the worst thing that's happening now, that is so much better than like, for me when I was overweight, it wasn't the pain of being overweight. For me, that was so bad.

Although that was really painful. For me, it was the pain I lived in every day where I all the reasons why I was eating to begin with.

That was the painful life I had to get away from.

Every day, I was like, you're a terrible mother. Your husband's gonna leave you.

Like, I I just I lived on the edge all the time. I I catastrophized everything. I what if'd everything. I worried about things I didn't even have business worrying about. And because of that, I would eat, and then I would feel really bad about my eating. I'd feel really bad about my body. I'd eat some more, and then the next thing I know, I was back to my original worries and and concerns.

That was the misery I lived in.

And so I knew that, like, to lose weight, I was gonna have to learn how to think differently because food was the only thing saving me from my own internal self narrative destruction.

I just worried about everything, like, just everything.

I'm getting a little careless with my good habits. When I have an overeat, it sometimes, about once a week, winds up in an effort eat. Even if not, then I have a hard time detecting if I'm hungry at the next meal and often overeat again, and I wind up just restarting tomorrow. Can you give me some tips for stopping the domino cascade?

We gotta interrupt in the fucking eat, Period. That's the best place that I can tell you to interrupt, and you're gonna there is a podcast called the three golden moments. Look it up. It's my losing one hundred podcast.

You need to listen to that because the interruption point isn't while you're eating.

The interruption point is at the end.

You stuff yourself.

You feel miserable.

You think you've screwed up.

You think why bother, that you can't do this.

I'm so careless with my good habits. This is not this has nothing to do with being careless around good habits.

This Carrie, this has everything to do with I am beating myself up when I eat in a way that I don't think is right, and that is cascading into a fuck it eat. And then when I fuck it eat, I'm really hard on myself. We don't fuck it eat unless we're being hard on ourselves.

Fuck it eating is always a result of saying something like, why bother? You always screw up. You can't do this. You messed up.

You might as well. I'll do better tomorrow.

That's where you gotta start. We have to start always at the end. That is the first intervention point because it stops the cycle from being completed. Your brain right now thinks that anytime you have a perceived mess up, what you're calling carelessness with your good habits that sounds really sweet and sounds really innocent.

Just call a spade a spade.

I think there's a way to eat, and sometimes I don't eat that way for a reason.

And when I break a rule that I got going on inside me, now I feel like I did it wrong.

Insert my asshole voice. The voice that says, why bother? Start over. Or the one that says, woo hoo. We'll just eat all it up. We'll get it out of our system, and we'll start tomorrow. And starting tomorrow usually means deprivation, restriction, doing something asshole.

And your brain knows. And when it knows that that's coming, it's gonna try to eat as much as it can and have as good a time as it can right now. It's either it's doing one of two things or both. I either need to finish this and get it out of my system because tomorrow she ain't gonna let me eat, and she's gonna make me exercise, And she's gonna take all this shit out of she ain't gonna go to the grocery store and buy no more of this. We're going back to clean eating or whatever it is you do. Or she fixing to be a real asshole to us. She fixing to tell us all of the reasons why we're a fuck up, so I've gotta eat to not get that.

And I'm gonna have a good time as much as I can, and then we can go to restriction, and then I can feel bad.

That's all that's happening. So listen to the three golden I think it's called the three golden moments. Last question. I'm having trouble stopping it enough when the food tastes so good. How do I stop this? Joanne, I just taught fifty nine minutes on this.

It has nothing to do with it tasting good.

Not a lick.

Let me tell y'all what it has to do with.

When something tastes really good, you're getting a rush of good, and you're probably not getting a rush of good anywhere else.

If you start eating something, like, there's a lot of reasons that will kick it off. I always tell my clients, it's never because the food tastes good.

It's always because good food represents something to you.

So let's say you over diet all day long. You don't eat enough food all day. The second your body gets a little bit of good taste in food, it's not gonna wanna stop because physically, you've primed it to have an overreaction.

Physically, it thinks it's got to eat a lot, and it's always going to eat the food that tastes good. It's not like it's going to say like, oh my gosh, you didn't get enough food today. Well, eat a little bit of what tastes good, and then please overindulge in broccoli because I'm gonna need a lot more food because your bitch ass is gonna starve me and wear me out again tomorrow.

No. It's going to want you to keep eating the food that tastes good because it knows like, if I get her to eat this, she'll eat plenty.

And we can offset all the future times that she's gonna work through lunch, starve us, eat very little because she fucked up yesterday.

So that's one thing.

The other way that it happens, if you're not under or undereating all day is for a lot of women, the only time they get a lot of joy and pleasure out of life is when they eat something that tastes good.

They don't talk to themselves very nicely. They don't take breaks. Like, when you eat good food, it might be the first time you sat down for the day.

It might be the only time that you're gonna, like, not worry, not to do do to do lists.

A lot of times my women will eat something that tastes really good and have a hard time stopping because in their brain, well, the second I quit eating, I really should be doing these things. I've got to do these things.

So we're extending the good. We're not extending the food. We're extending those things.

This is why I wish y'all would work with me and you would fucking quit hanging out in the podcast because you can't get help like this. This is why I wish you would work with me and to stop clicking on every influencer who's wearing a bikini or showing their six pack abs and their tanned ass sculpted body on Facebook and Instagram.

If they're not talking about this stuff, do not buy it anymore.

If you find someone like me talking about this stuff, I don't give a damn. I just want people to lose weight.

You can go spend your money with any fucker in the world, but I do not want you wasting any more money on diets that are just not helping you with what you need help with.

Okay. With that, we are done. I will see y'all next month.