I get messages like this all the time: "Corinne, I'm trying so hard. I don't know why I'm not losing weight."

Or maybe you're not even trying right now because you've been burned too many times. So you're scared to hope again.

Don't worry - you're not the one broken woman who can't lose weight. Today I'm giving you the "7 Simple (but not obvious) Reasons You're Not Losing Weight." Listen in for:

• The #1 reason you're not losing weight that you might not want to admit (and that's okay)
• Why what you're NOT eating is sabotaging your weightloss
• The habit that's erasing all your "good behavior"

I see so many women follow diet rules perfectly but ignore the real issues. Then they're left feeling confused and helpless when nothing works.

Ready to stop the guesswork and understand why you're stuck? Listen now.

Don't make yourself miserable doing keto or intermittent fasting or the "diet of the week." You just need help figuring out what's stopping you from losing weight. And I promise, it's simpler than you think.

Hello everybody. Welcome back. I want to talk to you today about something really frustrating when you're trying to lose weight and that is when you're trying so hard and nothing's happening. And usually what I hear from people who DM me on social or follow me is this, I don't know why I'm losing weight. So I want to talk to you about it today because I think there's a few reasons why this could be happening, but also we need to get really honest too about what it is you're doing and what it is you're not doing. So if you have ever thought, Corinne, I'm trying hard and I don't know why I'm not losing weight, or maybe you're not trying, but you just kind of have that question lingering in your head and it's frustrating you, I really think today's podcast is going to help. Now, sometimes I will tell you we know what's stopping us deep down, but we do not want to admit it. 

So if we do think we know, then we also have this unconscious belief that, well, if I know what it is I have to do, then I'm going to have to fix it. This is an important conversation to have because I want to be clear with you, I'm going to tell you some stuff today that will clear up real quick why you're not losing weight, but the only way for you to really hear it is to agree with yourself right now. I mean, right this second to this, I want you to agree that if I figure out what it is keeping me from losing weight, I still don't have to do anything about it. That you can keep doing whatever it is you're doing right now and you might as well agree to this because that is exactly what you are doing. Most of us. 

Deep down, we know what it is we need to do, but we are afraid that if we admit it, that means that we then have to change. And maybe you're not ready, maybe you're not in a position right now where you can, but keeping yourself frustrated in a cycle of being confused sucks. I want you to think about it. Every time you say, I don't know why I'm not losing weight, you just feel confused and confusion often leads to a feeling of helplessness on top, and I just want you to think about how shitty that feels. So when you say, I don't know, you feel confused and confusion makes you feel helpless, but I want to tell you this, when you identify what's happening, why you're not losing weight, you are going to now go from confused to at least you are aware of what's happening and that automatically feels better than being confused. 

And now when you see the shit that you need to do, you might be scared to fix it or maybe you think you can't fix it, but I'm going to tell you this. When you listen to this podcast and I give you these seven reasons, I would much rather you be scared to try and I would much rather you be thinking that you can't because then what we have now is called a champagne quality problem. You and I, we can fix things like being scared. Those things you may think that's not easy to fix, but I promise you I work with women every day on getting over the hump of being afraid of something they haven't been able to do before. We can also work on why you think you can't do things. There's a lot of times people just assume they can't do something and their assumptions aren't based in real facts. 

Our brains are so good about making shit up. And so one of the things that we can work on is we can work on the courage to try. We can work on making sure that when our brain says we can't do it, that it's not saying. For example, let me just give you a really good example. Very often my women will say that they can't stop eating at enough at night that they just can't. And I'm always like, are you a hundred percent sure that you can't? They're like, well, I've been trying for a month and it's just not working. And I'm like, okay, but let's really examine is it that you can't because someone is sitting there making you eat? Or is it in the moment when it's time to stop it enough? You feel compelled to keep going and they'll usually say, oh, I just feel compelled to keep going. 

And I'm like, okay. So now all we got to do is figure out what are the reasons that are compelling you to keep going? And now we challenge those things and we examine those things. So it's like I just want you to even think about the difference between these two sentences. I can't quit eating it enough. And the other sentence would be, there are reasons why I keep eating past enough. And as long as we get good at finding those, then I will slowly but surely figure out how to stop at eating enough. Just notice how different those things feel. But what I notice is that a lot of us, we just want to stay in all of that confusion. I just don't know why I'm not losing weight. So let me say it one more time. When you stay confused about it, that's an easy way for you to feel like shit and do nothing about it. 

When you agree that there's probably some reasons why you aren't losing weight and that if you know the reasons you are at least on the path to figuring out what you're going to need to work on if you decide to lose weight, that takes you from feeling helpless to feeling aware, which is automatically going to make you feel a little bit more in control of your situation, okay? We had to get that out of the way before we could do the reasons because what I did not want you to do is sit here and listen to the seven reasons with a fear that if you find one now you have to fix it. Your brain will want to shut off listening. All I want you to do is listen to the seven reasons with a mindset of I may find reasons I'm not losing weight and that's okay. 

I will get to decide if I want to do something about it or not. I can always just keep going, I'm going, I'm just going to keep going. I'm going without feeling confused and helpless. At the very least, you're giving yourself a choice about what to do rather than feeling helpless. Alright, let's go to number one. The first reason why you might be trying hard and not losing weight or you are sitting there thinking, I don't know why I'm not losing weight, is that you're skipping meals. So many women get busy and they miss out on meals all the time and then they sit there wondering, why is my eating going to shit the second I start eating? When you miss meals, your body has a biological response. Your body, especially women over the age of 40, you don't have the hormones to miss a bunch of meals and there's a second layer to this. 

Most women who miss meals, you're also doing it under stress. So it's not like you're just missing meals because you're just so enraptured in the book I'm reading or I'm just having such a fun easy day that I forgot to eat. Most of us are missing meals because we are people pleasing running out of time, meeting demands, rushing here and there, not making time to eat. We put ourselves all day long on the back burner and on the front burner is stress. We're allowing it to get all the attention so most women who miss meals are doing it under stress. So you've got two things happening to your body, really high stress, and you're also missing meals, which is a biological threat. And then some of us are also diet mentality, stressing our bodies out. We're trying to eat light all day long to make up for some big fuckup eat that we did or we eat light all day long just in case we blow it tonight. 

So basically from the moment your feet hit the floor until you go home in the evening, your body is probably reading stress all day long and your body is like, oh my god, when she's not able to eat and she is stressed to the hilt, my job is to fix it. That is your body's job. Your body and your brain are loving you so much, they just want to fix things. So you might notice that when you get home in the evening, when the day is done, the moment you start eating, your body is now eating at the end of all that stress and it's in what we call distress. I'm panicking. So when your body is in distress, guess what it does? Well, it's not going to reason with you, it's not going to be thinking clearly. It's not going to make wise choices. 

It's not going to sit there and think about all the wise behind why you want to lose weight. Your body is panicking. It is like your body just witnessed you getting run over in the street and it's either going to call 9 1 1 and go help you. Or it could sit back and be like, Hmm, let me recount how this happened. Maybe I should think about is that stop sign in a good place? We are supposed to, in stressful situations, our mind is supposed to shut down all of its reasoning and go straight into automatic rescue mode. And for most of us, what do you think rescue mode is? It's to overeat, to overreact, to panic, to juice you up. So when you start eating, your body is going to want all the food it can get. It's probably going to ramp up urges, it's going to make you eat more than you planned. 

It's going to say like, fuck that salad, we should get a hamburger and fries because that's going to be a lot faster than you trying to cook. Your body is reacting from that panic mode and it does that because it's trying to make up for the day, but it's also doing a second thing. Your body knows when you start getting into the habit of stressing it out. So if you're a chronic worrier and you miss meals and you are someone who go, go goes all day long and never slows down for just five minutes to eat when you're not someone who makes sure that your basic needs are getting met, guess what? Your body does? It adapts to that. It says, okay to compensate for someone who's going to act that way, I am going to need to eat way more food than I need now to one lower her stress levels now because she's having a hard time doing it. 

Two, to prepare for tomorrow, I need to just make sure that she's got enough on board so that this shit happens again. She can basically weather her own stressful shit storms with plenty of padding. So if you chronically are missing meals, you now will be forming the habit of also being a chronic overeater. Okay, so number two, this is when you're not losing weight. It could be simply because you are eating at night like an asshole, which is very similar to number one, but simply put, you're just eating a lot of food at night. Now this happens for six major reasons. There are six really good reasons why we tend to be chronic overeaters at night or why we lose control at night, why we can be so good all day long and then blow it at night. And one of them is missing meals like we just talked about. 

But there's also a lot of other emotional reasons why nighttime eating happens. And inside my no BS membership, we actually have a whole workshop that is dedicated to nighttime eating. It is a really good course that helps you kind of dig into all of those reasons and also what are the solutions behind those reasons? Because if you solve the underlying triggers for nighttime of eating, you get to watch your nighttime eating going down. But the main thing that you need to know is that nighttime overeating is literally a symptom of what we call bigger problems. A lot of us assume that if we are nighttime eaters, we must be weak, we must be undisciplined, we must be lazy. I will tell you nighttime eating is tied to things like using food as a way to reward yourself after a hard day. If you are rewarding yourself, that usually signals that. 

The real problem is you have a hard time seeing your own value and validating yourself. You might say, I seek other people's approval. I often used to say, I just wish someone would tell me I'm doing a good job. Or I would say, I don't know if this is right because my boss didn't say anything about it. I don't know if I did a good job because my boss never tells me that. That is like one signal that you are an under validator. You are an under rewarder of yourself that because of the lack of self reassurance and self validation, you are eating at night as a way to fill that void. And the biggest mistake most of us make in that realm is we think our bosses need to change. If everybody else around us will just tell us this glorious stuff, then we could do better. 

And it's such an awful, awful thing to wish for. Why would we ever want and wish for other people to tell us we're doing a good job versus saying, you know what? I wish? I wish I was so confident in myself that I wasn't looking for that in the first place. And that's what we want to be wishing for and we can become confident. There's a way to learn how to do all that. Our brains are amazing. There's lots of studies now they used to believe that our personality and whether or not we talked nice to ourself and everything was kind of just hardwired and after a certain age, that's just the way you are and it's not true. There's a lot of science that has come out in the last decade or two about neuroplasticity, which just means simply anything that you learned as a child, anything that you've learned as beliefs, anything that you think you are can be completely rewired as an adult and it's a lot simpler when you know how to do it. 

So another thing that nighttime eating can be a signal of is the feeling of bored or being lonely and the food is covering up why you're bored. So maybe you want more out of your life, maybe you're retired and you want more out of your life now that you're retired, you're like, I don't have passion, I don't have purpose. My kids are gone. My grand babies don't live near me and I'm just sitting here every day fucking trying to keep busy, but nothing is feeling like it completes me. And if you want more out of your life but you're afraid to make waves, you're afraid to try new things or you think that you're too old or whatever, guess what? That food becomes a way of entertaining you and passing the time. And if you're lonely but you also feel like people won't like you or you don't put yourself out into the world to make friends, again, that nighttime eating, it's going to sit there and be the friend. 

It's going to keep your mind off of what it is you truly want. So any nighttime eating that you're doing for sure is going to stall weight loss. It's not because we shouldn't eat after 6:00 PM it's none of that shit. If you're legit hungry, you should eat. But most of us are eating at night for one of the six hidden reasons and that is what's keeping us from losing weight. And those six reasons are symptoms of something deeper. It has nothing to do with discipline, willpower, you being lazy, you being broken. It's literally there're just these hidden saboteurs out there and nobody talks about them. And when you don't know them, guess what? It's hard to turn off your night time of eating because it is signaling there's a problem deeper inside you. Alright? The third reason why you're not losing weight is you binge on the weekends. 

So you're either a binge eater or you may not be a binge eater, but your weekends are where you blow it. And this is a lot like the nighttime eating, but there's one significant difference and that is this weekend binges are typically happen after you are able to hold your shit together all week long. So a lot of people tell me they are really good through the week, like girl, Monday through Friday lunch, I am on it. The second Friday night rolls around until Sunday when I have my last supper. It is on like Donkey Kong. Now, one of the things that I want to say about this is most people always say, but I was so good all week and their definition of good is screwed up. Now I want you to really listen to this because if you relate to this, you have to quit saying you were good. 

Most women equate being good with eating too little food, being so busy with everyone else's priorities that you don't get on the list at all and trying to not upset people. And while you're doing all that, you're not eating enough or you might also define good during the week as you eat really healthy, but your definition of healthy is you cut out food. You would also enjoy your food during the week is so bland and so boring. It gives you zero pleasure, it gives you zero joy and you feel like these are the things I have to eat because the other stuff are bad. All of that is a signal of someone who's setting themselves up for a bad weekend. Now it's not because you're being bad, it's because by the weekend you're fucking tapped out. You legitimately do need a break because you've been going so hard all week long. 

Number one, denying yourself enough food. Number two, denying yourself breaks, denying yourself any rest, burning the candle on both ends. And then number three to denying yourself any joy or pleasure in your food. And when you do that by the weekend, you are going to break because you desperately want a break and eating becomes the only way you know how to do it. So the weekend binges again are a symptom of problems underneath all that stuff and you've got to work through that. Otherwise you are going to be working your ass off all week long and then you come to the weekend and if you're going to quote unquote be good, then you are going to have no joy or pleasure in your food, no outlet for all the stuff you did during the week and now your weekend is going to just feel very stressful. 

All your body is saying when it wants to eat, like son of a bitch on the weekend is saying, I need rest. I need more joy and pleasure in my life. I need you to figure out how not to get to the weekend and set us up to feel like we have no outlet other than to eat. And then some women do this. Not only are they stay on their plan all week long, but then they jam pack their weekends with so much shit to do that going out to eat and stuff is the only moments of the entire week after week after week where you are actually enjoying yourself. So the symptom isn't that you're eating or the symptom is you're eating, but the problem is we got to look at your life. We got to start thinking about what are small little ways where you can start signaling to yourself that you matter, that there's five minutes for you where you can have a little bit more joy and pleasure and food without freaking out, that you're going to gain a bunch of weight. 

All of those things have to be addressed because your eating is just signaling a crisis that needs to be addressed. And the crisis is a life that feels like all you do is work and diet and unless you're eating, you don't know how to rest, you don't relax and you don't have any fun. All right? Number four is you work out hard for an hour a day and then you ain't doing jack shit. This is another reason why a lot of us are weight loss stalls or a weight loss doesn't even happen. Now I want to just say I love that you work out if you do, but your body most of all needs basic movement. I watch so many women go to the gym and kill themselves for an hour and cardio and stuff, and then when I talk to them the rest of the day they're sitting on their ass, they're not doing anything at all. 

They're not even trying to get up and move. So you need basic movement and you need some of it during the day, not just in the gym. So basic movement has benefits like luing your joints, it relaxes your spine and it also resets your nervous system if you stay jacked up all day long because you're stressed out worrying about things and go basic movement like taking a lap around your office, stretching for one to two minutes and stuff signals to your nervous system. Hey, we can get rid of some of this pent up energy that we're carrying around that's tightening up our muscles and stuff. Basic movement really does help. So those brief moments where you stand up, you walk around or stretch, helps your stress, anxious and overwhelmed nervous system release some of that pent up energy that it's around. And studies show also that people who walk just a little bit more each day have a significant health positive side effect. 

They have much less reported stiffness, they have lower blood pressure and all kinds of other things. So I suggest you make a lap or two around your house or your office every time you go to the bathroom. That's like an easy way to take the habit of pottying and tie in it to the habit of movement. Each time you grab your phone to check and scroll, then maybe you want to check out with some Instagram for a little bit or you want to scroll or you want to text your bestie, stand up while you do it. Even if you don't walk around, just stand up and do it. And yes, always park further away from shit. I know people say that, oh, that's just not good enough. Look, I don't want anybody discounting the little shit. Most of weight loss actually happens when we make sure the little shit's getting done. 

I love how a lot of women will kill themselves for an hour at the gym and then spend the other 23 hours of the day on their ass or vertical. The little shit adds up way more than one hour a day. So combine those powerful two things. Now, the fifth reason is you wait to feel motivated. This is why most people aren't losing weight is they're just waiting for that day when they finally get motivated. But most people don't ever feel motivated to do things. Just watch yourself for a couple of days in your day-to-day life. Notice how often you're actually like, oh my God, this is the moment I have a burst of motivation. This is why I'm going to work on this spreadsheet or even going to the gym 99% of the time when I go to the gym, I am not motivated at all. 

I'm willing, but I'm not motivated. Now, why is it that you shouldn't wait to be motivated to do things? It's because we have so much fear about doing things. If you've been waiting for motivation to join, no bs, good fucking luck. Most people that end up joining never join because they're motivated. Waiting to feel motivated means you're simply waiting to feel safe and good, good luck, your doubts, your fears, all that shit you think about not being able to lose weight ain't magically going away. It just isn't what's going to happen. And this is where most people come to me and I wish that this would change simply for your own comfort level. Most people, they are only going to feel slight motivation to join no BS when they wake up one day and realize the pain of staying where I'm at now outweighs the fear of me thinking I might not be able to do it. 

I have failed every diet before. I want you to think about this. There has not been some, I've just never had anyone ever join and say, Corinne, I don't know what happened this morning. I woke up and I was like, hot. Damn, this is my time. Nothing's going to stop me. Motivation finally kicked in and I went to your website and joined. No, that never happens. When I lost weight, I was anything but motivated y'all. I was 250 pounds, scared to death that I was going to fail again, but I also waited until I felt so fucking bad that the fear of failing was now outweighed by the fear of keeping on going the way I was. The fear of failing was outweighed by the amount of misery I was in. And I don't want that for you. I don't want you to get to the point where you're at your ropes end. I want you to think about this. Almost every diet you've ever started probably was because at some point you didn't believe you could lose weight. At some point things got so bad you were desperate and you did anything to lose weight. And I just want you to say, I can spend, let's just say in the next 30 days, you're going to start a diet. 

I don't want you to spend 30 days slowly eroding, getting more miserable and living in fear and then pull in the switch. That's like playing diet Russian roulette. Every click feels like ass. What I want you to do is just sit there and think If there's a high propensity of me trying to lose weight again, why would I extend my misery? Motivation's not coming honey. It just isn't. I refuse to sit around feeling really bad for a long time and to keep using daily constant low hum fear as an excuse to avoid working on this. I don't want to wait anymore to where the ship gets so bad that now I'm willing to do something. And that's what we all need to feel. Stop telling yourself you're going to wait till you feel motivated. Stop telling yourself, but I'm not motivated so I can't, you were probably not one time ever motivated to clean a toilet, a cat box, wipe a baby's ass clean up someone's vomit. 

None of us are ever motivated to do that stuff, but we're always willing. Why not decide I am willing to do this even though I'm afraid? Because sitting here, being in fear is no fun. When I'm in fear and doing nothing about it, I just get to feel like ass at the very least. If I'm willing and I try and I'm just afraid it won't work well, I get to a chance to prove myself wrong. And I used to tell myself that all the time. Corinne, you have to earn the right to know this won't work. You have to. I have told myself this in so many instances, in so many things in my life, and it's worked so well for me, which is whenever I'm just worried something won't work, I tell myself, Corinne, you should earn the right to know that because if you earn the right to know, it won't work. 

At least you tried. And so many times in my life I was massively wrong. I was very wrong. The day that I tried to started losing weight again, I had no clue that I was going to lose a hundred pounds, keep it off and spend 15 years of my life teaching other women to do it. I had no way to know what all of that was coming, none. So don't be sitting there waiting for motivation anymore. Just start telling yourself, I don't wait for motivation. I need to just tell myself motivation's never coming. So I need to figure out why I would do that without motivation. Alright, the next one, number six. You say you're doing all the things, but in reality, when you look under the hood at your eating, what you call doing it right most of the time is screwing up your weight loss. 

Let me say that again. When you are looking under the hood and you're looking at all the things you're doing right, what you call right most of the time is screwing up your weight loss and it's stalling you. That's like saying I'm pissed. Most of the time I do what I'm paid to do, but sometimes I just don't. So let me just back up for a second just to make sure I'm really crystal with you. So often when we're saying I'm doing all the right things and then when we look at it in actual factual data, I do this with my clients all the time, they'll say like, cor, I'm doing the four basics and I'm not losing any weight. And I'm like, okay, well let's go through those basics of the last 30 days. Tell me the percentage of times that you stopped it enough. 

89%. I'm like, oh, okay, tell me about the 11% when you didn't. What did you eat? Why did you eat it? Was it a big overeat? Was it a little overeat? Let's dig into it and then I'll go to the next one. How many times did you wait for a hunger? 94%. Alright, tell me about the 6%. Why didn't you wait on those days? What was going on? Was it just an accident or is this just where we need to get more aware? Or was it like we got another emotional eat going on? Very often we say we're doing all the right things and we are doing things and they feel like the right things and we are working hard and no one's taking that away from you. But we have to also be honest with ourselves. We have to say, these are the things that I may not be doing. 

These are the things that maybe worked for a while and it's time to change things up just a little bit. A lot of times when my clients aren't losing weight, they are hanging on to snacks and emotional eats that they needed in the beginning of their journey, but then once they lost about 30 pounds and maybe they've got another 30 to go, they're now eating at a maintenance level. And when we examine stuff, they're just like, oh, so I'm going to have to stop these emotional eats. It's like, yeah, and not only are you going to stop these emotional eats, but we're going to fix the root cause behind them. And when you do that, your life feels a lot better. So you've already experienced how much better life feels giving up emotional eats for the first 30. Just imagine when you get past these what life will be like. 

So for all of you, you have to just be honest. You can't sit there and say that you are doing all the things because none of us are are perfect. And I'm not telling you you've got to be perfect to lose weight. What I am saying is you really do want to know the reasons that are standing between you and losing weight because they're almost always emotional eats. And those emotional eats aren't standing in the way of your weight loss. They're actually standing in the way of you feeling better in life. So why wouldn't you want to figure that out? Why wouldn't you want to see those little hidden things, the things that are tripping you up? Alright, let's talk about the last one. And this is you are just not doing the easy stuff. And this one comes up a lot. When people work with me for a while, they somehow do a lot of the big stuff and the foundational stuff gets missed and they start telling themselves, but that's not good enough. 

We have been so conditioned by the diet industry that we have to work really hard to lose weight. And I don't believe that. What I think about weight loss is we shouldn't be working really hard. We should find all the hard parts of our life and make those easier so that eating becomes easier and easier for us. And I really do believe that. So what usually signals is there will be a lot of little things that you probably right now know you should do, but your brain starts going, but that's not good enough. I need to work harder. I really should just cut out all the bread instead. I always love it when people tell me they have to go off carbs because they eat bread out of control or something. I'm like, well, what if we just, instead of cutting out all of our carbs and feeling like complete ass, what if we just started portioning bread before we sit down at the table? 

What if we just said, alright for a couple of weeks I won't eat bread, but I'm going to keep all the other carbs so that I can figure out what it is that's unique about bread that I want to eat a loaf of it at night, at dinner. What's going on at dinner that makes me want to just eat bread roll after bread roll after bread roll. So for all of you, we have a game we play inside my membership that I want to share with all my listeners, and it's called the not good enough challenge. The not good Enough challenge is where you simply make a list of really little things, tiny things that make sense that yeah, probably should be doing that. And then your brain says, well, that's not good enough. And then you do it because how the hell do you know? 

How the hell do you know? It won't matter. You've been skipping that bullshit. How do you know that little thing isn't the one thing that kicks off your momentum and belief that things can be easier? Starts up for you? How do you know the little things aren't how you've always lost weight in the past, but you just didn't give credit to the little things? I want you to trust me on this. Again, you need to earn the right to know that these things won't matter. Stop assuming it just makes an ass out of you. So right now you're just assuming instead of proving that it won't matter. Okay, I hope this podcast helped all of you. If you don't get anything else out of this podcast today, I want it to be this. There's always reasons why you're not losing weight. Do not let yourself think you don't know why. 

My clients, anytime that they get confused, all they have to do is come to ask coaches and tell us what they are and aren't doing together and then we just quickly put together the easy things to do list for them so that they can start fixing the things that they need to fix. So if you happen to be one of my Nobis clients listening to this podcast today, take what some of this that you discovered, some of the stuff that you heard, and just take it to ask coaches and talk to your coaches about it. You know, have access to all of our expert weight loss coaches. Please make sure you're using them. And then the weight loss coaches, they'll probably ask you a few questions to zero in on some stuff and I bet we can have whatever it is that's holding you back figured out quick so you can get back on track. For the rest of you, if you love this podcast and you think it would help another woman, please forward it to her. I would love to keep spreading the word of no bs. Otherwise, y'all have an amazing week and I'll talk to you soon.