"You just need to be more consistent."

How many times have you heard that bullshit advice when you're trying to lose weight? It's like telling someone who can't swim to "just move your arms more."

Nobody ever explains what REAL consistency looks like when your kid gets sick... or when work blows up... or when you're exhausted after a long day.

So in today's episode, "How to Stay Consistent With Weightloss (Even When Life Gets in the Way)," I'm spilling it all. You'll hear everything I know about real consistency, like:

• Why perfectionism is the ENEMY of consistency (and what to do instead)
• How to be consistent in a way that actually gets you losing weight
• Why your "flexible plan" might still be setting you up to fail
• The 10-second mental shift that can save your weightloss when life goes sideways

Your life isn't designed for a perfect plan. So why do you keep trying to follow diets or fitness programs that don't allow for flexibility?

Consistency isn't about checking every single box. Hell, I lost 100 pounds while screwing up regularly. And I hope that gives you a sense of relief.

Because when you know what real consistency is, losing weight stops feeling impossible. And starts feeling like something you can actually do this time.

I want you to really understand that consistency is not doing it right. So many of us, if you think that

being consistent means I'm supposed to check the boxes, I got to do it exactly right. If I'm black and

white, I'm on or I'm off, you are setting yourself up to fail. And a lot of diets are very much constructed

without consistency being a key component to losing weight. And the way that I teach weight loss is you

have to learn how to stop trying to do everything and you have to start learning how to be consistent in

effort. So I'm going to re-explain it real quick for all of you because literally I think when you learn this,

what ends up happening is you get a sense of relief.

So many people tell me there's just so much pressure to lose weight. It's so hard. We get stressed out and

overwhelmed by it, and I think at the heart of it very often is this idea that we're going to somehow break

a rule or we're going to do things wrong or we're not going to do it perfectly. And if we don't do those

things, our brain, the reason why we feel the pressure, the reason why it feels hard, anxious and

overwhelming is because deep down inside of us, we all have something that we make that mean. If I

don't do it right, the one thing I want most will never happen. If I don't do it right, I will be a fuck up if I

don't do it right. I can't have the things I dream about. And when that is behind it, it actually is really hard

to lose weight.

It won't be because of the diet you pick. It's that internalized pressure that most women when they do a

diet, we are never talked to about this stuff. We can see someone else seem like they're just gliding

through having no problems. It looks so easy for them and it can be so excruciating and so hard for us,

and we think it's because something's wrong with us and something must be right about them. That's not

the case. There were just some people who had maybe a very lovely childhood and grew up with parents

who cheered 'em on every moment, taught them every emotional lesson they would ever need, and they

have got inner resilience. So it's not on them to think if they need to lose a hundred pounds and they can

easily do it. They're not sitting there beating themselves up or afraid of every little mistake.

They're just like, oh, I'm figuring things out. Like, oh, this is not a big deal. You know what? Tomorrow

is a new day. This won't be a problem. If all of us did that, we'd all lose weight. But that is not what

happens for all of you that are here. What happens is that when we don't do something right, we have a lot

of stuff that we believe on the inside. We have a big stack of beliefs. It means this, it means that. It means

we're bad. It means we're a failure. It means I'm going to be a bad mom. I'm going to be a bad role model.

My husband will leave me. We just have a load of things. And so let's talk about consistency for just a

second, because consistency isn't whether you do things right or not. Consistency is how often when you

are faced with a really hard moment, are you able to give the effort that in that moment you've got.

So I always like to liken it to a workout. I feel like that is easy for all of us to understand. Let's say you

have on your plan that you're going to the gym and you're going to do 30 minutes on the elliptical and that

is what you're supposed to do five days a week given to you by a trainer, get on that elliptical and it's

Wednesday and your day started with raucous traffic and then your boss gave you a huge project with a

short deadline that you had not anticipated, and you literally can't go to the gym, but you literally can't.

That's where the elliptical resides. Somebody who's consistent when they are stressed and tired and got a

deadline and flexibility has to come into play. A consistent person would say, okay, I know I got to work

late tonight. Here's what I'm going to do.

I'm just going to walk a couple of laps in the office for 10 minutes to reset so I can clear my mind. I can

get to work and I'm going to check that box. I know that I thought about how to treat myself today. That's

a consistent person. They gave what they could in the moment. Someone who's a perfectionist is like,

fuck me. Every single time I try to lose weight, the world conspires against me if my boss wasn't such a

dick, if the traffic had have been better. And then we just go and we spiral out and we get mad and we get

angry and we don't take a walk, we don't do anything but jack ourselves up and then when we don't get

our checkbox, we ghost our trainer for about a month, we just suddenly aren't showing up. That is like a

perfectionistic mindset. So when you're losing weight, and this is really hard for a lot of you, but I'm

going to tell you what the truth is. When you're losing weight, you are going to have to be flexible. Your

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life is not designed for a perfect plan. I don't understand why we keep trying to do plans that do not have

flexibility when we have lives that require flexibility.

You need plans that teach you how to be flexible. You need plans that not only teach you how to be

flexible, but also teach you how not to beat yourself up because you're not used to it. Here's one of the big

problems that you'll have to run into when you're losing weight, how to be nice to yourself when things

aren't going the way you want them to. When your family wants to go out to eat and you feel like you're

going to blow it, but you really want to go with them too. If your diet hasn't taught you how to slow

down, think through, challenge you to decide. Alright, if Corinne says, I have to get good at thinking

before I eat, I need to think through, do I want to go? If the answer's yes, what's my best decision when I

get there? What am I most going to need from myself? Do I need to ask for help from anyone in my

family to make sure that I don't give up on myself? That's the complex life. The easy life is to say, well,

fuck it. Things get in the way all the time. Nobody supports me. I guess I'm ordering cheese sticks in a

burger. Nothing I could do about it.

So when we are going to be losing weight, overcoming overeating, we have to learn how to be consistent

and we have to redefine what consistency is. Consistency isn't being perfect. Consistency is thinking

through at all times about ultimately in this moment, what relationship do I want to have with myself and

with the food, and what can I do not fixate on what I can't do? Did I do it right? You're never, ever, none

of you are going to get your world so perfected that you won't be triggered. That is not even the goal

when it comes to fixing your overeating. The goal of fixing overeating is to get to where you can get

triggered, know it and down just long enough to love yourself enough to make a good decision for

yourself to figure out what that is. To me, so much of weight loss is just slowing down our thinking. It's

like, can we take 10 seconds to just say, oh my gosh, I'm about to put a milky way in my mouth. I've

already bought it from the vending machine. I'm sitting here. I'm really just bored at work.

Do I want to solve my boredom with food today or do I want to be bored and tell myself it's all right? At

least you're getting paid? Or do I want to challenge myself to go to my boss and say, I could take on more

or to spruce up my resume because actually the boredom is signaling. I actually hate my job. I'm just too

afraid to go find a new one. I'm afraid I'll get rejected. So maybe the answer isn't a Milky way. Maybe I

should do some work on why am I so afraid of being rejected every day that I eat a milky way at my job

because I'm bored and I really want a new one is just another day I'm rejecting a possible better future.

You see, when we stop eating to solve our life, at the very least we open doors to things we might actually

want in life. And then we just got to decide, do I want to stay here or go after them? And if I want to go

after them, here's the things I'm going to have to do. Here's the things that are going to be required.

So much of our eating, y'all, I really do believe this when I look back on my own life, so much of our

eating is just out of fear of things we're eating, and we don't even realize what we're missing in our own

life. And I don't want that for any of you, but just giving you a keto or a meal plan, I mean, I'm a dynamic

person. I could probably sell any bullshit weight loss plan out there. There are tons. If I wanted to sell

meal plans and exercise plans and do all that stuff, I could get out there and sell it all day, and I probably

could. It would be easier, to be honest. Do you know what's not easy? Selling you on your life, selling

you on the possibility that there is more to this and it's hidden behind chips, pastries, fried chicken and

pizza. I want all of you to lose your weight, but honestly, what I really want for you is to have the better

life you dream of whatever it is you think your weight loss is going to give you. I want you to have all of

it. All right, y'all have a good rest of your week. Bye y'all.