Episode 319: Being a Confident Mother

Okay, I am so excited for this episode. For my long time listeners, you know that I don’t usuallyhave guests on my podcast. It’s usually me talking about different topics, different ways that wecan be changing ourselves and influencing our children.But I’m really, really excited for this special guest today, Corinne Crabtree. I’m going to give youa summary, but then I’m going to have her introduce herself to you as well.Corinne Crabtree is a master certified weight and life coach with a mission to help everywoman break generational curses in order to improve their personal health and wealth.Corinne lost 100 pounds 15 years ago and ever since she’s dedicated her life to teachingwomen how to do the same. Corinne is one of the leading voices inthe weight loss andbusiness industry.She is the host of the wildly successful podcast, Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne, which I’llhave a link to in my show notes, which has been downloaded y’all over 50 million times in 160countries.Corinne, isn’t that amazing? You can do something from your home and it gets to 160countries. Yes, like it’s always astonishing to me. Like even when I coach people in mymembership and they’re like, you know, I’m in Australia or just they’re all over the world.I’m like, oh my gosh, the world is now so small. I know. We have to like pause and be like, thatis freaking amazing. Over one million women have taken Corinne’s free weight loss course andCorinne now serves over 14,000 paid members in the No BS Weight Loss program.And I know Corinne, you’re just as proud of that, that free work that you can put out there. It ishelping so many people. Corinne recently founded the No BS Business Women’s Membershipand also has an advanced certification program that she runsfor weight loss focused coachesand professionals.And y’all can catch Corinne on Facebook and Instagram. Her greatest passion is helpingwomen get rid of their self defeating thoughts by using self love to never quit on themselvesagain.So welcome Corinne to my podcast, Confidence Coaching with Heidi and Jim. Thanks forhaving me. It’s going to be fun. I can’t wait to talk about all the things confidence. All the thingsconfidence. And I do want to, one thing I didn’t have in the intro was a little bit about your familybecause I, we’re going to be talking about that and how we can influence our children by uschanging ourselves.So Corinne, why don’t you introduce yourself to my listeners, share your story of beingoverweight, which I know was mostof your childhood going into adulthood.What prompted you to lose weight and then running this company and just a little bit about yourfamily as well. So I was by the age of nine, starting to aggressively gain weight.My mother was 17 when she had me.And so she was uneducated, very poor. By the time shewas 21, she had my brother and was divorced.And so we grew up literally either not having enough food to eat or we were in the drivethrough. Like I lived McDonald’s, KFC and Hardee’s growing up.That was like the three on repeat. A lot of people have three squares. We had the threestaples was part of the guaranteed meals. And then by the age of nine, it really started to pileon for me.

Like I just like my brother never gained weight, ate hamburgers every meal all the time. Me, Icould just look at a hamburger and gain 10 pounds. So I struggled with my weight, bullying allthe things like never played sports, that kind of stuff.All the way through school and through my mid to late twenties. It never got better. I mean,even the few times I was able to lose weight, I would bounce between 250 and 175 pounds.And then I just regained my weight almost. It felt like immediately. I got married in my latetwenties and then we had a son. Andwe, I mean, almost immediately we got pregnant.So after about a year into his life, I was at my highest weight ever. I was well over 250 pounds.I was in postpartum depression.I had suffered with depression as a teenager. It was coming back in a huge way. And onemorning he was crawling around on the floor just playing and he came up to me like he wantedme to play with him.And I just looked at him and it was like 10 o’clock and I was on the couch and I said, Mommy’stoo tired to play. And in that moment, it felt like my world crashed around me. It was like, Irealized how out of control I was and what all was going on.My mother had said that to me thousands of times when I was a child and it hurt. It made memad. I swear to God, I would never say that to my child that I, you know, I was just going to bea different mom.And when those words came in my mouth, I was like, I am just like my mother, except I don’thave the excuse that I’m working two jobs. My mom was legit tired.Right. Overweight and sick of my life and doing nothing about it. And so I cried all day. Myhusband came home that night.He was like, what is wrong? I mean, you can imagine if you’ve been crying all day. Right.Right. I don’t know what I’m going to do, but I’ve got to figure this out because I, one, I did notwant to pass on bullying over your weight to my child.Mm hmm. I did not want to pass on my eating habits to my child. I mean, when I was growingup, I didn’t realize they were so unhealthy. But as Igot older and older, like I just, you know, Iwas in my early thirties already having heartburn on the regular and couldn’t go up the stairswithout being winded.If I, you know, I remember having a fear that if Logan ran out in the street, I wouldn’t beable tocatch him because I just couldn’t fast. So I just decided I was going to lose weight and I wasn’tgoing to do anything that was too hard.I wasn’t going to do anything I wasn’t willing to do for the rest of my life and that I was just goingtofigure out how to change my life. I didn’t know if I was losing the hundred pounds. I didn’tknow any of that stuff. I just knew I couldn’t keep doing what I was doing.So I lost a hundred pounds over a course of about 18 months. I slowly crept up onchanges.Like my first big epic change was when I went to McDonald’s instead of getting a supersizednumber two with mayonnaise instead of mustard.I got a suit. I got a number two with mustard. Stopped adding the mayo on. Oh my gosh.Those small changes are huge. I’m constantly telling my clients like small things.They add up. They are where they’re there where the gold is. Yes. And so I just kept doingthat. And then every day I would ask myself, what is one little thing I can do?It’s a little bit different than yesterday. Sometimes it was like the mustard thing. Sometimes itwas go for a 15 minute walk. Sometimes it was don’t talk to yourself like a butt today.

Like every time that I would catch myself diminishing what I was doing, like saying, ooh, that’snot going to be a good enough. It’s going to take forever to lose your way to be like, no, oldKorean thinking. All I know isthat if I keep doing positive things, positive things will happen.If I stop doing positive things, negative things are going to happen. Yeah. I just kept talking tomyself and calming myself down. And eventually not only did I lose the weight, but I had lostthe version of me that self loathed, hated herself.That only knew how to like demand stuff, order herself around. Like I had changed fromsomeone who always thought that she wasn’t doing enough to know like here are the things thatyou do.Andthis is going to take us far. So I changed as a person on top of it. And that’s why I wantedto start a business around it because I knew that I could help women not just lose weight, butactually like themselves and what they do in terms of how they live to keep it off.I knew I could teach them all of that. Right. Right. Because that’s not what is typically taught.Exactly. So it sounds like from the beginning you kind of knew that your self talk was a bigportion of what had to change.Is that correct? Like talk about what and you already just have what was going on through yourhead, like those little things that you changed. Did you see a difference how you showed up asa mom just with that mental talk even before you did it?And then as youwere changing that mental talk and as Logan was growing. Yeah. When Ifirst started, I didn’t realize the mental talk had to change. It was like it was one of the thingsthat I was kind of doing and didn’t realize it was making a big difference until I’d noticed somedifferences.And I started thinking about like, oh, I feel better because I’m not letting myself just sit here andbe mean to myself all the time. Like I remember I was when I first started, one of the things Ireally wanted was to learnhow to exercise.Like not for weight loss, but because all of my friends exercise like they ran races. My brotherlifted weights. Like they had fun with movement and I was like, I want to be that person.Like I want to be someone who does that. I hadalways the only time I’d ever exercised in mylife was when I was like beating myself up for being overweight. And I had decided like, no,here’s what I really want.I want to be an adult athlete. And that was such a different reframing as to how I hadalwaysthought about exercise. And so I went to the gym and my first steps were to literally get on thetreadmill for 15 minutes.I knew I could walk. And I was like, all I knew how to do. And I remember walking in andthinking, you don’t belong here.They all think the big girls arrived.Like people like you don’t go to the gym. They’re all looking at you. Like I had my husband’sclothes on. I was like, you don’t even have real workout clothes.Like every self-loathing thing was flying in my brain like the flying monkeys of Wizard of Oz.And I remember walking in and feeling the shame and telling myself, look, what’s not goodenough is sitting around telling yourself 15 minutes won’t count.Yeah. Because then you don’t do anything. That’s thedefinition of not good enough. The newway we think about it is whatever you do is going to be good enough now.And all this other stuff that’s going on, we just got to like get through it. I didn’t even try tochange a lot of that shaney stuff in the beginning. I was just like, just keep showing up.

Just keep showing up. And that was the like initially to get to eventually become confident.The first stage was to be willing and to just do things.And to feel it. Like was it just to like, it just like to feel that almost that shame or whateveryou’re saying was that a big piece of it? Like back then, like honestly, there was, I didn’t dothought work.Like I never read a self-help book. I mean, you got to remember this is like 2005. Right. Right.Right. Maybe three or four. I don’t even know who was like the self-help lords of the day backthen, but I didn’t read them.I was reading Harry Potter. So right, right. But I remember feeling shame and then saying like,but go anyway. Like I didn’t run from it.I wasn’t like resisting it. I just wasn’t letting it drive the ship anymore. And I like to read like theway I like to talk about it because my clients, I try to teach them this all the time.We can have opposing emotions at the same time. There’s like the duality of them. It’s like Icould feel shame for what I was wearing, how out of shape I was, all of the things that I thoughtother people were thinking while also feeling very willing to take the first steps of becoming thenew me.Right. So like we both, all of us walked in the door every day until the part of me that waswilling was becoming more self-assured.Like the next step to confidence was like, I started reassuring myself and it’s okay. Like no onehas said a word to us. You know, like, like those kinds of things.And I think I was just graduating up until when there was just a day where I was just reallyconfident whereI was just like, I just now go to the gym. Like I, I didn’t, I wasn’t overthinkingmore.Like I knew where to go. I knew what to do. It wasn’t as bad as I thought. I was able tochallenge myself a little more. So it’s like one of those things wherein my early days, and this iswhat I always like for my clients to understand.They get so scared of processing emotion. Like all the things that us coaches say you need todo like thought work and stuff. And I’m like, we do need to do that stuff, but we can do it in waysthat doesn’t feel like we’re working.Like so much of it can just be like in this situation, try thinking like this. Try just adding this on.Like, you know, I like to make a lot of the like work that I do for the emotions and stuff superaccessible to the person who has spent a lifetime.Not knowing anythingabout it or shutting it down because that’s what happens in mymembership. My members usually come in. They’ve just only ate through it their entire life andthey don’t know anything about it.This is like new news to them. Try to make it super accessible by just like sharing thosemoments where it’s like you can feel shame while also feeling compassion for yourself thatyou’re thinking that.Willing to take a step forward, even though you’re feeling that too. I just think it’s so helpful forthose people in those early stages. Right. And to be normalized. Tell me back at that moment,like how much belief did you really have that?Okay, I can, I can actually lose a hundred pounds and even you can equate this to yourbusiness too. When you startedthe business, I think sometimes we can see people that are

really successful and we can think that, oh, on day one, you knew this is how it was going toturn out.And this is one reason I love reading books about CEOs or people that have reallyaccomplished a lot. I have a lot of, you know, clients that they want to achieve goals.They want to go after things, but so often we forget. No, at the beginning, we don’t even know.We just have belief I can get through this day or even belief I could maybe fail.So talk to me a little bit about that belief with the weight loss and then even as you started yourbusiness, like, what did you even believe then? And how did that belief and confidence grow?So for both, the common denominator is I had about a negative 10 belief. Number one, on theweight loss side, I’d failed every diet known to man.Like every, some I’d had some success and then like weren’t, you know, went back and, youknow, the success I had was just being able to be compliant, but I wasn’treally changing how Iwas.Like it was just me beating myself up on the business side. I had even less because it wasreally, really strange when I first started my business. I didn’t even think about it as being asuccessful business.I just thought Iwant to talk to some chicks on the internet and email and help them lose weightjust like me. And if they pay me $20 to make them holler, I’m happy. I was the extent of mythinking about that business.So like on the day one for like, for me, especially in business, I was like, you are uneducated.You’ve never been to college. You don’t know anything about this stuff, but I bet you can just dothese things.And so I was very limited into what I thought my success would be. To me, my success wouldbeif I could just make a few extra bucks so that my habit of wanting every workout tight knownto man and gadget was paid for by me.I was thrilled. I met that goal. Like it doesn’t take much money. And then I was like, here I am.I’ve arrived on theweight loss side.It was really hard because like on the business side, I didn’t even know to dream. Like it wasjust, you know, like it wasn’t a big thing, but like on the weight loss side, there was so muchpain.There was so much past. There was somuch, I mean, I had been overweight. Mine felt likemy entire life. You had to like create and birth a new person. Yes.And so I had no belief in losing a hundred pounds. I didn’t even think about it. Like I was justlike, that scares me. That’s probably never happening. We’re not going there.What I did believe is I know I can feel better. I know I can make some changes. That’s why Ikept my beliefs very doable in the beginning. I just stuck with what’s in front of me today until Icould thinkabout what’s in front of me for a few days.Then once I got good at that, I could think about a week or two. And then next thing I knew thatwas just natural. Like I was starting to get success. Like, you know, the number was changing.I was doing what I said I would do.Like that to me blew my mind. And how I had got super consistent. But I like the first like thefirst like two to three months.

I ate the crap out of ice cream every night. Mm hmm. I was not ready to give up that emotionaleatingaround ice cream. There were other trades I could make during the day, but that was ano. Mm hmm.So but then I got to where I was like, you can have ice cream at night, but here’s some otherthings we can change. Mm hmm. And eventually I started feeling better and because I wastalking to myself better.I realized I started naturally thinking, I think we can eat a little less ice cream. Let’s just try.Let’s just try. Yeah. And then everything, but it was like everything was becoming easier andeasier and it just evolved.But it was simply because I wasn’t demanding. I was meeting myself where I was. I wasn’texpecting myself to believe in things. I wasn’t ready to believe in. Yeah. I was just like, there’salways something right in front of me.I can put all my trust, hope and belief in. What is that? And let’s go there and let’s do it. Youknow, something I’m hearing you say in all of this, especially compared to maybe the diet toyou had done previously.I hear you saying I was going inside. Like I was no longer meeting other people to be theauthority, but reaching inside of me. What do I want to do today?What do I believe? Even if it’s just for today, like learning to trust ourselves is such a hugecomponent to confidence andjust figuring out who we are.Even in the middle of life when a lot of people, we have to kind of be, we’re going into newseasons as kids go to college and things like that. So I hear that and I think that’s reallyimportant.I, well, that was everything for me and it was a lot of just, I call it belief stacking. Uh huh. Likefinding those accessible beliefs that I could have and just focus on those.And then that pie, it’s kind of like we were talking about earlier, I hadall these incrementalchanges, these small things that I was doing and they added up just like small beliefs collectedover time.They add up and then they kind of form like a bigger belief after. Yeah. Yeah. And so I reallyjust focused on that. Yeah. Um, so I want to ask you how all of this has really impacted yourson.You know, society can send messages to mothers that, Hey, your improvement really shouldbe secondary to supporting any improvement or developing your children.So how has you improving yourself really been such a support for your son, for your health andyour business? Like tell us ways that these things have impacted your family.So the first thing is just like it was so much easier to feed Logan better when I wasn’t sittingaround feeling like a hypocrite or a fraud.Like do as mom says, not as she does. Yeah. Because I was sitting there thinking like, I don’twant to raise him like that. Number one, I don’t want to model to him like it’s okay for me to eatthis way, but it’s not okay for you to eat this way.So I really wanted us to be more congruent and I didn’t give up all my stuff. I didn’t make himlike, you know, eat like a, you know, a little saint either, but we, you know,like I added more vegetables. I added more fruits and stuff over time, which meant he wasgetting more fruits. He was getting more vegetables. So I think health wise, it really impactedhim, especially because he was always a very active child.

He never played sports. My son has autism.So he didn’t play sports, but we did play onetime. He tried to play a soccer and that was not good. We realized that he just like team sportswas never going to be his thing.It was painful for him, you know, and it was like, I was not going to put him through all that. Andso, but he was very active. So when as I learned how to bike and run and be able to have likemore just cardio capacity, I could go to the playground with him and I could walk around andlike I had the energy to push him.I could like show him how to slide. Like I some of that stuff, I literally, I promise all of you, Iwouldn’t have been able to do had I stayed at my size. I had gotten to where I everything hurt.I was not flexible. Like, like I was probably 30 in a50 year old body by that point. And in fact,it’s probably been worse because I’m almost 50 now.And like I’m probably in better shape physically than a lot of 30 year old. Right. Yeah, I’m sureyou are. That was probably one thing. The business sideof things.Um, that’s probably where like, I never had any, I just have never had guilt over exercising andtaking care of myself physically. And I think it’s because I’ve always closely related it to thisdoes impact Logan.Uh huh. This is important. Like because I want him to see the value in movement. Like evennow he’s 20 and I often ask him like, Hey, I’m going to go out for a wall.Did you get a walk in today? Like it’s really pretty outside. Like I try to just like prompt him andbecause Idon’t make him work out. I’ve never expected him to, you know, I’ve, he knows I liftweights.Every now and then he comes in, he watches me and stuff and I just figure if he’s everinterested, he’ll do it, but I try to encourage him to do gentle movement. You know, like, Iencourage all of my clients.I’m like, you walk for the rest of your life. You’re, you’re like 90% right there. Right. So the onlything on the business side is I’ve had to work on mom guilt for working.And, um, like I could bespending time with him and I spent a lot of time with my coach workingon one of, like what do I want to define as mothering?And part of mothering for me is creating, um, like financial stability, not only for us now, but forhim when I’m gone.And so when I started doing that, it alleviated a lot of the guilt. It’s like, this is one of the bestways I mother is by making sure that we are all taken care of this way because a lot of uswomen, especially we like, you know, men don’t have tons of workguilt.No, no, they don’t. They have been brought up to like, that’s how you father. And that that’s apart of their role. Society tells them that’s part of their role, but you and all of us have to defineand we need to have that authority and thatconfidence.What will mothering be for us? Okay. Keep going. And so, well, and some of the things that Idefined as mothering is being tired sometimes and not wanting to talk being mothering to me,being a mother is sometimes you’re listening and your brain is in some other world thinking like,I’d rather be talking about something else or, you know, I love my child, but he’s a 20 year oldboy. Our interests are very different. You don’t necessarily want to come in and talk about, youknow, shopping like I do.

Right. So like for me, I just had to really define what mothering was going to be so that I cangrow that confidence that I’m doing the right things. Cause I for me, confidence, especially inmothering, but in anything is a decision youmake that you are on the right track.It’s not anything else other than that. Like we’re not just born with confidence. No. Most of us,it doesn’t come naturally. I always tell my clients, confidence is earned.Sometimes we have to go through the stages of feeling like a fool and being courageousenough to go do it to prove to ourselves that it’s not as bad as you always think. And then thatgives us the confidence to keep going, but it’s not what we accomplished.It’s the thought, oh, this is different than what my brain imagined. So I just think that for me,that was really important with Logan, but even like today, one of his favorite things to do in thewhole world is to go to,there’s one mall in Nashvillethat he likes and I’m going on a trip this week and actually need togo get something. And I was sitting there thinking, all right, cause I work, I do work a lot, but Ilove working.And so one of the things I said was like, I’m going to take him withme and I am going to betired after this and I would love anything to go by myself. But I, what I want more in this momentis to be tired and know this is a good opportunity to spend some time with Logan because I’mgoing to probably want to work tomorrow.And so we just, I think we just all make trades as a mom. I think we figure out where we canput in those critical moments and when we’re in those moments, we don’t judge ourselves.I won’t love every minute while we’re shopping, but I will love that I chose that. And you choseit right. That authority for you to choose like this is what matters to me.Yeah. Yeah. Um, how, so I want to talk a little bit about like, you know, our self worth asmothers, again, this can be society can be telling us that it’s dependent on what your childrenachieve.I work with my clients helping them like stay in their lane and understanding what are theresponsibilities in your lane and your child’s lane and how those are very different in our lane.We teach, we support, we love, but our child is the one they get to choose what their actionsare going to be and what they’re going to be achieving. But of course it can be easy as a mom,even to like look at what they’re doing and think, Oh, that’s a reflection of me or I did a good jobor I didn’t do a good job.How has your mental talk and confidence developed by you separating yourself from like, Hey,here’s my worth. And this is what Logan’s going to achieve or not achieve.And in some way, um, in avery elementary sense, we have to separate ourselves from thescale as well too. That like that scale, that number is not a reflection of who I am.So maybe talk to us a little bit about that. Well, I always like to think of it this way, especiallywhen it comes to the scale and even with mothering is there’s like the, let’s start with the scale,the scales number is a reflection of my behaviors.It’s not a reflection of me. Hmm. My child is a reflection of their behaviors. It’s not a reflectionof me. Hmm. And even with your child, their achievements aren’t a reflection of who they are.It’s just a reflection of their habits and their actions. I think that’s just really important for us ashumans because otherwise, even if everything’s going smooth, if you’re giving credit to thingsor people,

then what happens is when they don’t go smooth, then our self-esteem and stuff takes a hit.What I always like to think about is, um, this is a reflection of things I’m doing or things I’msaying,but at the end of the day, I am a loving mother.Hmm. Regardless of what happened with Logan, it’s always been easier for me, I guess, toseparate because, you know, once he got diagnosed with autism, I had to clean the slate ofexpectations.Hmm. And, you know, like we weren’t going to have a typical journey, but I didn’t want us tohave a terrible one either. Like I did not want to be one of those parents that just talked likeautism was the lot of life and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.I reallyhad to decide because I was in a lot of pain for a few years around it. Like I made itmean I was something I must have done something while I was pregnant and, you know,there’s a lot of things I took.Like I just felt so guilty. Like I had lost itand I had to really work on that that like that’s just nottrue. I will never know what caused it and there’s no sense in blaming myself.Right. And all it did was put separation between the two of us. I was separating from him. Andso I think it’s just important that we always think about like successes like with our child when Icleaned the slate, I just really decided Logan’s going to be whoever he’s going to be.My job is to influence as much as I can an environment where he can be the best version hecan be. And that’s where I put all my energy and focus.And so everything that he has done and accomplished my husband and I, we always say wenever take credit for it. Like he literally is one of the most polite humans you’ll ever meet.Oh,he just is like, and we’re amazing quality. This is the thing. Like I always tell Chris likethere’s no way we can take credit for this because me and you are the least polite people we’veever met.We are terrible. Like, you know, but Logan is just like, yes, ma’am, thank you. Like he opensdoors for people. I looked at Chris the other day and I said, he didn’t learn this from you.When’s the last time you opened a damn door for me? So we just always think with Logan.The reason why he is the version of him today is because we really just decided to give him anenvironment to figure himself out.Oh, you know, we provided therapy. We did a lot of things. So like when I think about what I’mproud of, it’s not because of what he’s done. I’m proud of how I showed up.Oh, I love that. You know, and that’s very different. And the same thing happens on the scale.It’s like if the scale goes down, so many people are just like, yay scale. It’s like they give thescale so much credit and I’m like,I didn’t do anything for you. I’ll scale just laid there and got stepped on. Why are you giving itso much credit? All that scale does is say I am a reflection of the past seven to 14 days.So if you want to be proud, go back and look at whatever you’ve done. It’d be proud of yourbehaviors, be proud of your habits, be proud of you. And then if it doesn’t go in the directionyou want, do not sit there and think that you’re a problem.Go back and look at your behaviors and decide which ones need tostay and which ones needto go. Yes. And figure that out because it’s like, it’s just, I don’t know,as humans, it just feel like we are always trying to make everything so monumental about usas a person. Right. Like, you know, build yourself up, talk nicely to yourself and stuff,

but everything doesn’t have to be so deep all the time. Yeah. Yeah.Yeah. We’re humans. Ilove, so my last question I’m going to ask you, you know, is Logan proud of you?I know he is. I had an experience several years ago, right after I started my podcast, mestarting my business was very much a sense of I wanted to have something when my kids weregoing to college.I could see I didn’t want their actions, whatever they’re doing to, for me to feel like, oh mygoodness, this is like a real their reflection or their actions are a reflection of me.And I wanted to also have things I’m focusing on, not just them. And I started my podcastalmost four years ago just because that was a big piece of what I wanted to be a part of mybusiness.And a couple months into it, my son who was 15 at the time,we were driving in the car and hesaid, mom, I’m really proud of you. And I said, oh, what, why is that? And he said, you said youwere going to do something hard and you did it.And he said, your podcast. And in that moment, I sat there and was veryovercome that I hadnot started my business in any way for it to be this thing that they’re proud of their mom forreally for them.But I realized I’ve done hard things in my life, maybe before I had kids and also kids don’trealize that parenting is ahard thing. They sure don’t. But I, in that moment, I thought I am sograteful that I have decided to do these things that maybe I thought were selfish or going tobenefit me and to then start seeing all the ways it’s benefiting them.Yes. So let’sjust kind of finish off here with what are some things has Logan ever expressedthings like that? I don’t know if that’s something he really has and how is that fueling you andeven just your confidence for the things you have coming up?I know you have some things you’re now looking at. I know you just bought a restaurant. Imean, Korean, your business is an eight figure business. I don’t think I had said that earlier inthis episode. Like this is a amazing thing you have created.But so I know Ihad several questions in there, but. Well, I don’t, he has told me he’s proud ofme for certain things, but I will tell you the funniest things that he tells me that he’s proud of mefor.And it’s usually has, he knows I’m successful and stuff, but he’s, it’s never about that. He’ll belike really proud of me because sometimes he’ll, he’ll see me on YouTube every now and then,like, like he stumbles upon my work in places and he will listen and he’ll be like, you know, I’mjust really proud of you.You were talking with some lady the other day on some call and you’ve really made her feelbetter. You know, like he notices things like that more than anything. Um, he has very oftentold me, and I think this is where I feel proud is more when he notices like, um, he’ll say, well,mama, I want to talk to you about like, especially when it comes to emotions work.And like our thinking, like he studies a lot of that stuff. I think just naturally being around memakes him curious about it. Um, but he’ll say, I want to talk to you about it because I knowyou’re an expert on this and like he really believes it.Like, you know, and I mean, I do think I’m an expert on some things, but if he ever hasquestions about a lot of things, like he’ll come to meand say, well, I want to talk to you becauselike you’re an expert.

Like, you know, right, right. You know, that’s a huge compliment from our kids. Huge. Yes.And so that always makes me feel really good. It’s like, he notices like he’s, um, you know, he’s,he’s paying attention to it and he trusts me.Like, you know, not everybody’s kids always trust them to ask advice and have the rightanswer. Yeah. Yeah. Our autism journey has been so unique and special.It’s like, you know, for all the times that I miss certain things that, you know, that we might notexperience. There are so many things that Logan does that a lot of parents never get toexperience.Like we are still like his best confidence, the people he trusts most in the world and stuff likethat. So that’s always, I don’t know, my husband and I, we get really touched by that.Yeah. Oh my goodness. That is wonderful. Well, to wrap up here, um, could you share withmy listeners where they could find more information if they want to, um, join the No BS, theweight loss,the coaching group that you have, I will have links in the show notes and, and any of the socialstuff that I share. Um, and maybe even a little bit about the business group too.Yeah. So if you’re interested in the weight loss, I always tell people to start first and foremostwith my free course. It’s no BS free course.com. That will get you an introduction to the veryfirst things I did to lose weight.Like at that very beginning when I had no confidence, we’re talking under the bus confidence.Um, but that’s a really good place to start. And then if you are like an online coach or coursecreator, you have some kind of business that you’re trying to grow or scale or start online, youcan go to nobiasbusinesswomen.com and check out everything we’re doing over there.Okay. Oh, that’s wonderful. Okay. Corinne, thank you so much. I really appreciate this timeand I know my listeners are going to learn so much. Thank you. You’re welcome. Awesome