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Most women lose weight doing shit their brain tells them doesn’t count.

A 10-minute walk.

Stopping after 4 cookies even though you said you wouldn’t eat any.

Planning takeout instead of cooking.

None of it feels like “enough”—but it actually works.

You know what doesn’t work?

Beating yourself up and quitting every time things aren’t perfect.

In this episode, I’m calling out the lie that you need to be “more consistent.”

You don’t have a consistency problem.

You’ve got a perfectionism problem.

And it’s costing you weightloss.

Listen in—I’ll teach you what real consistency looks like, how to stop quitting, and how to lose weight even on your messiest days.

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Subject Line: That’s not good enough” is costing you weightloss

Preview: Most women lose weight doing what their brain says doesn’t count…

Women who lose weight do the stuff that their brain screams…”THAT’S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!”

Like…

🙄 Taking a 10-minute walk while thinking, “This doesn’t even count”

🙄 Stopping after 4 cookies instead of all 10—even though your brain says, “You already screwed up.”

🙄 Drinking water instead of eating—but feeling like a failure because there’s so much food noise.

🙄 Planning for takeout—but telling yourself, “You know you should cook your meals.”

These women lose weight because they’re overriding the bullshit of their brain. 

The women who fuck around with the same 10lbs for years on end? Who gain weight back they worked hard to lose? Who can’t seem to get “motivated” enough to start?

They don’t do this shit! They sit around complaining they aren’t consistent.

BULLSHIT!

Those women doing the stuff that ain’t good enough ARE the consistent ones.

They’re consistently figuring out how to show up—even when their mind is screaming, “You’re a failure.

Here’s what I want you to hear loud and clear:

You don’t have a consistency problem.

You have a perfectionism problem.

This week on the podcast, I’m breaking that shit down.

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You think consistency means doing it right.

Following your diet like a robot.

Checking all the boxes.

But real consistency?

It’s showing up with what you’ve got. And some days that ain’t much.

You want to lose weight?

You’ve got to show up in all the ways.

Some days you can do it all.

Some days you can’t.

But what you can’t do… is do nothing just because it ain’t perfect.

Nobody loses weight that way. 

I know. I’ve lost 100lbs and taught over a million women to do the same.

So quit listening to your bitch-ass brain… and start listening to me.

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This episode will flip your entire idea of consistency on its head—and show you how to lose weight for good.

– Corinne

P.S. Most women lose 5lbs doing things they’ve spent YEARS calling “not enough.” This episode shows you why they work—and how to stop quitting on them.

Speaker 1 (00:00):

Everybody welcome back. Today I want to talk about what I think is the most misunderstood concept in all of weight loss and that is consistency. My people are always coming to me saying, I do really good Corinne for a few days, and then I just fucking blow it and they'll say, I'm just not consistent. Or they'll say, I do great until I have a bad day. I just need to figure out how to be more consistent. And what I always tell them is this, you do not have a consistency problem. You have a perfectionism problem problem. So one of the things that I have found is that people constantly define consistency wrong. You might think it means never screwing up, and if that's what you think consistency is, then oh yeah, you are going to feel like complete dog shit. You're going to feel like a failure because you're trying to measure up to always doing it right and you literally can't do that. 

Speaker 1 (01:06):

It is simply not possible to do things right. I always tell my people it's like the only thing, only person I ever know, whoever walked the face of this earth who was perfect was Jesus fucking Christ. And you ain't Jesus Christ. You ain't the second coming. So quit trying to do that shit. So when you are trying to always do things right in your head, it's like saying, well, I'm only going to love my child if they never make a mistake, they shouldn't fall down while they're trying to walk. They're going to have to get them straight or I'm just going to give 'em up for adoption. There's simply no way a human can be born and never make mistakes, and I don't care if you are a 60-year-old woman, woman, you still going to make mistakes. And in diets, we act like we are going to change all of our lifelong eating behaviors in one fell swoop because we bought some damn diet program. 

Speaker 1 (02:07):

Well, I read a book, I bought a program, Corrine, and they told me what to do. So I guess I'm supposed to do everything right or I can't lose weight. Y'all there is gray. You have got to break this one thought that if you read a book or buy a program that suddenly you're going to do everything right because they laid it out. No, you ain't. You have a human brain, our brains are not supposed to flip on a fucking dime. So you have got to give yourself some grace. You got to give yourself some compassion. If nothing else, cut yourself a fucking break. It ain't ever going to happen that way. So you might as well do this. I'm supposed to make some mistakes. My problem isn't mistakes. My problem is is I'm a fucking asshole when I make mistakes that be my problem. 

Speaker 1 (03:00):

So when it comes to weight loss, it's one of the only places in life where I see women argue tooth and nail that making mistakes is somehow wrong or if it shouldn't happen, now I know why it happens. We logically know we won't get it all right? I mean every one of you listening to the words coming out my mouth, I am sure you're sitting there right now and if we are just talking logic, like if you were looking at your best friend, you would never say to her, oh my God, you're a fucking hot mess. You bought the book. I can't believe that you didn't do it right. I can't believe that you overate after a lifetime of doing it. You would never do that. But when it comes to you, you ain't got none of that compassion. You ain't got none of that logic. 

Speaker 1 (03:51):

You throw all that shit out the window and make yourself feel like as we blow everything up when we have hard times. But this is what you got to know. If in your mind you think the only way to lose weight is to do it exactly like the diet says, then what you do is you make a mistake and you turn that into I must not be able to lose weight. I can't lose weight, I'm a fuck up. Something's wrong with me. When you want to lose weight really bad, I know how it feels. Every mistake feels so much bigger than it really is when we calm our asses down and we need to know this because if you're blowing things out of proportion, you have to learn how to wrangle your mind and your emotions back in if you want to lose weight. Now, I want to say this again. 

Speaker 1 (04:51):

We all logically know we're going to make mistakes. So the problem in losing weight has nothing to do with making mistakes. It has everything to do with learning how to stop blowing things out of proportion and learn how to wrangle in our mind, our catastrophizing, our worrying and our emotions back in if we want to lose weight. So what we got to do is we got to redefine consistency because you won't be able to calm the fuck down unless you have some understanding about how things truly work. We've got to have a counter argument for the part of you that right now thinks I got to do it right or I can't lose weight. She's scared, she's terrified, she's freaking out, and you have to be the adult in the room that comes in and says, look, I know you're afraid you can't lose weight. 

Speaker 1 (05:55):

I know you're making this mistake mean way more than it is. I know you want to quit because if you quit, you're going to feel relief, but you're not going to feel relief from losing weight. You're just going to feel relief for a moment from your own tyranny. So when we recognize that we can start telling ourselves the truth when we make mistakes, the truth is you've got to work on the things you aren't getting right to lose weight. The things standing between you and losing weight is inner critic shit, blowing things out of proportion. Emotional eating, eating after bad days. We've got to learn how to fix those things. That is the truth because every mistake is just highlighting the stuff that says When you fix me, then you'll be able to lose weight. And the only way to know know what these things are is you have to make mistakes and learn from them instead of beating yourself up, catastrophizing, worrying yourself to death and then quitting over them. 

Speaker 1 (07:05):

So to me, when I think about consistency, being consistent is showing up the best you can with what you've got in any given situation. Lemme say it again because I would love for you to write this down unless you're driving, please don't do that. If you're driving, being consistent is showing up the best you can with what you've got in any given situation. Consistency has nothing to do with showing up the right way and consistency has nothing to do with sticking the landing like your some Simone Biles competing at the Olympics. Consistency is about asking what can I do today? So inside the no BS program, one of the things that I teach my clients all the time is, in any given moment when you make a mistake, you're about to make a mistake, you're about to overeat, you are overeating, you just overate. We ask ourselves, can I adjust? 

Speaker 1 (08:09):

So we do it like this, can I just drink some water and see if I'm actually hungry? Can I just eat a little past enough instead of going into fuck it mode today because that would be better than what I normally do. Can I just go for a walk instead of go into the pantry and eating my face off because I'm sick and tired of all the responsibilities I got in the world? You see, some days we're not supposed to do it all. You're not going to want to do all the things that your glorious diet book is telling you to do that your macro plan says you can have that. Your calories limit you too. Y'all, your women, you're tired, you got shit going on that a week ago you didn't even have. You're just going to have to get over it. You are human. 

Speaker 1 (09:07):

You are not some robot without feelings, and if you keep gaslighting yourself that you should be able to do everything perfectly so that no matter what, then all you're going to do is wear yourself out, feel like losing weight's too much, and then you are going to quit for relief from the massive amounts of blowed up bullshit pressure that you are putting on yourself around making mistakes and being perfect. So instead of being all or nothing, here's what you have to learn. If you ever, ever, ever, ever want to lose weight and keep it off, this is the shit I had to learn. You can still work towards your goals every single day, but when you're consistent, working towards your goals looks different. Sometimes not one day looks like the other half the time. That's what consistency is. You see, when I was losing weight, I had a rule and my rule was butt fucking simple. 

Speaker 1 (10:15):

I'd get up each day every single day and I'd ask myself, what can I do today that's a little bit better than yesterday? Now, some days there was nothing that was better. In fact, some days I was like, the only way to keep going is to do these things today, just these things that I didn't even do yesterday because that is all I got time and mental strength for. And the important thing you've got to know here is this. Every single day I woke up thinking there must be something I can do to help myself. And I did that over and over and over again. I was consistent with that. I was consistent with asking me, what can I do for me instead of waking up each day thinking, well Corin, you either got to do this or it won't work. And that kind of thinking I realized is what always set me up to fail my diets because I was not flexible. 

Speaker 1 (11:21):

So I decided when I started losing my a hundred pounds, I was going to have to be flexible in my thinking. I was going to have to be flexible in my expectations of myself and I was going to have to be flexible each day and how I showed up. My rigidity had never worked, not one fucking time, the entire time I was losing weight. So I realized that every day was going to require me to think about what could I do not what did I have to do to be perfect? That right there, I promise all of you is what helped me lose a hundred pounds and I've kept it off for over 15 years and I've helped over a million people in my free course, over 60 million in this podcast. Thank God I gave up rigidity. If you're sitting here listening to the words coming out my mouth and I have helped you, then you need to be like, holy shit. 

Speaker 1 (12:20):

Being rigid is not going to help. This bitch is helping people because she decided to be flexible. So let's talk about flexibility because perfectionists want it, but you are scared to death to try it. Being flexible has to become a way of your life. So I want you to think about your body. If you're not flexible, you break shit, you pull muscles, you get hurt. For example, my husband is not flexible. In fact, whenever he bends over to put on his shoes, I'm just like, oh my God, is your hamstring going to spring wide open? And he's been building some stuff at our house. Now I'm going to tell you right now, that is a baby Jesus miracle all in its own. My husband, I looked at him the other day, I was like, who would've thought you'd ever be a handyman? I mean, he has literally never done this, but he's doing something for my business that requires some scaffolding and stuff. 

Speaker 1 (13:17):

So he's having to build it and I was laughing. He was telling me about how hard it was the other day and he was having to maneuver in this really tight space and do all this bending and twisting and I said, don't you wish that you had done all that flexibility training I've been on your ass about for the last few years? And he chuckled and he said yes. This week I have wished for every bit of that because a rigid body doesn't feel good. You risk pulling muscles, you risk getting hurt. So I want to ask you, why the hell do you think you can get through weight loss being stiff and rigid and perfect? You don't think that's going to break you. You don't think you're going to pull muscles, emotional muscles, you don't think it's going to hurt to try to go through it that way? 

Speaker 1 (14:09):

Yes, and you don't even need to. It doesn't even work. So if you want to be consistent, the first thing you got to do is be flexible and that means you need rules and plans that bend not break. So I'm sure that this makes logical sense, like you're sitting there going like, cor, that shit sounds like me. You talking, you are calling me out. Oh my God, I feel seen. But there's probably a voice that could be talking loud and proud now or it will scream at you when you try to be flexible and your brain will kick and holler and is what it'll say. I'm just going to tell you right now that if I do your flexibility, shit, if I'm just consistent, if I'm okay with my mistakes, that's not good enough. Not good enough is your brain's way of saying, honey, I'm scared to change. 

Speaker 1 (15:10):

I don't know if this is going to work. Who the fuck told you some witchcraft that being flexible and consistent and doing small things was going to work. She's a boldfaced liar. That is what your brain's doing. But I want you to think about this. All the diet things your mind has said, that's not good enough. I want you to imagine if you've just done that shit anyway, think about even the last month, every little thing that you thought that's not good enough and didn't do it. Let's just imagine that you did it anyway. What the fuck would your life look like right now if I had to guess, you'd have made some progress in your life instead of sitting here wishing things were different, wishing you could just lose weight. 

Speaker 1 (16:02):

I often make my private clients do what's called the not good enough challenge, and today I am giving it to all of my podcast listeners. The not good enough challenge is really simple. Anytime your brain says that anything I've ever told you to do or to try for weight loss is not good enough, that is now your cue to do that shit anyway. I want you to do it scared, doubting, and worrying. Then after a couple of weeks of doing all that not good enough shit, then I want you to see if you've made any progress. If I had to guess you will, because the last time I issued this challenge to my members, I had several of them posted in our private Facebook goop. I was fucking around not losing weight. I thought I was just stalled this month. I lost five pounds. I'm stunned. 

Speaker 1 (17:05):

They weren't stalled. They weren't taking a cue from their brain. Their brain was saying loud and clear, giving them things to do and they were saying it's not good enough, and so they weren't doing them. Now that's your cue to do some shit. So when we do things, when our brain screams, it's not good enough, now what you're doing is giving your perfectionist brain new evidence. Now your perfectionist brain has to question its own beliefs, and when that happens, your perfectionist brain starts rewiring, it starts changing. You start, you stop beating yourself up, you start learning some shit, you stop quitting and start figuring things out. It's actually pretty genius and I'm really proud of myself for coming up with something so stupid simple that any fucking body who can fog a mirror can actually do. And if you don't believe me, then there's some science that will back my ass up on the not good enough theory. 

Speaker 1 (18:07):

So behavioral psychologist, BJ Fog, he's the author of the book, tiny Habits. If you've never read it, I highly recommend it. He teaches that consistency is built when we create tiny easy behaviors that we can repeat frequently, not perfectly, not every single time, but frequently because it's not about big perfect actions. It is about showing up more often than not with what you can do in the moment. He says, people change best by feeling good, not by feeling bad. And that's what consistency is all about. It's about doing something doable that helps you feel like you're still making forward progress. And I promise if you'll do the not good enough challenge, you'll be doing exactly what BJ Fog says in his vast research. Now, let's talk about another key to becoming consistent, and that's called setback tolerance. This is the part most of you suck at. 

Speaker 1 (19:16):

If you have a setback, a mistake, you got to listen for self-talk. That sounds like a complete asshole, and once you hear it, it's time to shut it down because nobody loses weight because they mastered the art of being an asshole. People who lose weight, they just want one thing at the heart of it. People tell me all the time, I just want to be happy. Oh my fucking God, Corrine, if I could lose weight, I'd be so happy. And one way to be happy is to be someone who says nice things to themselves. But the problem is most people think that how they speak to themselves, it's like lucky charms just magically changes when they lose weight and it doesn't. If you beat yourself up while you lose weight or to get yourself to do things, your brain just learns that in order to be thin, well, you got to be scared out of your mind and you got to be anxious waiting for the next bitch slap to come through. 

Speaker 1 (20:15):

The best way to lose weight is to make mistakes and then learn how to be compassionate in the face of them to be understanding when your asshole voice comes in to shake shit off instead of catastrophizing everything, and then to be the person who keeps going when quitting in the moment feels like it would be so much easier if you don't make yourself do these things while you lose weight, you are going to burn out and you will quit or get the result. That is what I think is the worst of all. You might lose your weight being an asshole to yourself, and then you have to be an asshole to yourself to keep it off. You have to rarely feel happy to keep your weight off. You have to rarely feel content around food. You can't be proud because that will be just inviting the shoe to drop and then go, what do we do? 

Speaker 1 (21:19):

We end up breaking under the pressure because we're not happy and we go back to what made us happy, which is eating, and we regain our weight. So you've got to build up your tolerance for mistakes. If you ever want to lose your weight, trust me, you don't have to feel like shit when you mess up. You could feel understanding, you could feel curious, you could feel neutral. Brene Brown, she says that perfectionism, it is a shield that we use to avoid our own shame. She says, it's driven by this fake ass belief that if I look perfect, if I live perfect, if I work perfect, then somehow I'm going to avoid or minimize criticism, blame and shame in my life. But in reality, perfectionism makes us more likely to feel all of those things. Perfectionism keeps you locked in a cycle of fear and failure. 

Speaker 1 (22:28):

You're chasing approval while hiding from your humanness. The real escape route from self-hate is never perfection, y'all. It's always compassion in the face of imperfection. It's looking at yourself after a mistake and saying, I'm human. This probably isn't as big a deal as I'm making it. I just want to understand what's going on so next time, maybe I can do just a little bit better. And that is such a better way to live than quitting every single time you feel like ass. Now, the author, James, clear of Atomic Habits, he says it best, you do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems, and right now, your system in order to lose weight can't be, I have to be perfect because you will fall right through it the first time you make a mistake because life happens. 

Speaker 1 (23:35):

Instead, you got to have a system of recovery, a system of flexible thinking, a system that keeps you showing up even when you feel beat down. So the next time you want to quit because you fucked up instead of quitting, I just want you to give yourself one more day, take your weight loss day by day like I did. I took it meal by meal, bite by bite and day by day. Because being consistent is really about showing up the best you can with what you've got on any given day. Quitting will always be the easy thing to do. It gives you instant relief from your doubts, your fears and your mean self-talk. But it has an expensive fucking price tag. When you quit. You get to feel relief from trying, but you miss out on the relief you'll feel when you lose your weight. 

Speaker 1 (24:34):

You miss out on the feeling of relief from changing how you think about yourself and becoming someone who's understanding instead of beating themselves up. You miss out on the relief you feel from being able to wear whatever you want, go wherever you want, show up in pictures that right now you might be hiding in when you quit. You get one moment of temporary relief when you keep going though you get lasting relief from solving your weight problem. And what I want for you is different. I want you to feel relief because you changed, because you showed up for yourself because you stopped quitting on your life. You learned how to do this with weight loss and I promise the rest of your life upgrades to. So if you're thinking, I'm never going to be consistent, I always blow it. I need to just try harder. 

Speaker 1 (25:31):

Let me just close with this. You do not need to be perfect. You don't need to always get it right, but you damn for sure need to try differently than you have before. You have to give up all the shit that we've been talking about, the catastrophizing. You got to be nice when you want to be mean and you have to keep going. And that moment you want to quit. And if you need help with this, that me and the no BS program is where you want to be. We go deep into this stuff because the shit that matters. If you want to be able to lose your weight and keep it off, like me and thousands of women I've helped before, I promise if you join us, you will not regret it. I'll see y'all next week. I.