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Corinne (she/her): Hey, welcome. By, we’re gonna try again. I’m Karen Crabtree. I am the host of the losing 100 pounds, podcast. Founder of the Nobias weight loss program and having technical issues this morning. So Zoom is acting a little crazy. My computer then donked out with having a robot sound. So I. Everybody says it’s all better. Thank you. Oh, Lord, I am telling you what
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Corinne (she/her): mornings are always fun around the queue, the headquarters of the nobs. So let me tell you about how today’s gonna work.
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Corinne (she/her): First, I’m going to teach you something. So we are going to be talking today about weekends and
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Corinne (she/her): one of the things that I know that I struggled with personally, when, like through the 1,000 attempts that I tried to lose weight was just figuring out the weekends. They always seem to like mystify me. I didn’t understand why I could do so good all week long, only to just like Jack up my weekends like a boss. So I wanted to talk about that today, and we are also going to if you want.
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Corinne (she/her): I answer questions. So at the very end. When I get done teaching you about weekends. If you have a question about weight loss specifically, if it pertains to the weekends.
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Corinne (she/her): ask away, because that’s what we’re going to talk about today. Alright. So let’s start with.
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Corinne (she/her): Why, we have problems on the weekends very. This is one of the things that I watch my clients do all the time inside the nose weight loss program, which is They have really good intentions
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Corinne (she/her): for weight loss, especially on Mondays, I mean. let’s just
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Corinne (she/her): call the State is paid. Most of us are going in every Monday going like
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Corinne (she/her): I’m gonna get for real. This is the week it’s gonna change. Sometimes we have a big ass last supper on Sunday, because we mistakenly think that on Monday we’re gonna wake up, and if I just eat all the food on Sunday. If I get it all out of my system, I have a last for raw. Somehow. I’m gonna wake up tomorrow, and
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Corinne (she/her): that food will be out of my system. I’m just going to be so highly motivated. I’ve taken away all my triggers like we con ourselves all the time into this, like we call it a per. My, a friend of mine who has an amazing podcast called Unfuck, your brain Carla and thought. She calls it our perfectionistic fantasy or tomorrow thinking so, the perfectionist, the perfectionist in us, thinks that if we just reset the slate, do it all over again.
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Corinne (she/her): that. Then we can like aim for perfection.
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Corinne (she/her): And then the tomorrow thinker of us is like cheering this on. She’s like, Oh, yeah, girl, tomorrow is gonna be better tomorrow. You’re gonna feel like it. Tomorrow. You’re gonna be motivated tomorrow like you’ve gotten rid of all the things like tomorrow is always better. But here’s the problem
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Corinne (she/her): perfectionistic thinking
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Corinne (she/her): compiled with tomorrow. Thinking is such a fallacy. Number one. Think about how many times you’ve tried that.
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Corinne (she/her): And did it ever work? No, sometimes you can string along a few weeks, maybe even a month, maybe even 2.
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Corinne (she/her): But at some point it all falls apart. Typically what happens? Though the most common pattern is, I think, this almost every day.
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Corinne (she/her): like I’m starting the day off. Good, and I’m ending the day
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Corinne (she/her): telling myself tomorrow will be better. Let’s get it out of our system. It’s okay. There’s relief and thinking. And I want you. This is the reason why we do it, because the reason I want to explain this I pertain to weekends is because we are not thinking these things because we’re broken. Something’s wrong with us. For any of those reasons. We literally are doing this because there is some relief in thinking there’s a better version of me.
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Corinne (she/her): Tomorrow I will be better. It offers release that right now, you can just okay to your emotions, your immediate whims and desires, but that tomorrow you’re gonna be stronger. You’ll be better. You’ll be more quit. Something magical is gonna happen, and it’s all gonna fall into place. And then that Bill’s aspirational and that feels hopeful.
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Corinne (she/her): That is why we get caught in that loop. It’s not because something’s wrong with you. It’s not because you’re no good at losing weight. It’s not because you’re a fuck up. It’s not for any reason other than
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Corinne (she/her): that type of thinking feels good.
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Corinne (she/her): And then, on top of that thinking, feeling, hopeful, relieving, and stuff, guess what we add food on top.
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Corinne (she/her): and then we get the the like. The dopamine. We get the chemical effect, and our brain is just like this is like cotton candy. This is the best thing ever. I want to think more like this so that I can get some food, and then like it creates like a a desire and a craving for that thinking. Now.
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Corinne (she/her): the reason why I bring it up is because Number one, I don’t want you beating yourself up over that stuff. But number 2 is, we have to be alert to the pattern
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Corinne (she/her): because the only way to change the pattern is to know
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Corinne (she/her): this is my brain
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Corinne (she/her): thinking that tomorrow I’m gonna wake up a different person who’s no longer triggered, no longer tempted. She’s gonna have more willpower. She’s gonna have something this girl doesn’t have.
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Corinne (she/her): and what the truth is that none of us change overnight. None of us. We change over time
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Corinne (she/her): by making incremental shifts and incremental changes into how we’re showing up. But we never change overnight.
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Corinne (she/her): And in that moment, when we start having that loop, we want to tell ourselves this is not true. I’m gonna wake up tomorrow. I’m going to be the same person.
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Corinne (she/her): the same person. which means.
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Corinne (she/her): if I eat all this food now, I’m not going to wake up tomorrow suddenly being someone who’s not tempted by this anymore. I’m not going to be someone who doesn’t want to do this anymore.
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Corinne (she/her): So if that’s the case, what can I do right now? That’s different than I usually do.
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Corinne (she/her): and this is where perfection is also goes wrong. Very often the perfectionist will say things like, oh, well, I just won’t eat
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Corinne (she/her): if you’ve been eating your face off every Sunday night because you don’t weekends.
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Corinne (she/her): I’m going to tell you right now saying that I’m just not going to do that. It’s probably not going to work.
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Corinne (she/her): 90% of us will fail if we are going from binging last suffering on a Sunday
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Corinne (she/her): to doing none of it on a Sunday. You might be able to do it for Sunday or 2, but that behavior it’s not extinguished yet, especially if you’re having to force yourself, because I want you to think about the reason why your brain loves tomorrow, thinking why your brain loves the profession, perfectionistic thinking.
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Corinne (she/her): It feels good, it’s aspirational. It offers relief.
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Corinne (she/her): What most of us try to do. So we try to end the behavior suddenly dead stop on a Sunday by telling ourselves. You can’t do that.
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Corinne (she/her): you know, Karen said. That’s a shitty way to end the weekend.
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Corinne (she/her): We give ourselves a lot of thinking that doesn’t replace the good thinking. We replace it with harsh will power force. Restriction is so unfair that I don’t get to eat this. I’m going to have to start a diet tomorrow. We talk about it so excruciatingly, and then we wonder why our brain is like.
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Corinne (she/her): Damn! That feels like shit. We’re like having a legit party. 2 weeks ago, when I was telling you all about this better person you’re gonna be in, then you would eat some oreos, and then you’d wash it down with some chips and some like, you know. Do
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Corinne (she/her): so we have to be aware of all this. So the answer is, you have to figure out for the weekends.
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Corinne (she/her): How are we going to just do and think things through differently
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Corinne (she/her): that feels aspirational?
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Corinne (she/her): It feels hopeful that offers some relief. So I’ve got 4 things that we can think about
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Corinne (she/her): when we’re talking about our summer weekends. or any weekend, for that matter. And how do you have weekends? And how do you have fun in the summer?
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Corinne (she/her): How do you go on vacations and just not gain weight?
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Corinne (she/her): And I think so much of it starts
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Corinne (she/her): with figuring out your weekends.
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Corinne (she/her): So many of us do well during the week. Not all of us, but a lot of us. We do pretty good during the week. and then, by the weekend, it’s like we wake up, and we’re just like what the fuck happened like. Why was I doing so good? And then suddenly the wheels just flew right off my bus.
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Corinne (she/her): So here are the 4 things the first thing you can do before you go into the weekend is Sp, I’m a big believer. Hang on my app has asked me, can I trust my own computer?
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Corinne (she/her): I want you to get out your like. Your journal. Mine happens to be in my ipad.
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Corinne (she/her): and I want you to write about your Monday version of you.
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Corinne (she/her): I want you to think about. How does she want to wake up Monday morning?
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Corinne (she/her): What does she want to reflect upon like she wants to look at her weekend and think these are the things that I did. Well.
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Corinne (she/her): she wants to wake up and be proud.
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Corinne (she/her): She wants to wake up and not be bloated from eating all weekend. So one of the first things we have to do is when we go into the weekend, so many of us do this, we start thinking about how good we’ve been.
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Corinne (she/her): and we start thinking about.
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Corinne (she/her): I deserve it.
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Corinne (she/her): I need a treat. I just need a break
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Corinne (she/her): a little won’t hurt our excuses. Come in, and we spend our time thinking about the weekend, and we think about the food we’re going to eat.
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Corinne (she/her): and we think about
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Corinne (she/her): how we deserve it. This is what I need you to switch. I need you to start the weekend, not thinking about everything you’re going to eat. I want you to start the weekend thinking about
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Corinne (she/her): how you want to feel Monday morning.
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Corinne (she/her): What is important about Monday morning to you?
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Corinne (she/her): He’d like to wake up feeling this way.
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Corinne (she/her): thinking these things being proud of. instead of spending so much time thinking about what you can get away with.
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Corinne (she/her): what won’t hurt.
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Corinne (she/her): how hard weekends are. I need you to stop focusing so much there. you’ve been doing that for years, and it’s not working.
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Corinne (she/her): So when you catch yourself doing it, I want you to think about before I indulge in thinking about what I can’t do. This weekend. How much of a break I need a little won’t hurt. Let me spend time with Monday morning, me
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Corinne (she/her): and Monday morning. Me, you finish the weekend proud she’s thinking these things. She did these things all of that. Now step 2 is, once you’ve decided how you want to be on Monday morning.
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Corinne (she/her): The next thing we have to do is we have to think about what did we do to make that happen? What? And this is where I want. This is where I’m different than most diets. Most sides are going to just say, like you’re just going to do your normal plan, and then you can have a cheat mail, or you know something along those lines.
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Corinne (she/her): I don’t want you thinking that way.
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Corinne (she/her): I also don’t want you thinking. Well, the how I did it was every time I wanted something, I told myself. No.
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Corinne (she/her): it would be great if we could all just tell ourselves. No, and that’d be the easiest thing ever. But for most of us the reason why we’re eating our face off on the weekends are going off track on the weekends is because telling ourselves. No.
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Corinne (she/her): it’s not energetic enough often telling ourselves. No. on the other side of the know is, no, because. like, if you were just saying
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Corinne (she/her): that’s a no, I’m not gonna have seconds. And it was literally just like, I’m not gonna have seconds, and it was boring like that, you would be fine. But here’s what’s really happening in your brain.
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Corinne (she/her): I’m gonna say no to seconds, because if I say yes, I’ll blow it.
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Corinne (she/her): I’ll say no, because if I eat this I’m gonna gain all kinds of weight. It means I can’t lose weight. So much of what is behind the no
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Corinne (she/her): is fears.
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Corinne (she/her): doubts, and a lot of tearing ourselves down.
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Corinne (she/her): And y’all we don’t want to mess with that we don’t want to do that.
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Corinne (she/her): So what we want to do is we want to think about what did I do differently this weekend? What were the small changes I made? If I tell myself no, what is a good reason for it.
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Corinne (she/her): why is that the best thing for me? Why is that more than fair. Why is that more fair to tell myself? No, than it is to unfair to tell myself? No!
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Corinne (she/her): Why is no like what is it going to do for me instead of what is it going to take away from me?
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Corinne (she/her): And then I want you to just think about like there’s these little things that I do that are different.
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Corinne (she/her): There’s these things that I tell myself. All weekend here are the problems I’m likely to run up on this weekend. And here’s what I want to remind myself in the moment. So let’s say you have last minute plans.
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Corinne (she/her): It’s the summer. There’s a frickin barbecue suddenly happening at the neighbor’s house, and they’ve got the pool, and they got Corn hall, and they got the best music on the block. You’re invited, and it’s literally a barbecue. Coles. Wall, mashed potato, baked bean, homemade pie festival.
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Corinne (she/her): And you are like I did not plan any of this.
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Corinne (she/her): Oh, my God! I am trying to lose weight. Here’s what I don’t want you to do. I don’t want you to say no to the party. I want you to decide. How can I go to this party and still wake up Monday morning, proud.
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Corinne (she/her): When I go to this party.
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I want to say No to at the party
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Corinne (she/her): that
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strengthens my relationship with food
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Corinne (she/her): leaves me walking out of there. Proud helps me feel like I’m included.
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Corinne (she/her): like I want you to think about things in a new way. The biggest problem that I see in the dive industry right now is y’all are getting
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Corinne (she/her): thousands and thousands and thousands of tactics thrown at you left and right.
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Corinne (she/her): None of you need more tactics. None of you need to be told what food is good and bad anymore. I’m going to tell all of you. None of the food is bad and none of the food is good.
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Corinne (she/her): You just have food options and you have decisions on whether or not. You’re going to eat them. and you’ll have reasons.
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Corinne (she/her): But I promise all of you. I have worked with thousands and thousands and thousands of women to help them lose weight.
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Corinne (she/her): So many are losing weight just listening to this one little free broadcast a month. and I never tell people what’s good and bad to eat. That means you don’t need to focus any more on like, should I have bread or not, or the right combinations? The diet industry has warped us on this. Do you know where weight loss happens?
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Corinne (she/her): Weight loss happens in the tiny decisions? If you’re eating baked beans, smashed potatoes and barbecue. do you know what the biggest decision is. Not whether or not you’ve blown it eating some cards.
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Corinne (she/her): The best decision you make in that moment is I’m gonna have this.
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Corinne (she/her): and as long as I don’t over eat it I’m good.
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Corinne (she/her): The problem with my weight has always been. When I eat food like this. It’s not the food, the problems been? I thought it was the food. The problem is the moment I start thinking the foods, the problem, I go into fuck it mode, and then I eat all I can
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Corinne (she/her): I eat like this is the last supper I eat like. I’m never going to get another mashed potato again in my life.
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Corinne (she/her): That’s why I keep gaining weight.
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Corinne (she/her): So it’s not the food. It’s not the potatoes. It’s
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Corinne (she/her): what I do with the potatoes, because I’m telling myself. Something’s wrong with me, and something is wrong with the food.
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Corinne (she/her): and I’m gonna tell all of you. I teach this all the time inside my private membership. We coach on this constantly.
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Corinne (she/her): There are no good food and bad foods. You cannot afford to think that way.
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Corinne (she/her): because the moment you eat a food you’ve labeled bad because the diet industry has taught you some courtship. It is impossible for you not to internalize that as
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Corinne (she/her): you are bad.
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Corinne (she/her): This is why we can’t afford to think that way. Y’all.
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Corinne (she/her): you may have health conditions. And this is this is always the argument that I get. They came in. You don’t know. I am a diabetic, but you don’t know. I have Celia
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Corinne (she/her): people to argue this with me all the time. It’s like they’re saying you don’t know about my menopause, my Pcos, my diabetes, my! See that you don’t know. Here’s what I know. When you sit around and tell yourself you can’t have certain foods you feel like shit, and the more you feel like shit, the more likely you are to eat, not eat shit, but overeat.
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Corinne (she/her): If you have any of those conditions. Stop saying. I can’t have
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Corinne (she/her): you know what your option is. I choose not to eat these foods, because I prioritize my health above having an orgasm in my mouth because I like cake.
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Corinne (she/her): I’m learning to have a live that’s made up more than just what I’m putting in my mouth. You could be thinking those things.
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Corinne (she/her): So nobody try to argue with me and justify that you should sit around and think about all the things that you can’t do, because all that does is leave you feeling like shit.
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Corinne (she/her): If you have a medical condition, why do you want to feel sorry for yourself on top. Ask yourself that
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Corinne (she/her): like, why would I want to feel sorry for myself?
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Corinne (she/her): Why not feel proud of myself that I’m going to do things to help me. Why not feel hopeful that there are decisions I can make about food.
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Corinne (she/her): and that I can get to live in my life? Why not think I have a live.
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Corinne (she/her): A lot of people, don’t. There will be people today
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Corinne (she/her): that will cash in all the chips of life today. You won’t be one of them.
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Corinne (she/her): This is why it’s so important for us to always be thinking about when it comes to weight loss. It is
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Corinne (she/her): a thousand times more imperative. an important that you think about
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Corinne (she/her): what you’re thinking about before you eat. Then it is what you’re actually putting in your mouth.
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Corinne (she/her): You’re afraid to be. You’re afraid to reintroduce food. You’re worried when the other shoe will drop. Every little pound that moves on the scale freaks you out. No one wants to lose weight, to live in a paranoid state, and yet the diet industry, when they fail to teach us about our mindset, guess what they do.
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Corinne (she/her): the third. So first thing we’re going to do is we’re going to think about Monday morning, us. The second thing we’re going to do is we’re going to think about, what do I need to do to make this ship happen this weekend.
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Corinne (she/her): like, I want you to argue with yourself as to why some of your automatic thoughts about why things, what you can’t do, what will be hard. All this I want you to argue like you are in a court of law, and you’re the opposing lawyer.
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Corinne (she/her): why we can’t do things. We have to train our brain that there’s a whole another way to tell the story. Whether or not you believe it. Whether or not you act on it or not is irrelevant.
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Corinne (she/her): What truly matters is showing your brain. I’ve got my petty party.
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Corinne (she/her): and I got my success story over here. Both are true.
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Corinne (she/her): Then the last thing that I want you to do is I want you to look at like your weekend, and I just want you to make some plans.
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Corinne (she/her): I want you to plan out what you’re going to eat, where you’re going to go, who you’re going to be with. But I don’t want you to just plan the food.
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Corinne (she/her): I want you to think a little bit beyond the food so many of us. We’re just planning the weekend based on all of the party, all of the like things we’re gonna do. And then we say like, Oh, so there’s no way I could follow up who plan this. I’m just gonna try to do good this weekend, and that’s my plan.
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Corinne (she/her): These are the things I’m going to eat, and I want you to make sure that you have something on there that’s fucking fine
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Corinne (she/her): And you just ask yourself, like, what is it that I most want out of the weekend. Most of us are going in the weekend because we want to relax. We want to have fun. We want to relax. We just want to take it easy. There’s all kinds of reasons. We go into the weekend.
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Corinne (she/her): I want you to plan your weekend beyond just the food I want you to think about. Am I including some of the things I most need that I most want out of this weekend. How am I getting that without food?
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Corinne (she/her): That is one of the surefire ways to make sure that your weekends start changing for the better.
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Corinne (she/her): So we are going to think about Monday morning us before we go into the weekend.
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Corinne (she/her): Then we’re going to figure out. How did she get there? What did she say? Yes, to what did she say? No, to what was she thinking and feeling?
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Corinne (she/her): like the things that we tell ourselves that we can’t do that are hard for us and stuff. I want you to really argue the other side of the story. Why is this not so hard? What could I be making easier?
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Corinne (she/her): I want you to do that work, and then the last thing is is, I want you to have more than just like food plans for the weekend. I want you to think about.
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Corinne (she/her): outside of food. If not, I should probably start there rather than working so hard on trying to figure out how I’m going to get all these feelings from food should probably work really hard on figuring out how I’m going to get these feelings from my life.
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Corinne (she/her): She’s not saying you can’t have a medical condition, she is saying. Don’t let it run your life. Stop living with it uses exactly. Y’all. I coach women. She’s also saying to stop feeling sorry for yourself if you’re on a restricted diet. No one is on a restricted diet for medical reasons. I love Jane, that you’re helping pull some of these points out. But let me just say this.
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Corinne (she/her): one of my members every every so often we. We give away prizes in my membership all the time. So if you complete certain challenges and stuff you get enterprises. So one of my members she won a month of private coaching with me, and we’ve been working back. She’s got my text number. We do a phone call each week, and she has had diabetes.
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Corinne (she/her): because she is following like she is following a food plan that’s helping her get off her diabetes. Meds that’s helping her like reverse it. She also has So another condition I don’t want to like. Say, all of her stuff. She wouldn’t mind me sharing the diabetes, but the rest of it. That’s her business, and I’m not going to put it out there. But I will say this. She has another condition, and we’ve been working on her mindset around that.
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Corinne (she/her): That was her new thought. She never once was like, I’m so restricted. I’ve got a diagnosis. So I’m gonna have like it’s unfair. Everybody else gets to eat. She did not do that to herself. She chose to be grateful
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Corinne (she/her): You deserve a better lie. And these are the important conversations that the dive industry is not having with us. Alright.
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Corinne (she/her): I’ve been listening to the podcast for about a year, and I love it. I’ve never been on any kind of a specific diet. I retired early, finding myself board and eating too much and gaining weight after listening to the podcast I lost 23 pounds until my 24 year old. Son was diagnosed with cancer. And I’m starting to go back up. Sadness has made me turn to food.
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Corinne (she/her): What has happened is as of right now. You don’t have any other way to deal with your sadness other than to eat.
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Corinne (she/her): It’s not making you do it. This is, I just want you to think about the difference between this thinking. Sharon is sadness is making me turn to food boredom made me turn to food.
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Corinne (she/her): No feeling can make you turn to food. Some of us have feelings that the only way we currently know how to deal with them is by eating.
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Corinne (she/her): No one has told us new ways to deal with our sadness. No one has helped us process what’s going on for us.
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Corinne (she/her): We’re so afraid like we. Usually it’s underneath sadness. If there’s eating like in this case, it’s probably fear that he will die.
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Corinne (she/her): One of the reasons why so many of us end up eating when we’re sad. It’s because we judge ourselves for being said. We’ll say things like, I shouldn’t be sad
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Corinne (she/her): The other thing that we do is like. When sadness comes in we will say things like I don’t know how to deal with it.
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Corinne (she/her): I don’t want to feel this way. and this is what I always wanted to say to you a lot of times when we’re sad.
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Corinne (she/her): and this is what we do a lot more of inside the membership. And, Sharon, if you’re one of our members, I would invite you to at least listen to module 2, and then you may want to also take the relationships course, because right now it’s probably a really good time for you to do the relationships. Course
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Corinne (she/her): I wouldn’t mind feeling sad if I knew how right now. I really don’t know how. The moment I start feeling sad I go and eat.
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Corinne (she/her): It’s not nearly as scary as spending the rest of your life running from them.
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Corinne (she/her): So many of us don’t need to sit in discomfort, you know. We need to be doing. We don’t even. We don’t understand why we’re in discomfort to begin with, and 80 of the reason why we’re sitting there has to do with I’m judging myself, I’m being an. As to myself, I’m sitting there judging everybody else. I’m wishing for things. I’m regretting my past. re like I’m worrying. So many of us are like.
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Corinne (she/her): Teach me how to do all that.
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Corinne (she/her): here’s what I want to do. I want to make sure that whatever discomfort you’re having is legit first.
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Corinne (she/her): being told by people to sit in it.
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Corinne (she/her): I don’t think you want to sit in it. Here’s what I think you want to do. You want to investigate your discomfort?
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Corinne (she/her): Why am I uncomfortable right now? What’s wrong, honey? What’s going on. And it’s usually like, just let your brain say whatever it is. And then it’s like, Okay.
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Corinne (she/her): and what is my opinion about that?
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Corinne (she/her): Because it’s our. It’s the way we think that’s causing so much of our discomfort.
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Corinne (she/her): It’s not actual themes.
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Corinne (she/her): just like, let’s take the restricted diet. If let’s say you get diagnosed with diabetes.
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Corinne (she/her): and you’re told you got to cut all the sugar out like your diabetes is a runaway freight train right now, and if you eat a you eat one more gram of sugar. your your insulin is going to explode
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Corinne (she/her): whatever. So a lot of you are like. Well, I’m going to sit through the discomfort
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Corinne (she/her): because you’re sitting there and you’re thinking, this is unfair. This sucks. I did this to my cell.
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Not what you sitting in that discomfort.
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Corinne (she/her): the discomfort not coming from not having sugar. The discomfort is coming from. How you’re talking about not having that sugar.
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Corinne (she/her): There’s that’s elevated. Discover. That’s just brutal.
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Corinne (she/her): What I want you to do is I want you to tell a whole new story so that all you’re doing is now is working on not having sugar.
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Corinne (she/her): That’s it.
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Corinne (she/her): Now, if you follow me, you know I don’t. I do not teach my members to give up sugar at all. I want you eating all the food unless
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Corinne (she/her): you have a medical reason where eating all the food. It’s not going to work for you.
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Corinne (she/her): and that you are more interested in like. Here’s what I got to do, Korean. I gotta make peace that I’m going to live a long time.
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I need to make peace with myself, that my life is more valuable.
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Corinne (she/her): Then what I’m putting in my mouth right now
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Corinne (she/her): I need to make peace with the idea that it’s this is not unfair. There is a solution staring me in the face. What would be unfair if someone told me. There’s nothing we can do about it.
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Corinne (she/her): your lost cause, and you’re dying. In 3 days that would feel I would be like girlfriend and a fair all day long.
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Corinne (she/her): Short of that. it’s not unfair.
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Corinne (she/her): There’s called a solution for you. That’s more than fair. That’s amazing.
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Corinne (she/her): So we have to think differently. Alright.
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Corinne (she/her): Why do I eat in secret? Always find myself sneaking food, and my husband is around, and they complain that I can’t lose weight when we eat in secret. It’s usually because at some point in our life
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Corinne (she/her): we have been taught that there are certain foods that are good and certain foods that are bad.
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Corinne (she/her): And so what we end up doing is if we’re going to eat bad foods, who would want to eat bad foods in front of other people.
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Corinne (she/her): anything that you are ashamed of, you will do in secret.
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Corinne (she/her): So if you think eating certain foods is bad, you’re gonna want to eat them in secret, you’re not gonna want to eat them in front of people. This is why it’s so important that somebody who join my program because we teach you how to unlearn that stupid fuckery.
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Corinne (she/her): We have been taught by the diet industry for years. It’s like we. We were just joking around the other day. I was talking to somebody about like I did la weight loss back in the day.
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Corinne (she/her): They had, like, you know, the approved foods that you could have, and then you could have the bars, and then I went through the like you could. I went through a face where we did all the low, fat stuff. I remember going to the salad bar and my mom saying, Don’t get eggs. They’re just loaded with fat
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Corinne (she/her): They made eggs that now I could put as much sugar-free jello, and sugar-free dressing on stuff as I wanted. I could eat snack well, cookies.
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Corinne (she/her): anything that was 0 fat, fat free. You could have that but a fucking egg. Yeah, that’s why I was so overweight. I had an egg problem.
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Corinne (she/her): said no one ever. So
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Corinne (she/her): what we want to do is we want to unwind.
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Corinne (she/her): like our mental constructs around good food, bad food, because if you have assignments to food that this is good, this is bad. This is clean. This is dirty. I just want you to look at how pervasive
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Corinne (she/her): morality like who we are as a person is tied into food.
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Corinne (she/her): None of you are going to hell because of your food logs.
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Corinne (she/her): The last time I checked in the Bible
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Corinne (she/her): we gonna go to the pearly gates and they’re gonna be like. Please turn over your food logs for the last, you know, for your entire life. I want to see did you eat more good foods or bad foods.
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Corinne (she/her): That is not the indicator of the quality of your soul just saying so. We have to quit doing this to ourselves.
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Corinne (she/her): because the problem becomes every decade
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Corinne (she/her): So you got Keto what you know now we are, you know you go high protein, high fat. We had our low, fat days. Now it’s all like vegan vegetarian now, like meat’s bad. It’s like, Oh, my God!
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Corinne (she/her): If you follow
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Corinne (she/her): diet books over the years you’re stocked in the head. and we gotta unwind all of those rules, because at the end of the day
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Corinne (she/her): this is not why we’re overweight.
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Corinne (she/her): I promise all of you the reason why weight is a problem, for I would say 99% of my members. It is I eat when I’m stressed.
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Corinne (she/her): because I don’t know how to deal with stress.
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Corinne (she/her): I eat when I feel like things are unfair.
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Corinne (she/her): because I don’t know how to set boundaries. I don’t know how to tell people. No, I feel like I’m going to be a bitch I eat at night.
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Corinne (she/her): because if I take a break after working all day on top of taking care of kids and stuff, and the second everybody goes to bed.
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Corinne (she/her): I don’t know how to relax without feeling guilty.
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Corinne (she/her): so I’m going to eat, so I don’t have to feel guilty, so I can relax. It’s the only way. I know how
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Corinne (she/her): we’re overweight because of the reasons why we’re eating
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Corinne (she/her): the choices that we’re making. All of them have reasons. And when we uncover the reasons, and we untangle all of it, and we learn how to think differently around all of it. Guess what we do.
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Corinne (she/her): We end up taking away the need to overeat if you want to, and this is my thing. I tell you all the time. If you want to eat salads and stuff, I want you eating those types of foods.
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Corinne (she/her): I want you learning how to include more of those foods, but not because they’re better.
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Corinne (she/her): or they make you a better person.
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Corinne (she/her): but because you’re spending so much time figuring out the kind of life you want for yourself how long you’d like to live the top of poops you want to have the How much heartburn you’re willing to deal with in your sixties and seventies when you go to bed, the types of achy joints you won’t. As you get older. There’s a thousand reasons to construct your food the way you do other than
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Corinne (she/her): it’s good or bad. It’ll help me lose weight, or it won’t.
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Corinne (she/her): We have to think bigger and better when it comes to weight loss. That is why I do what I do.
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Corinne (she/her): I want to be at least the one voice out there that is saying there is a better way. There is a way that we can lose our way, and we can like ourselves. We can change everything, and we don’t have to feel restricted. We don’t have to feel punished.
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Corinne (she/her): I just don’t want anyone losing their weight ever again. And at the end of the day they’re like, I am a smaller version of the people pleaser
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Corinne (she/her): the warrior. the person who in fears foods.
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Corinne (she/her): who doesn’t trust themselves around certain things.
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Corinne (she/her): I don’t want you to be a smaller version of that person. I promise all of you. It sucks. I did it so many times
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Corinne (she/her): until the last time I lost weight, and that’s why I decided to help people, because the last time I lost weight, here’s what I figured out was the first time I lost weight, and I liked me.
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Corinne (she/her): I wasn’t afraid of foods.
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Corinne (she/her): I felt confident that for the first time in my life I knew how to live it.
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Corinne (she/her): I knew how to love my life
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Corinne (she/her): I had bigger reasons. I had bigger, wise behind why I wanted to take care of myself other than just small pants. What society says I need to do to myself.
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Corinne (she/her): All right, let’s see what else
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Corinne (she/her): you mentioned. Not count calories and macros, but we still need a balance of protein, etc. Correct.
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Corinne (she/her): I mean, yeah. But I will just tell you. Most of you all are wanting to worry about that shit and not worry about why you’re eating. In the first place.
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Corinne (she/her): I like I will tell you right now. When I lost my way I didn’t count the calorie. I didn’t count a macro. I didn’t do that stuff, you know. Why.
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Corinne (she/her): I did not need to know how many proteins I was eating in a day. What I really need to know was, why was I ending the day feeling like ice cream was the only way to feel better.
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Corinne (she/her): I need to figure out. Why is it when I go out to eat.
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Corinne (she/her): I eat my face off as if it was the last time I was ever fucking. Going to the outback.
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Corinne (she/her): I need to figure out how I was going to start asking for help in my life when I was too ashamed. I I will tell you one of the reasons why I’d gotten all went to 250 again for the 100 time.
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Corinne (she/her): It’s because I’ve had a kid. He was a year old.
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Corinne (she/her): I didn’t have a job first on my life that I wasn’t working.
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Corinne (she/her): I was taking care of my baby. and I had so much shame
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Corinne (she/her): It overwhelming me. me not loving it.
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Corinne (she/her): I didn’t want to have to ask for I just thought it was so unfair like I always said I don’t do anything all day. Then, when my husband would come home from work, I was so riddled with shame and guilt for asking him for hell that I ate.
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Corinne (she/her): I didn’t need to know anything about macros or proteins. not a lit. I didn’t need to know about my calories a lit.
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Corinne (she/her): I needed to know why I felt so ashamed to ask for help.
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Corinne (she/her): Why, I thought it was wrong to ask my husband, who loves me and my child to help me figure this out.
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Corinne (she/her): I needed to
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Corinne (she/her): be compassionate with myself that no, not every mother loves every moment of their baby’s life, especially the first year, the hard year
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Corinne (she/her): I was overwhelmed with change, but in my mind I should it. I should have been like everybody else I need to work on that
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Corinne (she/her): I did not need to work on macros. I did not need to work on protein.
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Corinne (she/her): and I promise most of you. There are so many emotional things you need to work on around your food that calories and macros and protein are the least of your worries.
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Corinne (she/her): And here’s how I know, because a lot of you keep trying to do that. You’re like
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Corinne (she/her): I’m going to hire. One more trainer is going to give me my perfect macros, and my whole life is going to be blah blah, blah! And guess what you get that plan.
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Corinne (she/her): and it’s great until the first day you have a bad day. The first time your boss acts like an asshole the first time your mother calls and says something that you don’t like. The first time your husband’s got to work late, or your wife.
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Corinne (she/her): It’s like I’m going to take a nap on the weekends when all you want to do
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Corinne (she/her): but you feel too bad about asking her if you can take an app
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Corinne (she/her): like we need to clean all that up. You get all that done you. You get to where you are no longer triggered to eat, thinking your feelings make you eat. people make you eat when you get out of all of that. And you’re like.
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Corinne (she/her): Then, if you want to like worry about the proteins and the macros and everything you’re set up for that success.
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Corinne (she/her): Otherwise you’re just you’re saying I’m going to follow this external rule while not changing a damn thing internally to support it.
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Corinne (she/her): and those things don’t work
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Corinne (she/her): Does alcohol cause weight gain? Or is it what you eat when you drink? I drink whiskey and water, and I’m told that that is the main reason I don’t lose weight. So alcohol is treated by the body it like
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Corinne (she/her): somewhere between carbs. And, in fact, so the way that just process wise
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Corinne (she/her): the body. When alcohol comes in, it thinks of it as a poison.
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Corinne (she/her): It it is. I mean, it’s legit a poison to our body. Now I’m not saying I don’t drink or in drinks, so let’s just say that out loud. But to our body alcohol is not needed, so it throws 7 calories per gram every single time you drink, and it has no benefit to your body. 9.
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Corinne (she/her): So it’s just usually your body’s like I don’t know what to do with it, so I’ll just throw it into fat. Now, that does not mean that you can’t drink, but alcohol is one of those things where I always tell my people. If you’re going to drink and lose weight, you definitely need to plan it.
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Corinne (she/her): You also need to make sure that you’re not jackass eating because you are drinking one of the the first things that I clean up with my clients like. Plan your drinks.
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Corinne (she/her): But we got to clean up you eating like an asshole afterward, because when your inhibitions come down, guess what
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Corinne (she/her): your excuses to eat will sound sexy as fuck. It’ll be like a very white album playing in the background. It will be really hard, not you just want to like, take off that brawl. So we want to make sure
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Corinne (she/her): that we are. We develop the skill of being able to drink what we want to drink in the beginning and not eat. The second thing is figuring out. Do we really want to drink.
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Corinne (she/her): and how much so many of us? We’ll drink more than we need
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Corinne (she/her): to fit in
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Corinne (she/her): in order to have a good time in order to like all these things, to relax.
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Corinne (she/her): And I just like to play around with. And I’ve been working on this for years with myself. which is alcohol doesn’t make me fit in
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Corinne (she/her): alcohol, blunt. How I’m thinking that makes me think I’m not fitting in so wouldn’t it be better rather than drinking. To work on. My self-concept.
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Corinne (she/her): Alcohol doesn’t make me connect with my husband.
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Corinne (she/her): Alcohol shuts down any thoughts I’m having that allow that get me disconnected from my husband, so wouldn’t it be better if I worked on true, genuine feelings about him
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Corinne (she/her): then to keep drinking, saying, that’s how we connect.
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Corinne (she/her): So I just want you all to play with that. We have a program inside of no Bs for for drinking. And it’s not for alcohol. It was literally, it’s like ha mindful drinking and weight loss. How do you combine the 2? And we do periodically do calls around it to coach people, because my people, usually they’re like, I don’t want to give up drinking.
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Corinne (she/her): but I want to lose weight, and I’ve got to find the balance there, and it’s not just about like. Do you put sweet sweeteners in there or not? It’s more about
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Corinne (she/her): changing your relationship with alcohol to where you have it. But you don’t need it anymore, or and when I say, need I don’t mean need like an alcoholic. But you don’t need it
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Corinne (she/her): you know, to go out those kinds of things.
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Corinne (she/her): All right. Let’s take Oh, we are! We are over time. Good Lord! I had my glasses also. Couldn’t say, All right.
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Corinne (she/her): If you’d like to join the Nobs program, all you got to do is go to join nobs.com. Our doors are open right now. I would highly encourage if any of this resonate with you today, if you’re just like this, emotional shit is really where I am not losing my weight like I have tried all the diets and the diets have failed me.
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Corinne (she/her): I am ready to really tackle the stuff that will enhance my life.
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Corinne (she/her): I’m ready to tackle like I want to be be the person who doesn’t beat themselves up anymore. I want to be the person who learns how to not have to take all the foods out of her house. I want to be that person.
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Corinne (she/her): If that’s the kind of person you want to be and lose weight, then go to join nobs.com join us right now.
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Corinne (she/her): We are losing weight this summer, and we are not turning back. So with that I will see you all. Next month. You’ll have a good one by y’all.
