Women are told all the time that they can't lose weight. And if you are peri-menopausal, post-menopausal, or going through menopause, you are practically written off!
I see it all the time. And frankly, it pisses me off.
I'm not here to debate hormones, but I do know this.
I have an awful lot of No BS Women in their 50's, 60's, and 70's losing weight even after they were told they couldn't.
And if you know me, I didn't tell them to do anything other than let go of emotional eating. That includes…
Eating a bunch of shit after 8pm because you feel you're too old to go after your dreams.
Eating your face off all weekend because you're pissed that the scale didn't move as fast as you thought it should.
Having wine every night because your kids are gone, and you don't know what to do with yourself anymore.
Today's podcast is special to me. It's a recording I did specifically for my No BS Women in the private membership.
You're going to hear me helping my badass women who are 55+ get their mindset together.
I want them AND YOU to know there's a lot of life left for us.
We're not done. We're just getting started. Everybody needs to watch us set goals and go after them!
Share it with a friend who could use this message, too.
Hi, I’m Corinne. After a lifetime of obesity, being bullied for being the fattest kid in the class, and losing and gaining weight like it was my job, I finally got my shit together and I lost 100 pounds. Each week I’ll teach you no bullshit weight loss advice you can use to overcome your battle with weight. I keep it simple. You’ll learn how to quit eating and thinking like an asshole. You stop that, and weight loss becomes easy. My goal is to help you lose weight the way you want to live your life. If you are ready to figure out weight loss, then let’s go. Hello, everybody. Welcome back. I have a very special episode today. Now, I want to say this. You will get value out of this episode no matter how old you are. But I want to share a video message that I sent to my 55 plus private Facebook group inside the No BS weight loss program.
So if you join No BS, we have our main Facebook group, we have all of our courses, we have our own private website, but we also have what we call subgroups. And one of my very special near and dear to my heart subgroups is my women who were over 55, because I have a huge population of members who are in their 60s and 70s and they’re just fucking tired of the diet cycle. They have been railed against their entire life that they should lose weight, how they should look, all kinds of stuff. And so I recorded a video for them because I never want them to feel like they’re left out.
Sometimes I will say things about, lots of our members have kids. Well, these ladies don’t have kids anymore. Or I’ll say something about, setting big goals. And one of the things that I wanted to make sure that my members understood is, gosh, just because you’re in your 60s and 70s doesn’t mean you have to give up on your life. It means that you probably have 30 to 40 more years to live. I want you all to hear this. If you think about it, in this day and age, we have so much time on this earth. How do you want to spend it?
For many people, 30 to 40 years is a lifetime. It is a lifetime. And when we listen to what society says about women, and I want you to just think about our conditioning is, after a certain age, we’re just an old grandma. We’re just washed up. When you look at movies, women in their 60s and 70s, they’re hardly ever in strong dominant roles. That’s a lie. And that’s bullshit. I promise all of you when I’m in my 60s and 70s, some fucker better watch out. Because I’m going to be slaying. I am slaying until I draw my last breath on this earth. And so I have a special message for people for our women who are over 55 to help you think about your life, how to consume information from your stage in life.
I give you some journal [inaudible 00:03:18] on things. One of our members, Michelle, she said, “I want to journal now that I’m getting closer to 60, about what I don’t like about my life, how I’m going to start changing it.” I’m going to redefine how I’m thinking about myself now that I’m almost 60. Redefine what I think my potential is. So, I hope you get a lot out of this episode. And if you do, I would love for you to tag me on your social media. You can tag me at corrine_crabtree. You can also use the #no BS woman or #no BS women. I follow both of those hashtags on Instagram. Feel free to share it and tag me. I would love to know if you love this episode. And like I said, I have a special place in my heart for all of you who are in your 50s, your 60s, your 70s, your dreams are not over. Your life is just beginning if you decide to think about it that way. Enjoy.
Hey, good morning everyone. I was thinking about our members who are 55 plus. And more so, our members who are in their 60s and 70s. Because we have a huge squad of you guys that are 60 and 70 year olds who are just at a different stage in your life. So I’ve been reading in the 55 plus group a lot about some of the, I like to just read what you guys talk about and stuff. And so, I’m going to shoot a quick video this morning specifically talking to you. But if you are anyone, at any stage, I totally think you’ll get benefit out of this. So that’s like one of the first things I want to talk about just in general inside of No BS is, there is a mindset sometimes that blocks us, which is, my situation is different, therefore I won’t get much out of this different situation.
I’m going to tell all of you, please challenge that thought and challenge it in a huge way. Which means you’re going to do your paper thinking and you’re going to write on how that feels when you think, “My situation is different so I can’t get anything out of listening to moms, or listening to people who are on the corporate track, or whatever it is.” Here’s how I know that is not true. A lot of what I study for weight loss comes from podcasts and things that have nothing to do with weight loss. Nothing. I listen to a lot of podcasts on social justice issues. I listen to a lot of podcasts on business building. I listen to a lot of podcasts on financial stuff.
Because there’s all these things that I want to learn more about, and I want to figure out in my head. I agree and I don’t agree with things, but because I am listening with an open mind, that there’s like, what are they really saying here? I promise you, 70% of the ideas and the things that I teach come from stuff that has nothing to do with weight loss at all. Like I’m not just sitting around, going on my walks, doing the things, listening to weight loss podcasts, and coaching podcasts. I don’t. The vast majority of everything that I read and stuff has nothing to do with our topic, has nothing to do with mindset. It’s all about these other things that I’m like, “huh? That applies this way.” So that’s the number one thing, is to think about, how often am I missing out on the opportunity to make my brain think differently?
I want you to think about that, and how can I start opening my mind up inside of No BS to hear different situations, different things, to see if I can find the lesson. And I will tell you, when your brain has to work in that way, this is where I nerd out on how the brain works. When your brain is listening to something that has nothing to do with the problem you’re trying to solve, but you are trying to figure out how it could apply to your problem, you speed up problem solving 10X. Because it’s challenging your brain to work in a different way. It’s challenging your brain to not just need the information spoon-fed to it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being spoonfed. I mean, I’m just going to tell you. The reason why I shoot most of my videos is so your brain doesn’t have to do all the heavy lifting, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t want you doing some heavy lifting.
It’s just like if you’re working out. Let me give you a workout example. For all of you who don’t know anything about muscle building, when you are going to start lifting weights, if you want to build muscle, and you want to get stronger, get more balanced, if you want to as you lose weight be able to what we call, unwrap the gifts. Which means that when you’re losing weight, you’re not technically going to be able to, unless you’re starting from scratch, you just can’t add much muscle. In order to add muscle, you have to eat in a surplus while also lifting weights. Heavy. That’s the only way to bulk up. Trust me.
I did a bulk about 10 years ago where I had to gain 30 pounds. And let me just tell you all, talk about some mind management. I didn’t have my life coaching then, but I had to do some straight up mind management to go from 150 pounds to 180 pounds deliberately. So, I mean, like once you lose weight, not many of us are like, “Yeah, I’m going to, on purpose, put on some weight so I can, on purpose, take it back off.” So that’s the only way to build a lot of muscle. But what you can do is, most of us are walking around with some pretty muscles underneath, no matter what, even if you haven’t worked out, muscle, it’s just pretty.
And so, as you lose weight, if you lift, you keep a lot of your muscle while your body is looking to get rid of fat because the muscle is being challenged. So, one of the best ways to build muscle is to do it in different ways, which means, sometimes you’re going to lift lighter with heavier weights. Sometimes you’re going to use body weight only so that you get a lot more stability work. And then sometimes you’re going to lift heavier so that your muscles are doing some real heavy lifting. And that approach where you’re mixing it up, helps you build better muscle. So, I say all that because one of the things I want you guys to understand is that, especially for my 60 and 70 year olds, the heavy lifting in your brain you all is not done. It’s not finished.
I think that one of the things that I wanted to talk about was, your goals are now different. One of the things I keep reading is, “I don’t have kids in the house anymore.” There’s a lot of like, I don’t, I don’t, I don’t, therefore it’s hard for me to relate to coaching calls. So phase one is understanding, you don’t need to have little kids in the house to understand, if someone’s getting coached and they feel like they hate their life because they have little kids and stuff, if you’re sitting around thinking I wasted my life, or you’re sitting around thinking, I have regrets, that’s all the same coaching. It’s all the same. It does apply. So when I was thinking about 60 plus, some of the stuff, like one of the other things, this is the second point I wanted to make.
So the first point is, don’t automatically assume because you’re at a different place in life that you don’t have things in common. That’s number one. It’s like, I’m always on the hunt for commonality, not for why I’m different. And this is beneficial for everybody. I want you to think about how often you have over ate, how often you have blown your plan because you’re sitting around thinking things like I’m different. This is why this won’t work for me. This is why I can’t. We do this all the time and we don’t even realize we’re doing it. We just say it as if it’s just true. That’s not even true. If you’re in your 60s or 70s and you don’t have kids, the truth isn’t, “I have nothing in common with a mom.” The truth is, “I bet I can find things I can learn.”
Either one can be just as true. But we don’t think about that. We don’t question the stuff that we think. Now, if you think, I don’t have anything in common with this call, and it doesn’t leave you feeling bad and you are able to find plenty of things to listen to and get value out of, then skip those calls for sure. That is not what I’m saying. But I think what ends up happening a lot of times is, that thought I don’t have anything in common with, what we end up doing is we use that as a smoke screen for, therefore, it’s going to be harder for me. Therefore, I can’t lose weight. Therefore, I don’t know what to do. Therefore, I can’t find my answers. And that is why that thought has to be looked at.
So if you’re using it and you end up… When you think about it and what it does is it has you looking for the most important information for you? It has you on the right trail. You’re feeling like you’re able to do this, you’re making your own way. That’s awesome. You keep it. This is how we always know if a thought is worth keeping. We look at how we feel after we think it. And we look at what we do because of how we’re thinking and feeling. And if it’s leading to positive actions, then you keep it. It’s not a problem thought. But if it feels, I don’t have anything in common with this stuff. It feels isolating, lonely, abandoned. It feels like that, it’s not useful. It means, it’s covering up a belief you have about you, which means it’s signaling work on the belief.
And I would invite you to listen to more things, to see if you can find some commonality to figure out what is similar for you, because you’re going through life isolating yourself one thought at a time. And I think that that’s what happens a lot in 60s and 70s, which brings me to that second point, which is, it’s not that you don’t have goals now, you have to challenge yourself to have goals that matter. Which for a lot of you, I read, “There’s a lot of loneliness that happens. It’s like your kids do go away and the grand babies don’t live close.” And you might be in marriages where, it’s not that you’re in a bad marriage, but it’s more like co-living now. So want you to think about the goals that happen when you’re in your 60s and 70s?
So, I actually did some writing about this this morning, because it matters to me that I have an amazing life. At the end of the day, when I draw my last breath, I just don’t want there to be regrets. It worries me. I watched my grandparents go through cancer and die, and they had regrets and I don’t want that. And I don’t want it for me and I don’t want it for you all. And so I think about, if you’re in your 60s or 70s, good Lord, you could be on this earth 30 or 40 more years with the way that we have medicine advances, screenings for things that can kill you. That is a lifetime, a lifetime ahead of you. But a lot of you act like it’s almost over. You don’t know how long you’ve got, 30 or 40 years, like bank on it. And think about how much time that is, and what do you want out of this part of your life?
I think what we do is we sit around and we think about what we can have, what makes us different, what keeps us separated. And I just think it’s such a shame that women are basically, and this is part of our social conditioning, men are not taught that they’re washed up at 60 or 70 years old. Look at actors, they’re still getting starring roles. They’re still doing amazing things. Women though, we’re taught and conditioned that the older we get, the worse it is. We have to change that. You don’t wait on society to change it. Just drop that mindset and decide I live for me. I don’t live for society’s narrative about me.
If you want to enjoy your life, make it a goal to figure out, why do I not enjoy it now? And what can I start doing to do that? I think goals do change. I think about me. I was writing about this morning in the 60s and 70s, a lot of my goals in my 60s and 70s will probably switch. Hang on. I don’t want to get run over by this golf cart. I’m over here just walking and talking. I was thinking about this morning, I don’t know if I’m going to still want to be running a business and stuff. Logan’s graduating this year. But what I do know is, some of the goals I was writing down would be, to learn new things, learn how to do new things so that I keep my brain sharp. That will be on me to do that, to not just always do what I always did.
Strengthen relationships. I’ve always been a big believer that, with me and Chris, our marriage is not happenstance. Our marriage is work. We go to work on it all the time. When we train transition to our 60s and 70s, I know we’ll have different level of work. It will be upon me to figure out the relationship I want with him. And the most important one is the relationship with myself. I know that my goals in my 60s and 70s will be to redefine how I think about myself at that age. To redefine what I think my potential is, because it’s so easy in society for us to get caught up in thinking. Our potential is what society has been telling us, and teaching us, and showing us in ads all these years. And it’s just not true.
So, I just wanted to do that little message for all of you this morning. Just know that a 60, 70 plus year old, you all are on my heart. You all are on my mind all the time. My mom is in your age range. I still have a grandmother who’s 83 years old living. A lot of my friends are in their 60s. A really big portion of my friends are all in their 60s. Also, a good portion of my team is 50 plus. We have, I think, two or three 60 year olds on the team. And we have a few in their 50s. And then a lot of us are almost 50. We’re coming up in like, I’m 47, we’re coming up on our fifties.
So, we think about you all and we want to help you. And I just wanted to give you all a little love this morning. All right. That’s all I got. I hope you got something out of this. If so, leave it in the comments of the post so I can see what you liked, what questions you have. I’d be happy to answer them. Thank you so much for listening today. Make sure you head on over to nobsfreecourse.com, and sign up for my free weight loss training on what you need to know to start losing your weight right now. You’ll also find lots of notes and resources from our past podcast, help you lose your weight without all the bullshit diet advice. I’ll see you next week.