Corinne:

Hello, everybody. Welcome back. Today we’re going to talk about something that you guys bring to me very often that is a huge block for you when it comes to weight loss, and one of them is I don’t have enough time to lose weight and the other one is I don’t have enough money to lose weight. I think this is going to be super helpful today because I remember back when I was trying to lose weight, almost always those two things were an excuse that I would use to put off starting. I just want to say, I totally get that if you don’t have the money to join my program, that doesn’t mean that you do not have the money to lose weight. Hear me when I say this, people often feel like, “Oh, I just can’t lose weight because I ain’t got enough money, it costs too much.”

Corinne:

No, it doesn’t. Here’s the real truth. I got a free course that women have lost weight on. They didn’t need no damn money. I got podcasts, one that you’re listening to right now. If you’re listening to the sound of my voice, you know what your currency is $0, but your time and your energy on figuring out which podcasts you should listen to next, that’s going to help you solve a problem that you have. When we sit around and think about that we don’t have the money to lose weight, we’re really starting off, number one, with a lie. That lie keeps us from understanding why we won’t get started. If we know that there’s a free course and there are podcasts, why not get started? Ask that question. That is such a useful journaling prompt for people because the question of, “Well, why else would I not start?” Your real bullshit come up, like, “Well, I’ve never been able to lose weight before or it’s just going to be so hard. I won’t be able to eat all the things that I like eat.”

Corinne:

At that point you have overrode one of the biggest excuses that we all use that’s batshit crazy. I want to take the money one first, because I think it’s super important for everyone to really understand the other side. First of all, when it comes to money, when you lose weight, you actually gain money. This is the concept that I think a lot of people have a hard time wrapping their mind around. But I want to tell all of you that if you decide to lose weight, you are now going to create a savings plan because you’re going to have all this extra food that you’ve been eating that you’re no longer going to be buying and purchasing.

Corinne:

You’re going to have all this food now that you’re not going to be eating. You’re no longer going to be wasting food by overeating. A lot of my clients have this thing about… so one of the things that I teach is when you first start, we’re going to stop eating when we’ve had enough, which means that if you stop eating when your body has physically had enough and you’re no longer going to eat to where you’ve emotionally had enough, which are two different things, at first, you’re not cleaning your plate anymore.

Corinne:

Most of us are eating emotionally, where you’re eating because it tastes so good. That’s an emotional eat. We’re just sitting there enjoying the fuck out of the food instead of thinking about, “Oh wait, has my body physically enjoyed the food enough at this point?” We’re also not going to clean our plates because we’re just used to what we’ve been served. We’re not going to be apathetic about eating. In the beginning, a lot of people get all hosed up and say, “Well, Corinne, I don’t like wasting food. I grew up poor. I grew up with my parents telling me all these things. I think wasting food is send for blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.”

Corinne:

And I’m like, “What the fuck are you even talking about?” You know what is wasteful every day that you hope and dream that you can lose weight and you don’t go after it because you put too many spoonfuls of mac and cheese on your damn plate when you served yourself, that’s wasteful. If you’ve got food on your plate and your body has physically had enough, it is time to either throw it out or save it for tomorrow.

Corinne:

In the short run, what ends up happening is you feel like you’re wasting food, but that’s not the truth. You are learning how to set yourself up to save money in the future. That’s what’s actually happening. After about a week of noticing, “Man, my body is physically done before my plate is done. Next week it’ll be a way easier for I would just serve myself less.” Then I don’t have to sit there and have some Godzilla battle in my head about cleaning my plate, wasting food. I cut all that bullshit drama out for myself. Guess what the other by-product of that is? The moment you start serving yourself less, you start noticing you should buy less at the damn grocery store. After a month of that, that grocery bill goes down. That is called extra cash in your pocket. When are thinking about, “I don’t have money to lose weight,” it’s like you ain’t got the cash to keep wasting on food that your body doesn’t need.

Corinne:

I just remember when I was overweight, I probably could have had 50 extra dollars a month rather than just $25 extra a month if I had have just cut out all of my bullshit eating. I can’t tell you how many rolls of cookie dough I bought every single week at the grocery store knowing I was never going to eat cookie dough in one moment when I was truly hungry, and I was never going to start sitting there eating some raw cookie dough from the freezer section only til I’ve had enough.

Kathy Hartman:

I think about you in the ice cream too, eating a carton of ice cream. How many cartons of ice cream do you think you ate before you started losing weight? In today’s dollars, that’s like $5 a carton, right? And if you went through 30 a week, that’s 15 bucks a week.

Corinne:

I love it when people get on their high horse about how they can’t afford to lose weight, and yet they’ve got Cheetos and Oreos, ding dongs, ice cream, all this other shit that they eat when they feel bad. If I ask these same people and said, “I tell you what, why don’t you just do crack or heroin. Do something that’s going to make you feel good?” “I ain’t got money to spend on all those drugs, and those are dangerous and blah, blah, blah, blah.” We always have this idea that that is so bad. It’s like well, why don’t we just sit around and think about, “Wait, if I’m having a bad day, if I wouldn’t turn to a crack vial or snort a line of coke, why do I think scarfing down a sleeve of Oreos is so much better, not a waste of money.”

Corinne:

This is the thing that we have to think about. Guys, we got to quit thinking old school when it comes to weight loss. I am not sitting here and telling all of you that you can not have asked cream and you can not have cookie dough and you can’t have those things. You can have all of that stuff, but don’t tell me you ain’t got money to lose weight, to join my program or whatever when you sure keep prioritizing all of this food that you know you have a struggle time with. I would invest in a program like mine that helps you have those foods in a way that you’re in control and that you’re not eating because you had a fucking bad day, because you’re stressed out, because you don’t love yourself. There was not one roll of cookie dough that I ever ate from love.

Corinne:

Every single one of them I ate because I did not know how to love myself. When was by myself and lonely and my friends were off doing their… all my girlfriends were off on dates and I didn’t have a man and I was overweight, I ate cookie dough to compensate. I could have stuck that money in the bank and save that shit and went to work on telling myself “I can invest in me right now by changing how I think about myself.” There was a thousand other things I could have been doing, whether I paid money for a diet or not, but I just kept telling myself this lie, I couldn’t afford to lose weight, I was too broke. That never helped me address my real issues. All of us can afford to lose weight. If we can listen to a podcast, I know that you’ve got a computer or a phone.

Corinne:

We can do what we think we can do, and we won’t do what we think we can’t. No more using money as a bullshit excuse. If you don’t legit have the cash to join No BS, then don’t sit there and tell yourself that you can’t lose weight because you ain’t got the money. Say, “I’m going to figure it out, bitch has got a ton of free content. The price I will pay, it’s sorting through it because I’m too damn determined to figure out my life, and I’m too sick and tired of sitting around, coming up with excuse after excuse on how to kick the can down the road on doing something I’ve always dreamed of.” I think it’s important.

Corinne:

The other thing that comes up too, is like my mother… most of you probably listened to the podcast that my mom and I did together. If you didn’t, go back a few episodes, listen to the podcast where my mom has lost weight. So many of my clients… I have so many clients over the age of 60 who wrote themselves off, who were on all kinds of drugs to compensate for their emotional eating, basically a lifetime of not knowing how to love themselves, not knowing how to challenge themselves, the diet industry not teaching them how to have a real life while also being able to keep your weight in check. All of those things brings a lot of 60 year olds to me. And I think it’s also because of cuss. I think my 60 olds love my [inaudible 00:11:34] mouth.

Kathy Hartman:

Probably.

Corinne:

I can’t wait to say what I’m like at 60.

Kathy Hartman:

I can [inaudible 00:11:41].

Corinne:

[inaudible 00:11:41] I’m mouthy and pissy now, wait until I’m 60, because the older I get, my give a fuck lowers. I’m going to be at can’t give a zero fuck for anything by the time I’m 60. I think that’s why so many women in their sixties come to me because they’re just like, “I just want you to tell me like it is, I don’t want no bullshit anymore.” But a lot of my women who have struggled with their weight all their life who happened to be in their sixties, it’s a stretch to join our membership because they pay 200 to 300 bucks a month in meds.

Corinne:

My mom was talking about one of the best side effects of just listening to the podcasts, doing the things that I say inside the membership. She’s cut her blood pressure down to almost where it’s gone. She’s practically been on blood pressure most of her life. They keep having to lower it because it’s making her dizzy, because her blood pressure’s coming down from her weight loss. They told her that if her numbers stay the same, she will be off her diabetes medicine next to visit. She is finally off of all of her heartburn stuff. Then they didn’t have to take something over-the-counter. Over time, she just noticed, and then her doctor said, “You’re not having symptoms. Don’t take it anymore.” She’s saving money on that.

Corinne:

I think that’s one of the other areas that we don’t even look at, it’s like, how can we afford not to lose our weight? We’re spending so much money in extra food. We’re spending so much money on drugs and stuff to compensate, to keep all that extra food spending that we don’t even need.

Kathy Hartman:

Let’s talk about Starbucks for a minute.

Corinne:

I’ve got to watch the video. [Kathy’s 00:13:46] hilarious. She comes in like [inaudible 00:13:48], ready to go.

Kathy Hartman:

I just did some math on Starbucks. I was that girl who drove through Starbucks everyday on my way to work, $5 a day, right? $5 a day, five days a week. Let’s say 50 weeks a year. We’ll give you two weeks off.

Corinne:

But you were on vacation those weeks, and you didn’t need your cup of courage to go to work.

Kathy Hartman:

Right. That’s $1,250 in a year’s time, $1,250 with Starbucks.

Corinne:

That is so insane. Somebody might say, “Well, I don’t do Starbucks every day,” but if I would bet, I’m just going on my past experience. I remember when I worked at the old Shoney’s corporate offices on Elm Hill Pke back in the day, there was this… they built a gas station across the street that had a full on, it was all the food, they had hot chicken tenders, they had a full on sugar filled cappuccino machine, they had everything that you would delight in for an afternoon snack when you’re bored as fuck at work, it was paradise. We would every day, my two girlfriends that I worked with, we couldn’t wait for three o’clock every day because we would go to the gas station and we would just get a bunch of junk.

Corinne:

Sometimes I’d get chicken tenders and milk duds. I’m not joking. Or I would get a loaded cappuccino and a bag of chips, just all kinds of shit. I would spend about $3 a day, but it never felt wasteful to me. I never even considered that that $3 a day, I couldn’t afford it to me. That was just necessary spending. It was food. I just remember how much food are wasted or how much money I wasted on little bullshit. There’s hardly anybody probably listening to this that can’t sit there and mentally calculate horse shit they throw in the basket when they go to the Kroger each week, they’re like, “Oh, let me just grab this one. Let me just grab this one.” A little extra, if you’re going out to eat and you’re like, “Well, a little, this one won’t hurt,” and you just order something extra. The Starbucks, the vending machines.

Kathy Hartman:

I was going to say the vending machine. I’ve got to tell you about this client that I coached once upon a time, we had to put on her plan three vending machine items every day. Right there, and if she got a Coke, there’s five bucks. [inaudible 00:16:32] anyway.

Corinne:

It ain’t like it was 50 cents like it was back in the day.

Kathy Hartman:

Right. I haven’t seen a 50 cent snicker bar in a long time.

Corinne:

Well, this is what always shocks me usually if I’m in an airport or something, I’m like, “Yeah, we have arrived at the land of temptation when all you got to do is swipe a credit card.” I remember vending machines, you actually had to have cash. Cash was required for the transaction. Then finally, Coke and vending machines got smart and said, “We should take credit cards, then we can raise the price.” Because if you think about vending machines, because they operate on quarters and stuff so much, they had to price things at a way that they could give change. Now they can price whatever they want. They can have all the markup that they want because they know we have credit cards in hand. It’s just so easy to swap it and you can have anything you want at any moment. But this is why this is so important for us to realize all these things.

Corinne:

It’s like thinking about when it comes to the money aspect of it, just ask yourself, “I’m going to track one week just the extra food, just my extras, little things that I buy, little things that I do. I just wonder how much money I am spending,” because I guarantee you the extras that we buy the little… “I’m just going to McDonald’s even though I’ve got healthy food at home or even though I’ve got food to cook at home, I’m tired.” You stop by McDonald’s and buy food. That’s your extra. I want you to think about, if you solved your emotional eats, your board eats, it’s just fun. If you got rid of all of that, that you’re paying for. Add that up for a week or two. Just see, “How much is me telling myself ‘I can’t afford to lose weight right now’ truly costing me.” How much did you say Starbucks, five bucks a day, girl, just Monday through Friday?

Kathy Hartman:

$1, 250.

Corinne:

$1, 250. Do you don’t how much it costs to be a No BS member, start to finish, one full year?

Kathy Hartman:

Do you?

Corinne:

I think it’s $888.

Kathy Hartman:

Okay.

Corinne:

So you’re already saving money if I get your ass out of Starbucks. That’s all you guys need to know. All right.

Kathy Hartman:

Let me tell you one other thing, one other way that I see myself right now wasting money with food, and that is I buy the food for the week and then I decide I’m too tired to cook, so I order in the Uber Eats or the DoorDash or the something like that.

Corinne:

I would like to take responsibility for Kathy and her new Uber Eats or DoorDash problems because Chris and I fell in love with it through the COVID. We couldn’t go out for date night, then we would just have our date night food brought in. We were just like, “All right, well, we’ll just have it brought to us. That’ll be amazing.” Then I told Kathy one day about how she was ridiculous and that she needs to figure this out.

Kathy Hartman:

I’m going to tell you, I’m going to have to watch myself because 30 bucks brings in a meal, a cheap meal, if we’re splitting something. I’ve already got the stuff in the fridge to fix that I have to throw away because it’s fresh foods.

Corinne:

Well, I’ve been trying to get you on the cook it all on Sunday bandwagon forever. Maybe this will help you cook a few extra meals so that you’re only cooking on the nights you truly would want to.

Kathy Hartman:

You know I’m a tightwad, so that probably would help.

Corinne:

I mean, it’s so funny. I always feel I’m the tightwad in this family. I mean, Chris grew up… he grew up not with a lot of money either, but I definitely am the one that still is like, “How much does that cost? Are you sure?” I’m more the hawk of the family when it comes to that stuff. But we do do some of the delivery stuff, but not at the expense… I will say we are so good at doing it not at the expense of Corinne’s not cooking. One of the things that I’m real good about is I know I’m not going to cook. That is just something that I agreed that I stopped doing about a year ago. I have my sister-in-law prep our food. I decided I had prepped food for about… I think it was 13 or 14 years, and I would do a big one every Sunday and I would cook everything we were going to eat for the week, and I did that. Now I just give it to my sister-in-law to do it.

Corinne:

But I made that trade because number one, I wanted to spend more time working. I was a good prepper, so I could prep all of our meals and we all three eight different meals. Nobody eats the same in my house still. I was able to prep everything, including going to the grocery store in under five hours. That was, make a list, go to the store, get the shit, come home, cook it, prep it, store it. But that was a lot of practice, and I got to where within five hours I could do it. I did love it for many years. It saved us so much money because we weren’t at the whim of my tired ass on a Wednesday night who didn’t want to cook the food after a long day.

Corinne:

But then after a while, I decided I wanted my sister-in-law to do it, so that on Sundays I could do calls and stuff for my members because I have members all over the world, and we like to have calls at different times, on different days to fit a lot of different schedules. It’s worked really well, but we don’t order food unless we’re out, I mean, it’s like we have nothing left. I’m at the tail end of my food, she brings food on Sunday. I’ve already run out of my… last night was the last dinner that I had. We’re going to order the Subway tonight. You know me, I love my subway.

Kathy Hartman:

[inaudible 00:22:44].

Corinne:

I’m ordering the Subway. We’re going to do that, but they’re going to bring that to us. We’re not going out. we’re going to stay in. But anyway, it’s just really important to be looking at all the different ways. I think a lot of times we think that we’re going to be throwing money away on weight loss, and I just want you guys to challenge that. I promise when you work with me, here’s what you’re not doing, you’re not going to be doing what you would normally… I know a lot of us have passed diet trauma when it comes to buying a program, because you’re not really buying what’s really broken. You’re not buying the solution for that part. What we teach is very different. We teach how do you… I was coaching someone today on stress, and what she was noticing, she’s a member, is that for the last week, she has been just eating her face off everyday after work.

Corinne:

For a while, she was able to not eat after work because she had a plan and her mind was very excited about having a plan, very excited about being an [inaudible 00:23:54] woman, so her brain was really focused on that. But then after a while, newness wears off on things. When she noticed that her overeats in the afternoon picks back up, she noticed that she was… I was asking her, “What’s going on?” She said, “Well, I’m just so stressed. Work stresses me out.” One of the things that we do is we don’t just give you “well, here’s what you can eat at four o’clock because you are stressed.” What we do that’s very different is we start looking at your life and start teaching you why are you stressed to begin with?

Corinne:

A lot of women are walking around in jobs and careers where all day long, they are people pleasing. They are worrying what people think about their work. They are worrying about if they’re going to get paid the same as a man. They are sitting around doing projects and questioning if they’re smart enough, and so they’re double checking, triple checking things, pushing sand, and then worrying about what people will think about it. Then when they start worrying about what people think about it, their brain assumes it’s probably going to be wrong, you’re not good enough. We sit around all day long stressing the fuck out of ourselves.

Corinne:

Then the diet industry says, “I have the solve. I’ve got a sleeve of Snackwells you should eat instead of Oreos at four o’clock and you’ll lose weight.” This is what the diet industry just said, “Hey, I have a product so that you can keep your emotional eating because you should just remain stressed out, people-pleasing show all day long, but you’ll be 150 pounds.”

Kathy Hartman:

It tastes amazing.

Corinne:

Yeah, but this is the problem. It’s like every one of you listening to me, none of you are thinking, “I would love to lose my weight and weigh 150 pounds and still be a stressed out people-pleasing bitch all day long.” No scale, number or size in your pants is going to feel so good that for the rest of your life, you are willing to between 8:00 and 5:00, hate yourself in life. You’re not going to be sitting there with that project and be like, “My first round was good enough because now I weigh 150 pounds. I no longer need to worry about pushing sand.”

Corinne:

None of that stuff gets fixed with weight loss the way we’ve traditionally done it. But this is where we come in. We teach you how to actually have a life between 8:00 and 5:00 that’s not full of people pleasing, that builds your self worth and unwind years and years and years of conditioning that you have deep down inside you. You take all that away, guess what? At five o’clock, you’re not searching for Oreos to feel better. You’re walking out the door with your head held high and proud of yourself. That’s the difference. We have to get over this shit that “I can’t afford to lose weight right now.” You can’t afford to not get yourself in check. And I don’t mean just your weight. Can’t afford to keep sitting around, eating through life or trying to lose weight all of your life in hopes that that is the solution for your emotional issues.

Corinne:

All right, number two, [inaudible 00:27:47] we could have just done that one on its own.

Kathy Hartman:

Well, I was sitting here thinking, “Is she going to remember we’re going to talk about time too?”

Corinne:

I’m just on a roll, Kathy. Number two is “I don’t have time.” Now, I get this. I get that a lot of us are pulled in a lot of directions and we got a lot going on and all this other kind of stuff. Any weight loss program that requires you to make a huge investment in time, you probably should walk away. Here’s how it works at my program. We start giving time back to you because we go to work on you no longer wasting time thinking that you can’t lose weight, wasting time overeating because you can’t handle your life, wasting your time snacking all not long after eight o’clock and not truly relaxing because all night long, you felt pulled in a thousand directions and you didn’t know how to say no.

Corinne:

One of the things that I want you guys to no longer waste time on is standing around eating because you don’t know what to do with yourself. I want you to have that time back. I don’t want you ever sitting around wishing, hoping, and pining you could finally lose weight and sitting there beating yourself up because you haven’t yet. All of you have time to lose weight. All of you have time to invest in yourselves. All of you have the time to do what it takes. When you’re not over 80, you’ve got time back, time that you could be doing something bigger with your life, time that you could be relaxing when you say you don’t have time to relax. You also have eight hours a day that you sleep, hopefully, if you’re doing my basics. You have eight hours a day that you probably work, and then you’ve got eight more hours every single day that’s spent thinking, overthinking, perfectionising, that’s not really a word, but we’re going to [inaudible 00:30:24].

Kathy Hartman:

Perfectionising.

Corinne:

[inaudible 00:30:24]. I try to figure out a way to do it, but it’s like perfectionising, we should just make that a new No BS woman word.

Kathy Hartman:

If you say confused?

Corinne:

Confused about why you ain’t got your shit together. I love that. Wondering what’s our purpose, hiding from the world. Let’s not spend those extra eight hours we all have every single day doing that shit anymore. What if we spent the amount of time that we’re worrying what people think, worrying if we can lose weight, doubting ourselves, wondering if this would work, if you took the collection of the time you spend there mentally, and you applied it to being a member, push and play on the No BS video, listening to me tell you the God’s honest truth about how are we going to do this and how are we going to change our lives, if you spent that much time, you would find that you have more time in your life to do things you really want to be doing.

Corinne:

We all have time to lose weight. It’s bullshit when we say we don’t have time. The real question is, where do you want to spend your time? That’s the real thing. Now, I make it as easy as possible inside my membership for people to be able to do my program the way it fits in their life. We have three kinds of women. We have women that come in who are like, “I am a bottom line bitch. I don’t need to listen to every word that comes out of your mouth, Corinne. I just need to listen to what I need to hear.” That’s why we have the No BS Weightloss course. And we’re like, “Don’t do the Facebook group. Don’t come to live calls. Don’t do any of that shit. You listen to these videos.” And over the course of a month, if you spend about 10 minutes a day listening, you’ll have them done, and you will have become a new person by the end of it.

Corinne:

If you spend five minutes a day writing down your food, assessing your food, and I ask you hard-ass questions like, “What do you lack about yourself today? Why are your goals important to you today?” My job is to save you time so. That you aren’t out there spinning your wheels, fucking restricted and depriving one more time, doing that last supper dance every Sunday. I was just telling somebody the other day, I said, “God, you all act like you are Jesus’ best friend, and every single week, you do a last supper in his honor.” We got to quit doing like this. No more wasting time having a last supper, then cleaning out the house, redoing everything, Monday through Friday, depriving yourself only to show up on Friday night, starting all over with like, “I just need a break from this horseshit that I just did.” Then spending half a Saturday research a new one.

Corinne:

We waste so much time when it comes to weight loss, it’s unbelievable. But we don’t count that stuff. We’re just all worried about, “Well, when I start, I won’t have enough time to dedicate to it.” The last time I checked, when you stop overeating, you just got time back. We got to learn that part. Now I also have what we call our moderation mamas, and we teach you all of this on there. We teach you from the moment you join, pick a horse and get on it. Are you going to be a basic bitch and just do these things? Let’s do that. Are you going to be a moderation mama? Are you going to sprinkle in a few replays?

Corinne:

We give you a private member podcast. If it’s easy to listen to me right now, guess what? We have a private member podcast that everything that we give our members, we give it to you beautifully packaged to be able to carry around with your ass and listen anywhere you go. If you would like to listen to me all the fucking time, then you get to be a deep dive diva. Trust me, we got plenty of recordings. We will keep your ass busy as long as you want to be busy.

Corinne:

But the beautiful thing is, is when it comes to times, you get to pick, you get to pick what’s right for you. But we have to quit telling ourselves that we don’t have the time and we don’t have the money to lose weight. You can’t afford to keep putting your dreams on hold. You don’t have the time to waste worrying, beating yourself up depriving and restricting and acting like an asshole to yourself day in and day out anymore. One day, we’re all going to run out of time, really going to run out of time.

Kathy Hartman:

Do you ever have those thoughts like, I don’t know. Let’s say you mope around for an… maybe you don’t mope. I mope around an hour. [inaudible 00:35:38] the clock.

Corinne:

Chris is more angry.

Kathy Hartman:

Yeah. All right, so you get angry for an hour and you… whatever. Do you ever look at the clock and you think, “Well, that’s an hour I’ll never get back.”

Corinne:

I will tell you, I have done that. I think this was last week. I don’t even remember. You know how life is, it’s like in the moment… I just remember there was something that happened last week where I was just so pissed, I was angry half the day, yelled at Chris, which is lie shit. Of course, now it’s a week later and I’m like, “Well, I couldn’t even tell you what the hell I was angry about.” But in the moment, it was epic important. It was like life altering and all the things should change. Well, the other the day when I basically ran out of steam on it and I figured out that it wasn’t as bad as I was making it out to be and stuff, I remember literally sitting there going, “Self, you need to learn a lesson. That’s a half a day that you just spent angry that you’re never getting back.” I didn’t say it in a demeaning way. I wanted my self to know it.

Corinne:

We need to remember this because another day is coming where you’re going to want to be angry about something. And Kathy, it isn’t like Kathy’s not going to want to mope ever again, where it’s like, “Well, I learned my lesson.” We never learn our lessons, but what we do is we get better and better at recognizing when it’s going to happen, and when we start feeling ourselves moping, seeing ourselves moping, feeling ourselves angry and stuff, we give ourselves an option to be like, “The last time you said you didn’t want to do this. Last time you said it wasn’t worth it. You didn’t even remember week later what the fucking problem was. At the end of your life, is it worth it to spend this many hours of all you got on it?”

Corinne:

For me, that’s so helpful. For some people, if it’s not, guys, and here’s how if that’s helpful or not, if it doesn’t feel good to you, that’s not a helpful conversation. For me though, it’s always a conversation with myself that gives me pause and awareness. Sometimes awareness doesn’t feel real lovey-dovey, but it’s some of the most compassionate things we can do for ourselves. It’s just giving ourselves pause and honesty. But yeah, I catch myself doing shit like that and thinking, “Well, that was a half a day you’re getting back.”

Kathy Hartman:

Lisa Smith, our friend Lisa Smith told me one time that time-

Corinne:

[inaudible 00:38:22] for everybody.

Kathy Hartman:

Peaceful parent, that’s right. That time is my most valuable asset because it’s something I’ll use and never be able to generate any more of, there’s a finite amount of it. If you think about it, if you think about your time in terms of your most valuable asset, it really starts you thinking about “how do I want to spend that time? Do I want to spend it at the countertop stuffing Oreos in my face after a bad day? Do I want to spend it listening to Corrine on a No BS podcast?” How do you ultimately want to spend that time, that most valuable asset that you have?

Corinne:

Yeah, no, I think it’s good. I think it’s really good for us to think about those things, because… I think we just have to quit making excuses to not go and do the things that we most want. I Know for me, there were so many times that I wanted to give up on weight loss, that I just wanted to be like, “I’m probably never going to be able to lose weight, blah, blah, blah.” There was something deep down in me that just said, “No, you really want it.” You may not believe you can do it, you may not think you have the skills, you may think it can never happen for you.” There were all these things that I would not believe in, but the desire never went away.

Corinne:

When you have a desire that keeps coming back and knocking on the door, that means that it may be a whisper and it may be the smallest part of you, but it’s that smallest part of you that saying, “But what if we could? What if we can?” As humans, that’s why we keep coming back and we keep trying over and over and over again. I tell people all the time, “I am so glad I’ve never gave up.” It would have been so simple to never have tried again. I did not know this time it was going to work. I had all the doubts, all the excuses, all the reasons to do nothing, but that desire just kept coming back. And I’m glad I listened because it just happened to be the one time some shit was going to click.

Corinne:

I didn’t know. I just didn’t need to know all that. I think that’s the other thing that I want you guys to quit wasting time on, which is, “But I don’t feel good about it yet. I don’t feel sure yet. I don’t believe in myself yet.” You don’t need to yet. All you need to do is believe that “tomorrow, I can do a little better than today.” You just need to believe in little things to do open the door that believing is okay. You don’t have to believe that you’ll lose all of your weight on day one, but you can for sure believe you can push play on the first video. That is an easy place to practice belief.

Corinne:

It’s like those are the things that we have to quit wasting our time on, waiting around, to feel good and motivated and excited. Look, here’s the cold, hard truth; all of us that have suffered with weight for most of our lives, that’s not going to be step one. Step one is scared as fuck, doubting all the way, wondered if it’ll work. All of that is step one. Step two is do it anyway because we keep wanting it, and when we keep wanting it, we owe it to ourselves to never give up.

Kathy Hartman:

Okay.

Corinne:

Anything else Ms. Hartman?

Kathy Hartman:

No. You were on a roll today, so I stayed quiet on purpose because this time and money thing, I don’t know. Even after having lost my weight, I think a lot about time and money because you taught me that, I learned how to really hone in on how I wanted to spend my precious life resources. I think that’s just important. I think it’s an important message.

Corinne:

Yeah, I agree. Well, I’m glad that you liked the podcast. I think it’s a good one too.

Kathy Hartman:

Yeah.

Corinne:

All right, everybody. That’s it for today. We will see you next week.