You self-sabotage every time you start doing good. You lose weight, then quietly fall back into old habits and end up right where you started. So many women blame being too cocky or they got "too confident."

This episode is for the woman who's afraid to "feel too good" because it might blow everything. Corinne answers the question: can you really be too cocky? And the answer might surprise you because it goes against what you currently think.

Not only will you know if you can be too confident, but she'll show you what's REALLY happening and what to do about it. And then losing weight will be a lot easier.

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Hello, welcome back.

So today I want to talk about something a lot of women come to me believing, and it's this idea that they got too cocky and that is why they ended up not losing their weight, or that is the reason why they ended up regaining their weight.

So they'll say things like, I was doing so good, and then I got too confident, and that's what messed me up.

So today we're going to answer the question, can you really be too cocky when it comes to losing weight? Is that the reason why you end up regaining? Is it the reason why you end up messing things up?

Because I don't think it is, and I want to show you what's really going on.

So let me give you an example because I think this is going to sound very familiar to a lot of women.

A lot of women come to me and say, Corinne, I decided to lose weight, and this time I really thought it was it. When I got started, I was so committed and so excited.

So essentially, she's telling me she got her shit together. She had a start date. She was highly motivated and ready to go.

And doesn't that sound like a lot of us? When we make that decision, the moment we do, we start getting all our little duckies in a row, and we get really excited, and we give our best.

But then somewhere along the way, after doing really well for a few weeks, maybe even a few months, what the hell happens? Something ends up going wrong.

And then for some women, it's dramatic. It's like, oh God, I fucked up. It's all over. I eat my face off. I have done many episodes recently about that.

But for a lot of us, that is not what happens.

For a lot of us, when we're doing really well for a few weeks or a few months, we start feeling really proud. We start really believing that we're going to do it.

And you would think that that's a good thing. And I'm going to tell you right now, it is a good thing.

But here's what women tell me.

Somewhere along the way, I got too cocky.

As if you can be too confident, too proud of yourself, or believe in yourself too much.

Now, what I think she means when she says, I got too cocky, is she took her foot off the gas.

Like if you're driving your car, I want you to imagine you're in the driver's seat. If you take your foot off the gas, it's not like all at once you're like, and you come to a screeching halt.

When we take our foot off the gas, we start coasting, and slowly but surely, what happens? We slow down. We're not going as fast. And eventually, we will stop.

So I think what happens is when we keep telling the story that we get too cocky, and that we believe in ourselves, we end up equating that when I have success and I feel really good about how things are going or what all is happening, that somehow that's fucking up. I shouldn't feel those things.

And the really tricky thing about this is that usually we can't pinpoint the moment where we threw our hands up and quit.

It's like I was saying a minute ago, I've done a lot of podcasts where a lot of us, we can be perfectionists. So we know the moment we give up.

But when you are in cocky land, when you believe that somehow you can be too successful, feel too good about yourself, you can't pinpoint that moment because there was no moment.

When that foot comes off the gas, it feels like you're still working because you're still moving along.

The only thing that usually women will tell me that they can remember is she was doing really good. She felt really good about herself. Like this time it was all clicking.

And then it's like the next thing I know, I wake up one day and it's as if I'd never even started. The weight was coming back. The old habits were coming back. It was like little by little things were eroding.

And then one day she wakes up and realizes, oh my God, I've stopped. What the hell has happened? I was doing so good.

And that's when we blame being too cocky for all of it.

So if that sounds like you, this episode, I literally wanted to write it for you because I don't talk about this side, like this dark side of weight loss, very often.

So let's just answer the question. Can you be too cocky?

No, you can't.

Now, I know a lot of women are not used to feeling good about themselves. And so it feels gross or bragging or whatever.

But I'm telling you right now, you can't be too confident. You can't be too proud of yourself.

Every woman that comes to me and says that that can happen, I'm like, good fucking luck. You're usually the person who has the lowest self-esteem. It's really hard for you to believe in yourself and stuff.

And so it would make sense that the first time you start feeling good about yourself, if something goes wrong, that you blame it on that because your ass ain't used to it, okay?

So I'm telling you, you cannot be too confident. It is not going to hurt your weight loss.

I have never one time in my whole career of helping thousands of women lose weight every year had a woman come to me and say, you know how I lost all my weight and kept it off? Well, Corinne, I just decided not to believe in myself. I went down the rabbit hole of trying to figure out how to be not proud of myself. I did everything I could to feel like ass the entire time. And look, it worked.

No.

No woman ever tells me that.

So being confident, being proud of yourself, and believing in yourself, that is not what makes you regain your weight. It is not what breaks you. If anything, that is the stuff that helps you lose weight.

So if it wasn't the cockiness, if it wasn't confidence, if it wasn't feeling good, and I promise you it wasn't, then we have to look at what was actually going on because something did happen.

You're not making it up. Something has happened that had you start coasting and then eventually run out of gas.

So we do take our foot off the gas at times. We just have to figure out why that happens instead of blaming the wrong thing.

So here's what I think is really happening.

When you are proud and you are doing really well, all of that is true. We want to keep that.

But while you're out there doing so good, you are also hitting the points where the normal problems in weight loss are going to come up because they always do.

There are just going to be some times when you overeat. There are going to be times when you eat something that wasn't on your plan. You're going to have a rough night and go back for seconds when you should have been done with your firsts.

That is all very normal things that are going to happen when we're losing weight. And there's no version of you coming where that shit doesn't.

Now, the mistake is not those things happening, okay? I want to be really clear about that.

Overeating one night is not what wrecks your diet.

Here's what screws you up.

When you believe you just got too cocky, usually what we do is we just brush those moments right underneath the rug.

We say, oh, that's okay. I'm going to do better tomorrow because we're still living in our confident energy.

And I want you to have that thought. But what I want you to do is lose the that's okay part of it.

And it's not because it's not okay.

I want you to substitute, instead of, that's okay, we'll do better tomorrow, I want you to tell yourself, I bet there was a good reason for this, and I'm going to figure it out tomorrow so I can do better tomorrow.

That's the missing piece.

The missing piece is that you don't know how to do better tomorrow because you never looked at why you didn't do better in this moment.

You swept it under the rug and you just kept going.

And that right there is everything when it comes to losing weight. That's the real answer to, can you be too cocky?

It's never your confidence. It's not that you were so motivated, so excited, so locked in on sticking to your plan that when these little emotional eats started coming up, that you didn't stop and look at them.

That is our problem.

It's always, we miss out on looking at, like, there's always good reasons why these things happen.

And I want you to feel confident that you can find those reasons. I want you to be proud that you're looking for them.

And if you're just focused on, I gotta feel good to lose weight and nothing can go wrong, that's really hard to find.

So usually what ends up happening is you will be having moments where you're overeating. You will have moments where you're eating things that you shouldn't, all of that kind of stuff.

And when I say eating things you shouldn't, that's just code for saying, I planned to do this, and I did that. Because I don't really believe there are any foods that you should or shouldn't eat.

But the way that we say it on the inside, and how we talk about it often, is I ate something that I shouldn't. And it wasn't on my plan.

And when we sweep them under the rug and move on, we don't learn from them.

So if we don't solve these things, then what ends up happening is they end up coming back more and more and more because those things were not resolved.

And eventually enough of them are going to pile up. And it's going to feel like you're taking your foot off the gas, when really you just had a big stack of emotional eats that you didn't look at.

And so they just kept coming back, and you kept handling them the same way over and over again.

So for example, if you have a really bad day and you get really stressed, and the only time you ever really break your diet is after really tough days, if you don't learn how to either not have as tough of days or learn how to have a tough day, come home, and decompress in new ways, then all that's going to happen is you're just going to keep having that cycle over and over again where tough day comes, you eat, you sweep it under the rug, and you tell yourself, that's okay, I'll do better tomorrow.

But tomorrow, how do you do better?

Like, your real problem is you don't have a way to decompress.

Doing better tomorrow, it's not going to help you to just be more motivated, to try harder, to be more disciplined, especially if your problem is some days I get really stressed.

Well, you can't try harder because whatever stressed you out took all that away. You actually need ways to decompress, ways to make things easier on yourself so that food doesn't have to be the way that you make things easier.

So instead of passing over all these kinds of moments, what we have to get good at is the exact opposite.

When you take your foot off the gas, the question becomes, why am I taking my foot off the gas?

So we have to catch all of our little emotional eats and look at them.

And that is the skill that changes everything. It's the one thing the woman who blames her cockiness never really does.

So let me give you another really good example because I see this all the time.

A woman will do really well for a few weeks, and the scale is going down. One day she gets on, it's down two pounds, and she's super excited.

And all of a sudden she thinks, you know what? I deserve a night off. I'm going to eat something I really want.

Now, there's nothing wrong with eating something you really want. You know me, I teach you to lose weight eating the food you like because we're going to lose weight the way we're going to live the rest of our life.

But if every single time the scale goes down, you eat over it, we need to look at why that is happening.

Just like we have to look at, why am I ending stressful days with eating?

So there are two really common reasons why this ends up happening.

The first one, maybe you grew up in a house where when good things happened, you got straight A's, you did well on a test, you won a game. What happened? Your parents took you out to eat, or they took you for ice cream. You got something you rarely got.

So somewhere back there, your brain tied success to eating.

And now, in order to lose weight, we have to untie that. We have to untie that success and eating go together.

We don't want to celebrate success with food anymore. We want to tie success to something else in our adult life.

And maybe that is the way you talk to yourself. Maybe you want to treat yourself to things in a new way when you've had success.

We just want to make sure that we're tying it to something that's going to be beneficial.

But you can't change that if you never stop to notice that you're doing it. You'll just keep eating every time the scale's nice to you and call it getting cocky with your weight loss.

Now, the second one is even similar in this situation.

Anytime you think you need a break from your diet, that doesn't always mean the diet's too hard.

A better question is, what do I actually need a break from?

But here's what I see a lot of women will say. Even when they're doing the simplest shit that I teach, they talk so hard to themselves the whole time.

You sit down to eat your lunch, and the whole time you're thinking, I wonder if this is a good choice. I hope I don't overeat. I hope the scale moves this week.

You're living on the edge through every single meal. So by the time the scale finally pays off and you're so proud that you lost weight, immediately you're relieved that you didn't gain weight, that you didn't screw things up.

So what you really want is relief from how hard you're talking to yourself.

So you don't need a break from necessarily the diet and the food. You need a break from the way you're thinking about food all the time.

And again, you're never going to catch that if you keep blaming that you can get too cocky and too confident in your weight loss.

So here's what I want you to take away from today's episode.

If you're the woman who does really good and then you take your foot off the gas, and you've been telling yourself it's because you just got too cocky, I want you to say, that is no longer a thing.

You cannot be too confident. You cannot believe in yourself too much. And you cannot be too successful.

You have to retrain yourself that it was never cockiness that gets you off track because you do not want to create a fear.

Just think about it. It's harder to start the next time when you want to lose weight if the last time you blamed it on feeling too good.

Because then that means the answer this time is, I need to go sign up for my next diet where I'm going to have to feel really bad in order to be successful.

Y'all wonder why sometimes you don't want to get started. This is one of them.

You need to be paying attention to shit like this.

I promise you there's no such thing as being too confident to lose weight.

What actually happened is you were doing so well and you were so motivated that you probably stopped looking at the little stuff.

There may be reasons why you didn't want to look at those little things. Like maybe you would be ashamed. Maybe you would feel bad. Maybe you just were like, I'm just going to push through.

Whatever those were, this time we want to get really good at believing.

Number one, I get to feel good while I lose weight.

Number two, I get to be very proud while I'm losing weight. Those are not bad things.

And number three, I'm going to get really good at noticing the little things that I don't do and figuring out why that is happening.

Because we want to find the emotional eats that come up. We don't want to be sweeping them under the rug. We don't want to be trying to try harder the next day when the answer isn't that we need to try harder.

We need to try differently.

We need to fix the things that are causing us to get off plan.

So the fix is never to be less confident. God, please don't do that.

The fix is to stay just as proud of yourself, but get really good at the part that you've been skipping.

Get really good at looking for all the little things when you're off track and figuring out why they're happening so you can solve what's going on deep down.

You want to know, why did I eat in that moment when food probably wasn't what I needed?

That is a very powerful question to ask yourself.

And I will just be honest. Sometimes it's really hard to find out those reasons.

And that's why you can think about getting on the wait list for No BS. That's why you might want to work with me and my coaches because we're really good at fixing those things.

Not only can we spot them, we can help you identify them, but we also are the fixers.

So that's what I want you doing.

I never want you white-knuckling another diet again. I never want you believing that you have to be humble in your weight loss, that you don't get to believe in yourself, that you don't get to be confident, that all of that's dangerous and risky because it's not.

It is the exact fuel that you need to lose your weight for the last damn time.

All right, everybody, I'll talk to you next week.