Podcast 152. Emotional Eating You Might Be Missing.
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Most people believe emotional eaters are the people who are sad and watching tv in bed while eating all the food.
The definition of emotional eating is a tendency to eat in response to a positive or negative emotion. Most people are emotionally eating.
Most people don’t know how to spot it. The best way to navigate it is to start with the ones where you are eating like an asshole for the little reasons.
When you clean up the small things you’re doing, you start feeling better and losing more weight. Then you start getting more momentum and it starts feeling easier.
You are not broken, even if you keep describing yourself that way. You can clean up most of your emotional eating on your own. Don’t get stuck in a lie that emotional eating is all that you have.
When Corinne weighed 250 pounds, her life was so heavy, not just because of the weight. She went from someone that worked full-time, to a stay at home mom with a baby that didn’t sleep. She was eating to escape all of it. She thought she’d never be good enough.
Kathy wasn’t heavy and depressed, she was just ignoring life. She didn’t look in the mirror and wore big, baggy clothes. She was apathetic and chose not to feel.
Corinne realized that when she was going to lose weight, she had to do it simply. She’d tried the complicated diets. She didn’t set big goals. She knew she was going to figure it out and tried to figure out what teeny little thing she could do each day that was better than the previous day.
She started by adding water. Hydration helps you to not feel as tired.
She also started prioritizing sleep.
She didn’t want to be counting calories and got very good at waiting to eat when she was hungry and stopping when she was full.
The last thing she did was to start journaling and planning her food for the week.
There is a fifth basic, but you have to become a member to find out what it is. 😉
Corinne designed this program because the four basics help to trigger where your emotional eating might be sneaking in. Without emotional eating, the four basics work just fine. The hard part is when you don’t want to stop eating when something is good, but you’re full. The hard part is when you have a plan for the day and someone brings in Mexican food for lunch at work.
Any diet plan will work, but other plans don’t teach you how to deal with the emotional impact. The reason Corinne always rants about keto is because it doesn’t teach you how to deal with how to not overeat at a party or after you’ve had a bad day.
Some people emotionally eat because they don’t like feeling wasteful. They plan their food and eat all of it without listening to whether they are satisfied or not. At some point, you’ll need less food and will need to throw some of it away or serve yourself less of it.
Other people just want to feel full. They feel like they don’t get what they want if they only eat to satisfied. Real deprivation is not hitting your dream of losing weight. Eating till satisfied is not real deprivation.
People want to have a good time, so they eat. If going out to eat is the only way you have a good time, it might be worth questioning what’s missing in your life that makes you feel like you have to eat to have a good time. Be truthful, it’s not the food that is making you have a good time. The food is turning off thoughts about you or thoughts you think other people are having about you.
Corinne used to think that she had to go out and have a couple of drinks in order to connect with her husband, but she no longer tells herself that story. She realized that she loves him and she has loving thoughts about him. She thinks about all of the amazing things he does. That helps her to connect with him. She can go and have drinks, but she does not make the marriage about the drinks.
Kathy has friends that they go out with and they always check out a new restaurant. She still catches herself having thoughts about what people will think if she doesn’t have dessert or fighting with herself to stop at her +2 when something is good. The thoughts still happen, but now she hears them and stops and evaluates.
Corinne said that she’s gotten so much better at not having f’it moments and eating all the things. She still has to work at grab-assing.
It’s amazing how many people don’t lose weight because of a few extra bites here and there all week long.
Some people feel like they need a snack in the afternoon because they’re tired or they use it as a motivator to finish their work. It is reward eating. If you’re not hungry, go and sit and relax, don’t get a snack.
Corinne has members who will eat due to a lack of patience. They’ll snack while making dinner because they just couldn’t wait the 20 minutes till the food was ready.
In order to get past the emotional eating, do the four basics. It’s okay to make mistakes because that shows you what you need to work on. You can do it, you just have to find everything that trips you up, figure out why you’re doing it, and create solutions. Keep doing the basics and create processes to help you work through the things that are tripping you up (overeating when out with friends, eating while cooking, using food as a motivator). Be patient and keep repeating until it’s working and getting better.
Stop the asshole eating. Don’t eat to fit in. Don’t clean your plate if you’re full. Don’t eat because you’re worried about what someone else will think of you. Do better for yourself. Stop being an asshole to yourself.
Corinne’s next membership opening will be from April 1st-3rd. Sign-up for her free weightloss course at www.pnp411.com to get on her email list to get notified when membership is open. She’ll offer a couple of trainings the week of the opening, so make sure you’re on her email list to get access to the trainings. It’s a shorter opening this time and you don’t want to miss it!
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